Here is a good example of what I was talking about.

I was raised old skool'. My grandfather was the only real male role model in my life. He was a marine veteran from WWII, a police officer for 20 years, and a security guard for another 10. I guess thats where I get a lot of my personality from. I am stern, and can sometimes be rather rowdy, but I am a gentleman at heart.

I will open doors for people on instinct for men and women alike. I have never received grief from a guy for doing this, but on occasion a woman will act like I just tried hitting on her and respond with various levels of rudeness. I to this day don't understand that kind of attitude or what could possibly develop it.

I can relate to that...I always keep doors open for men & women but the thing that I get is......................NADA...........no eye acknowledgement, no nod, no verbal thank you....Nothing......I now just turn to them and say towards them....Thank you, Your welcome and go on my merry way....what gives???

That is kind of peculiar behavior. That seems unwarranted. The only thing I could imagine some of these women that you approached just to hold a door were very fearful of men and you startled her so she reacted aggressively and with exaggerated negativity to gain control of a situation. Either that or these women are just strange.

Wow, that's sad that some women respond that way. When a stranger holds the door open for me, I smile and say "thank you". It's such a nice gesture. How can anyone NOT thank someone for being courteous?
Lol, I've also held the door open for someone else on occasion. The most common thing I've seen is that they parade on past without a smile or thank you. Sometimes I want to say, "Well you're WELCOME Your Highness."

If a man approaches me like a gentleman and there is no mutual interest I will be polite and cool but not encourageing. I always consider "interest" a compliment and try to allow people there dignity. It just isn't necessary to be cruel.

If the gentleman thinks he just has to try harder I then tell them, privately if possible but very directly, that they are fine just not what I want and I am not going to try to be friends.

If then that person doesn't accept the situation I will get very serious very fast.

Since we are on line I am going to address that.

I consider the exchange here in the forums basiclly community discussion. I don't think it necessarily entitles me to take the conversations to personal email. If I find someone's comments interesting and also find there profile inviting then I will send a note, wait to see if that person turns up on my mutual match, or they write to me.

If someone writes me a gentlemanly note versus just a Hi or Holiday Greeting I try to respond rather quickly. I tend to have spells where I get really busy and may not be on line "looking" but just relaxing. Even if I am I might be dateing someone and have limited time.

Sorry guys you snooze you lose and a few notes are not going to shut down my interest in those interested in me nor dare I say will other women. You see a woman you are interested in you need to get with the program and talk to her, tell her what you are about, find out what I am about, and start building some good experiences between us. It is not about money but it definitely is about time and building a relationship.

If I know up front I have no personal interest I make that clear with a simple "Thank You. I don't see us as a match. Good luck in your search. I am not going to tell you why or how you could change yourself because I don't want to "fix" someone any more than I want someone to try and "fix" me.

If a guy approaches and says something rude or pushy I will smile at them but make it very clear that he wants to not push his luck. Same on line. If he does I will be more than glad to make his day a bad one. That is real easy on line. Takes about 30 seconds to put somebody on block.

Pretty much the same thing in real life. I don't care if you have been the perfect gentleman for months or even years if you mess up at least in the USA all I have to do is tell you to leave me alone and you best do it. Nobody in this country is a second class citizen unless they want to be.

OK OK before the guys draw and quarter me this applies in reverse.

Contrary to popular belief dateing is a two way street. If someone shows interest in you there is an obligation to step up and reciprocate. If someone doesn't; don't make yourself a doormat; step off and find someone who will.

You will be surprized that if after a great date or two if you don't cave and become a doormat by showering a woman with 24/7 attention she will be more interested in you.

A date who doesn't reciprocate is in a nutshell SELFISH! This doesn't mean if your budget doesn't allow the same dollar for dollar thing you are sunk it is about time and making a contribution with in your skill sets.

And this is NOT suggesting bartering sex. Nobody wants to be or love a prostitute.

No, but I don't reciprocate what isn't there. Sometimes I don't reciprocate what is there, especially if intuition kicks in with a danger flag.

Good answer. I think we have all been there, done that. I remember once meeting a guy that was drop dead gorgeous. Then I realized he had a criminal record a mile long. He had been in and out of prison most of his adult life. Some decisions had to be made right then and there.

It wouldn't be the 1st time for an alpaca to spit on me

Thats true. You have worked with them. The llamas are much more prone to the spitting actually. Alpacas are a little more diplomatic and they will give you fair warning. I only get spit on when feeding them. They spit at each other during feeding and if you get in the middle, thats all she wrote.

They are a lot more friendly then llamas.

no I try to let them down gently and hope they dont take offense

Equal opportunist here.... I am mean to everyone....no favourites...

haha If anyone ever finds me attractive, I'll let you know.

Just depends on the level of respect. If you are polite about it I will be nice to you about it wether the feeling is mutual or not.

I respond to everyone even though I am not interested in anyone. They went to the trouble to write me, I think they're owed that much. But that's just my opinion.

No..I treat everyone as they treat me...I give repect,and wish for it back...We are all the same on the inside...so looks are not an issue for me...That's what I think,and how I feel