define baggage. my answer depends upon yours, lol.

if by "baggage" you are meaning "negative hang-over from the past", then no. i'm not all about being around broken people.

however, if you reaaaally mean "life experience", then that luggage takes on a different feel. i'm not so concerned with what has happened to people in the past as with how they have DEALT with these life-events. did they come out stronger and better? did they LEARN from their life? or did they become bitter?

every event in our lives leaves a mark...but is it an accent or a scar?

I dnt and i cnt arent the same.dnt stereotype urslf b4 u fall in love wit 1

Well, regarding those people who think of children and the necessary connections having to do with them: I for one, would consider those with that line of thinking as "baggage" better left unclaimed.

Huh?

Whats the real essence of dating and relationship is not to share problems and see how our new affections can help up surge higher.its part of everyday life i would live with one if i have to

do not set down rules for yourself about what you want and need from a relationship because most times you actually looking at the wrong way.i take women as they come i never judge and an not picky.

Very true. That's why i am wanting to know what he considers baggage

Lol.sometimes most people in into relationships not because they wanna share love but for selfish purposes.

What the heck are you talking about.... I have not set down any rules.... I was simply discussing what some people consider baggage and expressing how I've learned to deal with my "baggage" in the past... finding it best left behind. Trust me, I have cradled enough scarred men in my day... and you won't find a more patient and compassionate person when it comes to dealing with someone's feelings and pain.... so don't cast stones.

You might want to read the entire thread before you jump in and take someone's comments out of context.

Trust me, I've met some men that actually do think of children as baggage. I met one guy who actually told me that my having a job, rent, etc. was baggage.... go figure. He was retired and lived in a motor home... so he considered my responsibilities "baggage". When I left his motor home, I felt sad that I would never get to know his dog better. (He had the sweetest bassett hound).

oh that is just to sad

The "baggage" needs to be clearly defined. There will always be pieces of your past pains, etc., with you but hopefully you've learned from them and can now share them in a healthy way. The "baggage" I think we all refer to is the lifestyle with unresolved "this or that" people hold on to with grudges and a hard heart. Hopefully if we are on a dating website we've gotten to a place in our lives where we've healed those areas and are ready to give and receive in a healthy relationship.

I for one, would consider "unpaid child support" as negative baggage. If a guy can't take care of his children, I don't want him in my life.

I have met a couple of guys who actually have their ex still living with them, either renting a room, or they live in separate rooms. That's baggage I wouldn't want anything to do with. And trying to arrange a date was a nightmare cuz he didn't want her to get all ugly if she found out he was dating... either he was lying about their actual relationship, or he was in a situation I would not want to touch with a ten-foot pole.

To me, that's "baggage".

Yes, and that is why I pasted the song lyrics to "Let Go of the Stone" on page eight of this thread. I said basically the same thing you are saying (back on the previous page-8).

I guess one could say we are on the same page, even though our comments are on different pages. lol

Ouch.

Maybe I've gone too long without sleep... I'm going to bed.

was that a slam dunk???

I must apologize for coming off so harshly... I took that comment as a direct attack and it most likely was not meant that way. I'm tired and I was out of line. I will send a direct apology for that.

It was out of character for me... so I figure I must be tired and should not be posting in the forums if I don't have my wits about me.

Where is GeniusXBoy? Dont trust him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm tired and I reacted in defense mode.