I've heard weed whackers make excellent companions

I am not one to put my personal business on here. But...I'm trying to figure out this guy.

**********************************
Part of wisdom is perspective; something you get from friends. Especially when things are personal.
********************************


My child was sick. He stayed with my child and watched TV with them while I went to the grocery store. It was dark, cold, and raining.

**********************************
When a child is sick a Man isn't a guy who sits on his bum in front of a TV and lets the Mother go out at night in the cold and the rain. He calls ahead of coming and asks what she needs and buys it on the way to the house and won't take money for it when he gets there.
*********************************


I came back from the store and asked him if he would help carry the groceries into the house.

*********************************
A man, not a guy, would have been watching for you and had his coat on and asked you to go into the warm house with your child.
*********************************

I had already made a trip. Btw, I have a bunch of steps out front. He stood in the door

***********************************
A man, not a guy, would accept that you are a single mom and wouldn't be wasteing your utilities.
***********************************


and asked, "Well, aren't you going to help?"

***********************************
A man, not a guy, wouldn't have to be asked and he sure wouldn't whine like a baby about you doing more than you had already done.
**********************************


I told him that while he was watching TV, I was loading the car up with groceries while holding an umbrella in the rain and cold and dark. Couldn't he help bring the groceries in? He said that when someone asks for help, that means that he's helping them and not doing it all.

**********************************
You already know you weren't doing it all, and so does he, but chooses his selfish view as the only one. A man doesn't have that limited of a perspective.
**********************************

Another time he was getting to broil a steak. I have a new stove and the broiler pan was dusty. He stood by the sink and as I walked into the kitchen, he asked if I would wash it. I asked him if the sink was too far from him. He washed it.

*********************************
A Man agrees to do a job he does it. If he didn't like that the broiler was dusty it was not and overwhelming task on a new stove to rinse it off.
By the way did this guy buy the steak? And enough for everyone? He was dirtying up your kitchen did he clean it?
********************************


This week he watched my child while I went somewhere for an hour.

********************************
Assumeing this guy is in a relationship and spends time with you frequently taking up you and your child's time does he want a medal or a chest to pin it on?
********************************

I was running late.

********************************
If he is your Man I wonder why your appointment's are not also his appointments and he was aware and more helpful? Not saying he is responsible for you being late but fault has nothing to do with teamsmanship.
******************************


I made dinner, feed them

*****************************
I am going out on a limb a bit but why as a Single Mom are you feeding your guy? A man does not sponge meals. He brings them in. Or considering you and the kids ate too maybe brings part of it but you don't have to tell a man when supper time is; especially where children are involved.
*****************************

and flew out the door.
****************************
And would have arrived early so you could prepare in a relaxed manor if he genuinely cared about you.
****************************

When I came back I saw that the remaining food was still on the table so I asked him why he didn't put the food in the refrigerator. He said that I didn't ask him to do that. He then said, "Well, you ate too."

*****************************

Unless he was joking a man would not come up with that lame an excuse for wasteing what was left on the table or cleaning up after the meal you made.
An immediate apology would have been more approriate than another snide remark.

*******************************

He thinks my child doesn't need to wear a bike helmet

********************************
What stupid pill did this guy take. The law says minors must wear helmets when on the bike.
*******************************


when riding the new adult sized bike

*********************************
Pardon my ignorance where does size of a bike determine between child and adult? The bike hopefully fits the child. Call me cynical but makes me wonder if he didn't buy himself a bike.

*********************************


they got for Christmas. Said my child didn't need it to ride on the sidewalk

**********************************
Anyone who has read the drivers license manuals or equally important the park rules that I pretty sure say you do not ride a bicycle on a sidewalk. As an adult he should be assisting you taking the children where there are bike trails or at least superviseing when they are useing there bikes near the home.
***********************************

of my street but would need it if riding around the park. I want my child to wear it all of the time.
***********************************
And how if it is your child does he have the authority to argue with you about the rules you set for your child? Have you ask him for his opinion or given him that right? Obviously not. Makes me wonder what other rules this guy ignores when he decides he wants to.
*********************************

I just put this in here to show how he thinks.

