I'll pat you on the shoulder

Mothers and fathers have a job ahead of them, a duty and while most parents barely get any recognition it is rewarding to see our children excel in life. That I believe is our recognition and our reward.

Wow lady's I'm glad to see guys getting some props. Not that the lady's dont deserve them either. Im currently raising both my kids. The x takes em on fri nights. Thats it. I get one night to myself. My divorce isnt final yet. Well hasnt even started yet. She took the 08 truck and moved in with a guy who she said was a friend, now she loves him. lol. o please. But anyways, when she first left we agreed on some things and she keeps changing her mind. I wasnt going to go after her for child support but its getting a little tough. But she keeps saying if I do that that shes not going to pay 1/2 of a credit bill we agreed to split and to sign the van over that was in her name to me. And for now both my kids are with me. After schools out my daughter may go live with her. She changes her mind daily. But when that happens we'd both have a child which would cancell support right? So anyone have any ideas. I know I should ask an attorney but food in the fridge is more important than talking to someone for 15mins. Id rather just not talk to her about anything but she still walks in here like she lives here or something. I dont know. Sorry for getting off subject. Coodo's to all the other dads raising there kids. Any Dads out there from PA that ride atvs. Look me up the kids and I love to ride. Well when theres not a foot of snow on the ground.

Take her keys so she cant just walk in. Its kinda the opposite on my side my husband cheating on me so me and my girls had to move in with my parents but this isnt the first time its happened between us and i keep forgiving him and moving back in. its happened 4 times and everysingle time i am heartbroken and devestated. tonight is now my second night with out him for good now. divorce her and get it overwith before she wants to come back and you get hurt again

Deadbeat fathers are losers.

Stand up fathers
are.......................


Hot

Sexy

Loveable men!!!!!

seriously,from a father whos been thru the court system,and taken a lot of crap,you Need a lawyer and Every bit of paperwork.
it took me almost two years to get everything done for my daughter.
this was way back in 99/2000

if it wasnt for the social services actually stepping up and telling the Judge how the scene really was,i probably would not have gotten my daughter.
even tho,i was the primary parent all those years,and my daughter Wanted to be with me.
thats how biased the courts were.
keep in mind i raised her all the way,until the divorce,and then got her back a year later,at most. ( TG )
im just Glad that i got her,and lets not even discuss the child support ha..

now,my daughters 18,out on her own,got job,car,place of her own..shes Making it ..im Proud of her..she managed to survive our problems/ex-n-mine,and become a Great person.


Ppprgy,
those promises your ex made,well they arent worth spit..as im sure you know.
get it on Paper...change your locks too.
and,personally,the 08 truck would be sold..trade it in,or sold.
if shes not helping with the kids,then she dont need no truck.
that van scene should be done asap as well.
heres hoping that the truck isnt in her name as well.

good luck with the daughters feelings..very dicey situation there.
make Sure that you dont argue or badmouth each other in front of the kids..they dont need that.
again,i advise you to get a lawyer,and if you cant afford one,go see social services they will help you if you are doing the right thing.
some lawyers will actually take these cases just to see the right thing for the kid happen.
just my .02

so,do whatever is Best for your Kids.
and Good Luck

I'm still going through this, although it is only going to take one more time for my ex to get into another domestic violence with her boyfriend, and the social services with take her daughter that is her boyfrind child and my son from her. I will get my son and her doughter will got to a faster parent.


Part of me feels good, then both of the children will be in a better homes, and the other part is like. Why does it take it to go this far with people for reality to set in and start taken care of themselves. It will happen, it's just a matter of time. I just feel for her daughter because she doesn't need to go through this, nor my son.

Thanks Fran..actually it does help. Seems it's expected of us..when a man steps up he is automatically awesome.

agreed, single parenting in either gender should be applauded, I really believe child rearing was MEANT to be done by two people and for good reason.

I think it should come naturally,I love my little girl more than anything in the world.

Good for you!!! It takes so much strength to do what you have done- don't take him back ... "hurt me once, shame on you, hurt me twice, shame on me". People rarely change, and it sounds like he has had plenty of chances...
My point of this post is- even though I don't know you, I am proud of you for being so strong!!!

YEAY!!! to ALL parents that try!
All this talk about single parenting makes me feel for the kids who have zero parents who want to step up... Not trying to be a downer, just hope we can all take a moment to send our prayers, hearts and warmth out to those lost kids who are left behind and alone or in the system...
SO glad my son has so many people who love him- even if the ex is a pain to deal with~

^5 on the idea of helping kids who have neither parents. National disgrace.

Even if you can't adopt or foster parent at least volunteer to tutor if be a Casa advocate.

Be a parent for a day at special events.

Speak up for laws and funding that protect these vunerable kids.

Fight the "Not in my Neighborhood" mentality when group homes or children's residential facilities need a place to be.

Step up when extended family is in crisis. Unemployment and health crisis is a family issue. Grandparents, aunts, uncle's, even distant cousin's should be "family"; especially to kids.

Children any age should not be so much trash left under a bridge to live. No child should be homeless in the richest country in the world. Even if the parents are.

Tell when someone is being a lousy parent. When you look the other way you betray a child.

Help enforce that every employee pays their child support and participates in their child's care. Non-custodial parents should be allowed children's sick leave to do their duty.

Make DUI and Drug use in a child's presence Feloney Assault on a child.

Refuse to date, hire, or socialize with non-supporting parents.

Teach your own kids "Parenting skills. Better they are a Good Parent than a successful college or business person.

If your kid is being a "Rat" Parent don't "enable" them. Make living at home conditional on paying child support taking parenting classes, and making visitations.

Don't be "more important" than someone seeing their kid and being a REAL parent.

Don't stand for abusive parents or criminals being allowed to plea bargain away their crimes against children. Keep child offenders in jail no matter how much it costs.

When you see a bad teacher, coach, or questionable child care provider don't just pull your kid; report it.

Don't down a kid just because they don't come from a good family. Or may be poorly cared for by the "system". Kids who have never had respect have a hard time showing it. Let the learning begin with you.