Go for the ones who live 300+ miles away. Distance, time money are only small obstacles to overcome if you love someone.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h6GDioOjmLA

same here...

Then if I do try to chat with someone who is on the forums, since I am not the pretty or the popular one, they just blow me off. Oh well, I am very content with the friends I've made here and its easy to tell who my friends are.

How ya going to "love" someone that you can't spend up close and personal casual time with?

I agree that I'd spare no expense and that no distance is too far for someone you know, that knows you but imo, you just can't know until you actually know, not virtually know...the difference is black and white...imo

This is a good question to ask Lisa, since her and Robin live about 1200 - 1500 miles apart, and they've been together over 2 years.

if a person is being honest, sincere and upfront with you (which there are no guarantees of in 'real life' either) you'd be surprised at how well you can get to know someone via cam chats and/or telephone calls.

there's something secure and comforting about having a screen to protect you as you truly discuss meaningful topics, as opposed to a lot of the casual conversation that goes on during a 'real life' date.

i'm not advocating long distance relationships; i think they take a couple of special people to work well. i'm just saying to try to not limit yourself to a box so small that it won't contain much.

The fewer articles in a box, the less there is to maintain. Don't believe in internet relationships. Besides, I wouldn't wish me on anyone.

Who really cares about "popularity"? I'm just a lone cougar on the prowl...seeking fresh meat...

That is speculative....

The answer is both yes and no.


Celebrity comes with its price as well...

TeeHeeeHeee,..you said meat

I think it's a bad idea to make an effort to be well 'known' on the internet. I know a lot of people look at people who have managed internet stardom, and think poorly of them.

I mean, not too many people genuinely are interested in attention whores.

No attention is way better than negative attention.


Now, on this site, it's another matter. If it is someones goal to meet people, get a lot of dates, then yes, networking yourself may be a wise choice, but as far as the mighty internet in general? No thanks @ internet popularity.

Not a big fan of popularity contests. I thought once people got out of high school they might outgrow them. Apparently they have not. I suppose some people will always be insecure and seek the approval of others to validate their existence.

The biggest problem I see with such a contest on a site like this is while some people get their egos stroked others feel ignored. The defense I've always heard is "we're just having fun." I can think of better ways to have fun that will promote friendships instead of causing attention seeking embarrassing behavior.

Can anyone say, "American Idol"?

Popularity is it's own reward

Same here, and I've been here over two years, and my "exclusion zone" is more like 897,000 miles.

As for the popularity issue -- it's sort of like the "big fish in a small pond" syndrome. You get noticed, people know who you are, they might be interested enough to talk to you, but nothing tangible ever comes of it. It's a "feel-good moment" at best.

I don't really see anything wrong with that -- or anything particularly constructive, either. It's more of a diversion, really.

But then, I've never really had any desire to be popular. If that's what I wanted, I wouldn't have said 90% of the stuff I've said on here.

I will have to admit, though, that being known here HAS resulted in some book sales, and there's no way I can deny how much that means to me. So there can be some peripheral benefits.

Some people actually give a rat's behind if they're the King or Queen of something...frankly, I find it quite amusing. Makes me wonder if they're that much of an attention whore in real life...

Popularity is in the eye of the beholder. I think on these sites, some people are pretty well known because they make a lot of posts and others who make a lot of posts know them as well.

In that way, I'd say it's a good thing because your friends on the site can recommend good people for you, or put in good words for you with others they meet who they think you'd be good with. It also increases your odds of meeting someone really great because a lot of people read the forums even if they don't post.

It's up to you though. I make a lot of posts, and have made some awesome friends, but I don't know if I'd be considered popular or not.

i think there's a huge difference between being popular and being an attention whore.

one comes naturally, the other is strived.