How can we not be a little sensitive? I was 105 when I got married. By the time the 2 baby came I had put on about 50 lbs. He didn't seem interested in me anymore. He would look at real skinny women and say they need meat on their bones, yet he married me. After the 3rd baby, it got to the point that I was lucky if we had sex twice a year. I wear a size 12, a little overweight, but average. Men don't look at women with my shape and whistle or cat call, etc. So how do you think we are supposed to feel about our weight, when things like that go on.

Oh, stow it, Flo! Spare me. You know damn well as I do that if guys whistled and cat-called at you, you be offended as hell and scream harrassment. Damned if we do, and damned if we don't.

it takes work to stay in shape, the older you get the harder it gets. stop whining and get excercising. I am sure when men stop bathing women find this unattractive lets be realistic here you dont get to 200 pounds overnight! This is really about people in general they make excuses for themselves and try to make there problem someone elses. so either rock that body or get on the treadmill but whining about it is

Whatever. And you are totally missing the point.

Between you and Mr. Music no wonder women feel the way they do, since you are so sensitive about our feelings! You two need to grow up.

"Whatever"? That's the best you can retort with? Tell me I'm wrong! Don't give me any crap about being "sensitive" to your feelings. Tell me who YOU would rather look at -- the slim, slender, fit guy, or the fat guy? And I don't want to hear any of that bull about "it's what's inside that counts," either.

I hate to tell you, but my boyfriend is on the heavy side, but he treats me better than any man ever has, and that is all that matters.

That isn't what I asked.

I think it is because our society puts pressure on women to be thin. We see it everyday on tv, movies, etc.
It could also be that females think men like thin women. JMO

I look at what interests me and right now that happens to be him.

good see you found someone that doesnt care about health and excercise good for you! So why the pouting? Why make the person that does work hard to stay in shape the bad guy/girl? because your jealous and its easier to call us shallow than look yourself in the mirror and call yourself fat. just be happy with who you are and stop making other people out to be shallow cause of your faults. this is what im saying, not that heavy people should give a damn what i think but why do fit people have to be shallow when we look for common interests? its about you sweetheart not me thats why and stop laying the guilt trip!

I don't recall ever saying I was unhealthy, ever. Don't make assumptions about what you know nothing. I wasn't pouting, just stating facts. And I have nothing to be jealous of, have never been, nor ever will be that way. That's just ridiculous. If there is any guilt it's all on you. It must be hitting pretty close to home to get you all riled up about a simple statement. There is some things I would change about my body, but not much. I won't let any man make me feel unworthy about anything. You seem to have made the wrong assumptions about what I was saying and why I was saying.

Time out room ,to personal?

well i aint stupid and i can read between the lines deny all you want i never say these things ever, but i get tired of the whoas me crap. i post here and say this because its true. i see this "get to know people crap" all day and the lady doesnt even comb her damn hair. so dont tell me im trippin cause the truth hurts and our society could use a good dose of reality

Why whistle call or cat call? To me that insinuates that you are thinking with your little man in mind. Come over and have a decent conversation that doesn't involve screwing you.

If it were easy, there would be no problem. Society conditions us at an early age about what is "sexy" or not "sexy."

Raising children, keeping a household going, involved in PTA or church, making sure everyone elses needs are tended to, has a way of adding a few pounds before you know it. We think we are selfish if we put ourselves first before motherly duties.

I believe we need to shed the guilt of putting ourselves first. We need to support one another in this effort.

The media propaganda is mostly because women buy magazines and watch tv and BUY what the ultra thin models hawk. If women would boycott products sold this way you would see and almost over night change in marketing.

I don't think many women admit it but their friends and often picked because they are guy magnets, have a cute brother or cousin, or two ugly one way or another to be competition. Then when their sons bring home a "big" girl they see him as a looser.

OMG how is this possible? I just dont get it! there has to be a woman out there that sees the world as it really is instead of some utopia that doesnt exsist.

First of all men think with there little johnny and women like it too.

second of all society conditions itself to what sells and sex sells

third of all excuses why you dont have time are just excuses

yes support one amother, but dont lay your personal insecurities off on someone else.

Because the media portrays beautiful women as having a figure without excess weight, this is portrayed time and again. Also, due to mean people that make them feel ashamed of themselves and their weight. They are constantly judged in society, even though, they are actually beautiful!!

To easy to get a (Hot Body)HMMM,just meat!!!

Obviously you are not a man that knows reality when they see it. Raising a family isn't an excuse, it a time consuming reality that I don't regret.

It takes rearranging your mindset and it isn't easy as some may think.

What I find extremely sexy and wanting more is a man who not only thinks with his johnny but his mind. Men who only think with their johnny come a dime a dozen.