**********************************
How he thinks is not even remotely close to what I would tolerate. You don't need another child in your life and surely NOT one that disrespects you
and your good judgement like a mouthy teenager.

I feel like you want to see the best in people and not be all that harsh about how someone acts but this guy is making it clear that he is selfish, immature, and arguementative and that is just as a visitor in your life. This behavior will ony escalate. Tell him to get lost. Or just ignore him. He has figured out you are at your limit or he wouldn't be copping and attitude. Sorry it worked out this way. You deserve better.

Sorry it's so long.

if it's not his house it's not his responsibilty to clean it. he was already watching your kids, which also is not his responsibilty. i wouldn't expect someone who was already helping me by watching my son to clean stuff. how long have you 2 been together cause if you're already b*tching in a public forum about how useless he is, maybe it's time to move. im sure he'd be pleased to know you put him on blast in front of a million people.

Trust yer gut........easy as that.

I'm jealous of your new oven!

I didn't need to read all the advice others were giving you to realize something here..



get rid of him period there are men out there that appreciate a good woman and will do things just to be helpful.. because they care,,, repeat they care.. he doesn't a male pig? with out a doubt I hate to say that ..... he gives others a bad name and then men get judged by his actions.. please do yourself and other men a big favor...RUN

I've never been a bicycle helmet advocate, but that's just me. I never wore one, and I still don't. I took my share of spills as a kid, but I never aimed for my head as the first place I would land, as apparently people these days do.

He's not real new or I wouldn't have him around my child.

My own child told him, "My Grandpa wouldn't ask my Grandma to do that."








This is to true....

I am not one to put my personal business on here. But...I'm trying to figure out this guy.

My child was sick. He stayed with my child and watched TV with them while I went to the grocery store. It was dark, cold, and raining.

I came back from the store and asked him if he would help carry the groceries into the house. I had already made a trip. Btw, I have a bunch of steps out front. He stood in the door and asked, "Well, aren't you going to help?"

I told him that while he was watching TV, I was loading the car up with groceries while holding an umbrella in the rain and cold and dark. Couldn't he help bring the groceries in? He said that when someone asks for help, that means that he's helping them and not doing it all.

Another time he was getting to broil a steak. I have a new stove and the broiler pan was dusty. He stood by the sink and as I walked into the kitchen, he asked if I would wash it. I asked him if the sink was too far from him. He washed it.

This week he watched my child while I went somewhere for an hour. I was running late. I made dinner, feed them and flew out the door. When I came back I saw that the remaining food was still on the stove. I asked him why he didn't put the food in the refrigerator. He said that I didn't ask him to do that. He then said, "Well, you ate too."

He thinks my child doesn't need to wear a bike helmet when riding the new adult sized bike they got for Christmas. Said my child didn't need it to ride on the sidewalk of my street but would need it if riding around the park. I want my child to wear it all of the time. I just put this in here to show how he thinks.

Sorry it's so long.

I have been a friend with this lady who wanted a relationship with me.. I gave it 6 months of seeing where it would go and if feelings could be there.. they were.not The point is in that time I remodled seven rooms in her hose for her with out any regrets. Did all the sheet rocking plumbing electrical painting and yes decorating ideas.she has a complete new look now.. was I used ? No I offered to do it ...If a man cares he will do what ever he can to be there... and yes its alright to air it out here.. he doesn't desrve any better...

I think most of the people here are giving good advice. Go with your gut. You obviously have concerns about how he treats you and your child.
You know what to do.

He's not a Spam eater!!!

Major concerns. He did buy the bike for the child for Christmas, though.

Is it possible that you could be making excuses to keep him for some reason?

my age has nothing to do with it. i am used to doing everything myself and don't expect someone to help me do everything. quite honestly, i'd rather just do it myself to ensure it gets done the way i want it done....

I'm used to doing everything myself too. Single parent here from day one. I do expect a man to behave considerate and caring though. I just haven't been able to figure out why he's doing these things.