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eh, I've raised my boys alone...I never get a pat on the shoulder for it.
I took it on and I deal with, that's what were supposed to do. It is what it is Were not special..are kids sure are though. 
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Very proud dad of twin 3rd graders
very intelligent and humourous sharp witted and pranksters Love them to bits I take care of them like a mum should and talk to them like a dad must Have a brilliant relationship with them but their mother thinks I am bad influence. That is because I am bringing them up as English gentlemen |
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its also a beautiful thing when a mother or so called mother pays child support. its for the kids ya know Are there women out there that actually pay child support? I have had custody of my three children since October 1999, and I have never received a penny of child support, and dont really care as long as she maintains her current state of involvement (or lack of) in my childrens lives. |
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its also a beautiful thing when a mother or so called mother pays child support. its for the kids ya know Are there women out there that actually pay child support? I have had custody of my three children since October 1999, and I have never received a penny of child support, and dont really care as long as she maintains her current state of involvement (or lack of) in my childrens lives. I can honestly say that I do a few women who do pay support for their children, but if I wanted to be petty I could turn your question around and ask the same about men because of my ex and his lack of payment. They are ex's for a reason and this is just one more reason to put on the list. Good luck to you and your children. 
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I'm a stand up father...dad...and I'm not even gonna talk about my ex wifes refusal to pay child support to me  I'm proud to have custody and do it all Great thinking :) |
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My 18 yr old moved in with me this month because she wants to spend time with me before she moves away to go to school.
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I'm not a parent, I probably shouldn't be in here, but I like looking around and seeing what other parents have to say about a lot of issues, and this one stuck out to me. I definitely agree though, way to go to all you stand-up dads out there. As someone here said, anyone can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. Take it from the perspective of a 19 year old male, I admire all you dads out there who love and respect your children, who take personal time to talk with them, get to know them and become a friend as well as a father to them. Take it from someone who never knew what that kind of person was like. I grew up around a father who cared more about watching television and playing on the internet than actually listening to my stories. A father who never asked me about school, never cared about who my friends were, or ever talked to me about anything in general. A man who only served to give me a place to stay, food, and a car to drive, who, I will admit, he did spend a lot of money to try to put me through college and I do gratefully appreciate all he's done for me with that and all. But when you're own father trash talks about your own friend's when they're in the same room, when you're own father yells at you after you get home from your best friend's funeral [who was only 17 when he passed], when you're own father screams and yells at you for being incompetent, who puts his hands on you and chokes you into the couch, who assumes that if nothing else, his own son is some sort of mental case, or is on drugs. Talk about a father who disowns you from his family, kicks you out of the house for not having a job and telling the neighbors around him that his 'son' smokes Meth, then proceeds to act a teenager and write crude things on his Myspace page because he knows I would see them. To all you dad's out there, don't ever be like my father. I beg of you, listen and talk to your child[ren]. Not only are you doing them a favor by being a parent, you're doing them a favor by being a friend, someone they can look up to and count on. Unlike me, who has no one in my family anymore, no one now but my mother and two sisters. I just thought I would share...let you see the perspective of a 19 year old gay male who had to hide from his own father, because he would tease, humiliate, and flat-out hate me, for who I am and what I believe. I have not seen the man in over a year now; the last thing he ever told me was that I am no longer is son. He never liked me for who I was when I lived with him, he wouldn't like the person I am now. Wow, sorry, I was rambling... Sorry for what you have experienced with your father. Hopefully with more life experience you will understand some of it. I do believe there are men of character that can give you some of the support you need from a Dad even as a young adult. Hopefully you will seek someone out and it will not only bring you comfort and wisdom but the love real parents can give life long. Good luck. |
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cheers to you great men out there who love their children.  YES, cheers to you!!!
