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how bout you confront him about it and give him an ultimatium the fact that your on mingle2 telling us so openly tells me that you obviously have thought about it to great detail and know what you want to say. so be forward and tell them how you feel. communication helps any relationship I've already told him I feel about it. He can't "hear" me. There's nothing like a softly spoken single syllable word with 2 letters in it that will speak very loudly for itself. |
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I think they should help without being asked.  Guys are oversized children... got to bribe them and make them help out... simple as that.
I don't think that I should have to bribe a man. He either cares and shows it or he doesn't. |
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I'd say if it's your kid then what you want goes. If you want them to wear a helmet all the time they should no matter what this guys thinks. As far as helping out...I agree. He sounds a little lazy. I don't see why guys can't help out around the house even without being asked...that's just me. I think they should help without being asked. Sure they should although sometimes they are oblivious and need a hint. But that doesn't sound like the case here. It sounds like he either doesn't want to help or doesn't feel like it's he should have to. And with this kind of response at this point in your relationship I would be concerned how much you haven't yet uncovered. Hmmm...how much I haven't yet uncovered. That doesn't sound good. |
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I've heard weed whackers make excellent companions
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let me first start out by saying, if you cooked, he should've put the food away. but then again if he doesn't live there he might not feel the need to do chores in your house.... he might be lazy, you might just be nitpicking stupid crap to find a reason to dislike him. and secondly, people of all ages should always wear helemts. sorry but i've watched a few people become seriously injured from not wearing a helemt. although that was on a dirt bike. still a good habit to get into. Those weren't chores. It's about common courtesy. |
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It's common courtesy to help a or even just to help.... LAZY LAZY I wouldn't have this lazy lil punk be an example for my child that is for golly ding dang... And being lazy you think he is going to clean a broiler or dishes after you leave....I don't think so. And as for the helmet.....last straw Your fired, Yeah, I did the dishes afterwards. 
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I came back from the store and asked him if he would help "asked". You had to ask. Hmm. Retrain your man. He has to ask too, and well, I'm sure you could justify quite a few no answers, don't ya think?
hahaha Don't you think at 44 yrs. old, that he wouldn't need re-training? |
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OMG winks I thought this was just a babysitter....if this is a new man in your life....I would so so so so ask him if he
IS NEW and get rid of his sorry arce. What man who is supposed to care for you wouldn't take all those groceries in....and what man that is an adult would ever say it's ok to let a kid not wear a helmut..... DUH |
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I've never been a bicycle helmet advocate, but that's just me. I never wore one, and I still don't. I took my share of spills as a kid, but I never aimed for my head as the first place I would land, as apparently people these days do.
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I've never been a bicycle helmet advocate, but that's just me. I never wore one, and I still don't. I took my share of spills as a kid, but I never aimed for my head as the first place I would land, as apparently people these days do. What kind of cycling do you do? Anything involving speeds of 30 mph and up? Anything involving competition? Even training is dangerous enough to justify a helmet. |
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I've never been a bicycle helmet advocate, but that's just me. I never wore one, and I still don't. I took my share of spills as a kid, but I never aimed for my head as the first place I would land, as apparently people these days do. What kind of cycling do you do? Anything involving speeds of 30 mph and up? Anything involving competition? Even training is dangerous enough to justify a helmet. Nah, I only ever used my bike as a means of transportation. I never had a notion of becoming Lance Armstrong. I just wanted to ride down the street. |
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Edited by
Winx
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Fri 01/16/09 04:19 PM
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Not only does he seem lazy, but it sounds like he lacks initiative or real appreciation for the cooking and shopping. Not exactly a winner, IMO... Hmmm...the word, lazy, is showing up a bunch. Ya think? I was leaning towards selfish. laugh: Edit: Hey, where did my laughing smiley go?! |
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He should want to help you without being asked!! That's what I thought. That's how I was raised. It's about being a gentleman and doing the right thing to me. That's how I was raised  
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let me first start out by saying, if you cooked, he should've put the food away. but then again if he doesn't live there he might not feel the need to do chores in your house.... he might be lazy, you might just be nitpicking stupid crap to find a reason to dislike him. and secondly, people of all ages should always wear helemts. sorry but i've watched a few people become seriously injured from not wearing a helemt. although that was on a dirt bike. still a good habit to get into. Those weren't chores. It's about common courtesy. if it's not his house it's not his responsibilty to clean it. he was already watching your kids, which also is not his responsibilty. i wouldn't expect someone who was already helping me by watching my son to clean stuff. how long have you 2 been together cause if you're already b*tching in a public forum about how useless he is, maybe it's time to move. im sure he'd be pleased to know you put him on blast in front of a million people. |
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*Disclaimer to the mods*
I HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS ONE!!! |
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*Disclaimer to the mods* I HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS ONE!!! i don't understand why if this is a site for adults, why it is so closely moderated. no one said anything bad. they don't even moderate the b.com site i usually blog on that closely and it's the webiste for the newspaper here. |
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 He seems to be lazy or perhaps does not wish to "overstep" any "boundaries".
Hmm...overstepping boundaries. That's something to think about. He does know this house though. |
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I am not one to put my personal business on here. But...I'm trying to figure out this guy. My child was sick. He stayed with my child and watched TV with them while I went to the grocery store. It was dark, cold, and raining. I came back from the store and asked him if he would help carry the groceries into the house. I had already made a trip. Btw, I have a bunch of steps out front. He stood in the door and asked, "Well, aren't you going to help?" I told him that while he was watching TV, I was loading the car up with groceries while holding an umbrella in the rain and cold and dark. Couldn't he help bring the groceries in? He said that when someone asks for help, that means that he's helping them and not doing it all. Another time he was getting to broil a steak. I have a new stove and the broiler pan was dusty. He stood by the sink and as I walked into the kitchen, he asked if I would wash it. I asked him if the sink was too far from him. He washed it. This week he watched my child while I went somewhere for an hour. I was running late. I made dinner, feed them and flew out the door. When I came back I saw that the remaining food was still on the stove. I asked him why he didn't put the food in the refrigerator. He said that I didn't ask him to do that. He then said, "Well, you ate too." He thinks my child doesn't need to wear a bike helmet when riding the new adult sized bike they got for Christmas. Said my child didn't need it to ride on the sidewalk of my street but would need it if riding around the park. I want my child to wear it all of the time. I just put this in here to show how he thinks. Sorry it's so long. 
Winx, do you want another child to take care of, guide and remind them what needs to be done every minute of the day???? Then keep the guy....if you haven't lost your mind yet and there is reason to believe he can grow up in the next 15 minutes... If you are tired of the petty 5 year old arguements and don't need an adult child..loose him! Good luck, sweetie! 
Thanks. I considered the two children aspect of it too.
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Trust yer gut........easy as that.
I'm jealous of your new oven! |
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OMG winks I thought this was just a babysitter....if this is a new man in your life....I would so so so so ask him if he IS NEW and get rid of his sorry arce. What man who is supposed to care for you wouldn't take all those groceries in....and what man that is an adult would ever say it's ok to let a kid not wear a helmut..... DUH He's not real new or I wouldn't have him around my child. My own child told him, "My Grandpa wouldn't ask my Grandma to do that." |
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