the prob is the every one has some,no matter who it is every one has some,so it really aint right to look past someone because of that

Everyone has baggage. It's not whether or not you have baggage, it's how you handle your baggage. I prefer the ones with rolling wheels so I can easily drag it along behind me instead of trying to carry it.

(((BONNY)))

good to see ya!

I don't.

I have 3 tidbits of wisdom to pass on to you:

1. Let Go of the Stone: I have always thought about "baggage" as though it were a stone I had to carry. And that stone can get heavier over time if I continue to carry it.

I can' remember if I heard this in a country song, or what... but the following analogy was presented in that "song". I believe it was called, "Let go of the stone".

Basically, someone is carrying this stone (baggage, pain, heartache, etc.) across a body of water - swimming, carrying the stone. And the song is telling them to let go of the stone before it carries them under and destroys them (they drown).

Although I can't remember exactly where and how I heard this, the vision of someone carrying a stone while trying to swim a span of water, is a constant reminder to me to "let go of the stone".

It has helped me to let go over the years and it has become words to live by for me.


2. A very wise friend once told me something he lives by: "I refuse to let anyone rent space in my head". Works for him, and has worked for me ever since I heard it.

3. And lastly, I've always believed that the past is written, a done deal... I cannot change it, but I can learn by it. As long as I don't let it rule me or my decisions, I can leave it behind me. That is why I live for today and look to the future. There's no point in dwelling on the past if I can't do anything to change it.

I found it - this song has really impacted my life:

“Let Go of the Stone”
Sung by John Anderson

You shouldn’t wade out in deep water when you don’t know how to swim
He told you it was over and like a fool you followed him
Into a whirlpool of emotion, spinnin’ out of control
It’s killin’ you but you won’t let him go

Let go of the stone if you don’t wanna drown
In the sea of heartache that’s draggin’ you down
It’s pullin you under and you keep hangin’ on
If I’m ever gonna save you let go of the stone

Oh don’t you realize the danger and the hurt you’re headed for
Put your arms around me and swim with me to shore
Just let go of that ol’ memory, I know it’s hard to do
But I’ll be here holdin’ on to you

Let go of the stone if you don’t wanna drown
In the sea of heartache that’s draggin’ you down
If I’m ever gonna save you let go of the stone
If I’m ever gonna save you let go of the stone

Songwriters: Barnes, Max Troy, Barnes, Max D

are we talking about psycho baggage or people baggage?

I was referring to dwelling on the past (past relationships, hurts, heartaches, ex's, etc.) - the unhealthy clinging to the past... not letting go - beating a dead horse. Carrying that "past" to new relationships.

I guess the best analogy to minimize or eliminate that type of baggage is like washing your hands... no need to pass it on to others.

JMO