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whoaaaaaaaa!!! men who care about their children??? wtf??? am I on mars???  lol yeah my ex doesnt care about our daughter and it breaks my heart, but thankfully there are a lot of women who get lucky and have men that do care. congrats to those women who find such a man DITTO!!! Although I do need to give him some kind of credit, he is starting to at least show interest in his child...we'll see what happens from here, I guess 
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I'm not a parent, I probably shouldn't be in here, but I like looking around and seeing what other parents have to say about a lot of issues, and this one stuck out to me. I definitely agree though, way to go to all you stand-up dads out there. As someone here said, anyone can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. Take it from the perspective of a 19 year old male, I admire all you dads out there who love and respect your children, who take personal time to talk with them, get to know them and become a friend as well as a father to them. Take it from someone who never knew what that kind of person was like. I grew up around a father who cared more about watching television and playing on the internet than actually listening to my stories. A father who never asked me about school, never cared about who my friends were, or ever talked to me about anything in general. A man who only served to give me a place to stay, food, and a car to drive, who, I will admit, he did spend a lot of money to try to put me through college and I do gratefully appreciate all he's done for me with that and all. But when you're own father trash talks about your own friend's when they're in the same room, when you're own father yells at you after you get home from your best friend's funeral [who was only 17 when he passed], when you're own father screams and yells at you for being incompetent, who puts his hands on you and chokes you into the couch, who assumes that if nothing else, his own son is some sort of mental case, or is on drugs. Talk about a father who disowns you from his family, kicks you out of the house for not having a job and telling the neighbors around him that his 'son' smokes Meth, then proceeds to act a teenager and write crude things on his Myspace page because he knows I would see them. To all you dad's out there, don't ever be like my father. I beg of you, listen and talk to your child[ren]. Not only are you doing them a favor by being a parent, you're doing them a favor by being a friend, someone they can look up to and count on. Unlike me, who has no one in my family anymore, no one now but my mother and two sisters. I just thought I would share...let you see the perspective of a 19 year old gay male who had to hide from his own father, because he would tease, humiliate, and flat-out hate me, for who I am and what I believe. I have not seen the man in over a year now; the last thing he ever told me was that I am no longer is son. He never liked me for who I was when I lived with him, he wouldn't like the person I am now. Wow, sorry, I was rambling... I say give it time. Parents dont always agree with the path their children take but it doesnt mean they dont love them. My brother went through the same thing with my dad,(being disowned for his lifestyle)but after a while, things settled and they mended the relationship between each other. |
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I see my son every weekend, and i cant understand why some so called dads can just walk away from there wains, u teach them best u can but they teach u so much more.
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Edited by
severdsoul
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Thu 11/12/09 04:04 AM
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how about the dead beat that gets someone pregnat and never dose a thing about or for the child.
Long story, but my cute lil man is realy not mine, and with all the stuff that has happend, and being single again, there is a chance i may loose him totaly, which hurts. He means the world to me. So far i get to see him about 5 hours a week, on one of my days off, and enjoy every second.. but i miss out on so much its not even funny. The dead beat has done nothing, well he has caused problems, which helped lead to me being single again. So i guess i cant say nothing, but nothing for lil man, I was there for everything, and hopefuly will get to continue to be, but thats yet to be seen. We did let the dead beat see him once a month for a hour, and some times he showed up, some times he didnt, some times he was stoned, which ended the visits. (he had his kids whith him, and drove there) Sorry, no ones putting my lil man at risk. |
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you mean to say there are dads out there that stick around and help with there kids ????
i must be lookin in all the wrong places cause i have two kids two different dads and they are not much help. but good job to those dads that do stay around and help |
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Whats a stand up father?
lol |
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you may want to rephrase that...any one can be a father...it takes someone special to be a dad!!! Isn't that the truth!! 
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yeah, a thread for men who take care of their children...
isn't that were all supposed to do. I want a thread for be a mom... 
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thank you all i love to spend time to see my son i love him so much
i love u austin 
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Edited by
Barend
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Sun 12/27/09 11:20 AM
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with my boy, being a stand-up father is very easy
I don't think it is appropriate to post pictures of him, but if you could see him: you would understand! |
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anyone notice that all these posts are from women.... how about WaY To gO MoMs!!!! we've been doing it waaaayyyy longer and with NO credit!! I give you credit. You can't blame an individual person (man or woman) because of cultural patterns. So, please feel free to compliment me 
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There are a lot of single Dad's that done a great job raiseing their kids but fortuneately most are able to support their children with out public assistence so they remain rather invisiable.
That Mother's do not pay child support is shameful. Believe me if agencies get a chance they will attempt enforcement. Unfortuneately many nonsupporting women "earn" their keep provideing sex housekeeping for shack up boyfriends who undercut their peers. Part of the problem also is father's don't pursue the help they are entitiled to in fear the mom will recieve help and regain custody which they all too often do in my experience. Often to the detriment of the kids. There are a lot of Dad's too that have just been abandoned and live in limbo many years that don't show up as single dad's. |
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