Topic: I'm Confused.
SimplyElla's photo
Fri 01/16/09 02:44 PM


I think they should help without being asked.


whoa Guys are oversized children... got to bribe them and make them help out... simple as that.

tngxl65's photo
Fri 01/16/09 02:47 PM


I'd say if it's your kid then what you want goes. If you want them to wear a helmet all the time they should no matter what this guys thinks. As far as helping out...I agree. He sounds a little lazy. I don't see why guys can't help out around the house even without being asked...that's just me.


I think they should help without being asked.


Sure they should although sometimes they are oblivious and need a hint. But that doesn't sound like the case here. It sounds like he either doesn't want to help or doesn't feel like it's he should have to. And with this kind of response at this point in your relationship I would be concerned how much you haven't yet uncovered.


Winx's photo
Fri 01/16/09 02:47 PM
Edited by Winx on Fri 01/16/09 02:51 PM

how bout you confront him about it and give him an ultimatium the fact that your on mingle2 telling us so openly tells me that you obviously have thought about it to great detail and know what you want to say. so be forward and tell them how you feel. communication helps any relationship


I've already told him I feel about it. He can't "hear" me.


polaritybear's photo
Fri 01/16/09 02:49 PM



I think they should help without being asked.


whoa Guys are oversized children... got to bribe them and make them help out... simple as that.


That is complete rubbish and its statements like that that keep society from evolving.

This has nothing to do with male or female its about individual people and how they react with others.

Being inconsiderate or lazy doesnt determine your gender.

SimplyElla's photo
Fri 01/16/09 02:51 PM




I think they should help without being asked.


whoa Guys are oversized children... got to bribe them and make them help out... simple as that.


That is complete rubbish and its statements like that that keep society from evolving.

This has nothing to do with male or female its about individual people and how they react with others.

Being inconsiderate or lazy doesnt determine your gender.


K... sorry... didn't think people would take it so strongly... was more meant as a joke... guess I am the one with the issue then... geez slaphead

CaliChickCassie's photo
Fri 01/16/09 02:52 PM
let me first start out by saying, if you cooked, he should've put the food away. but then again if he doesn't live there he might not feel the need to do chores in your house.... he might be lazy, you might just be nitpicking stupid crap to find a reason to dislike him. and secondly, people of all ages should always wear helemts. sorry but i've watched a few people become seriously injured from not wearing a helemt. although that was on a dirt bike. still a good habit to get into.

feralcatlady's photo
Fri 01/16/09 02:55 PM
It's common courtesy to help a or even just to help....


LAZY LAZY


I wouldn't have this lazy lil punk be an example for my child that is for golly ding dang...

And being lazy you think he is going to clean a broiler or dishes after you leave....I don't think so.


And as for the helmet.....last straw


Your fired,

polaritybear's photo
Fri 01/16/09 02:55 PM





I think they should help without being asked.


whoa Guys are oversized children... got to bribe them and make them help out... simple as that.


That is complete rubbish and its statements like that that keep society from evolving.

This has nothing to do with male or female its about individual people and how they react with others.

Being inconsiderate or lazy doesnt determine your gender.


K... sorry... didn't think people would take it so strongly... was more meant as a joke... guess I am the one with the issue then... geez slaphead


happy

Sorry, I just dont like when people make generalizations.

I owe you a bowl of cereal of your choosing.

Winx's photo
Fri 01/16/09 02:55 PM

If he got away with it once before he may now think he can get away with it again and again. Voice your concerns with him on neutral grounds, or when he does help out with little things def tell him and maybe SHOW him how thankful and even sexy it is that you see him do that. He may do it more often knowing how it "turns you on a little" Ha ha. Works for me, winkwink.

I don't know if the child you speak of is both of yours or not, but if not.. your rules go (about the helmet). The other things you could live with, but it is annoying. Not taking your child safety in mind AT ALL TIMES is a No-No.


***POOF***


I do thank him when he does something positive.

Winx's photo
Fri 01/16/09 02:56 PM
Edited by Winx on Fri 01/16/09 02:56 PM

Not only does he seem lazy, but it sounds like he lacks initiative or real appreciation for the cooking and shopping.

Not exactly a winner, IMO...
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Hmmm...the word, lazy, is showing up a bunch.


Winx's photo
Fri 01/16/09 03:00 PM

He should want to help you without being asked!!


That's what I thought. That's how I was raised. It's about being a gentleman and doing the right thing to me.

Citizen_Joe's photo
Fri 01/16/09 03:03 PM

I came back from the store and asked him if he would help


"asked". You had to ask. Hmm. Retrain your man. He has to ask too, and well, I'm sure you could justify quite a few no answers, don't ya think? laugh laugh laugh laugh

Citizen_Joe's photo
Fri 01/16/09 03:04 PM


Not only does he seem lazy, but it sounds like he lacks initiative or real appreciation for the cooking and shopping.

Not exactly a winner, IMO...
'

Hmmm...the word, lazy, is showing up a bunch.




Ya think?

PATSFAN's photo
Fri 01/16/09 03:05 PM


He should want to help you without being asked!!


That's what I thought. That's how I was raised. It's about being a gentleman and doing the right thing to me.



That's how I was raised

MirrorMirror's photo
Fri 01/16/09 03:05 PM
:smile: He seems to be lazy or perhaps does not wish to "overstep" any "boundaries".:smile:

Winx's photo
Fri 01/16/09 03:09 PM


I am not one to put my personal business on here. But...I'm trying to figure out this guy.

My child was sick. He stayed with my child and watched TV with them while I went to the grocery store. It was dark, cold, and raining.

I came back from the store and asked him if he would help carry the groceries into the house. I had already made a trip. Btw, I have a bunch of steps out front. He stood in the door and asked, "Well, aren't you going to help?"

I told him that while he was watching TV, I was loading the car up with groceries while holding an umbrella in the rain and cold and dark. Couldn't he help bring the groceries in? He said that when someone asks for help, that means that he's helping them and not doing it all.

Another time he was getting to broil a steak. I have a new stove and the broiler pan was dusty. He stood by the sink and as I walked into the kitchen, he asked if I would wash it. I asked him if the sink was too far from him. He washed it.

This week he watched my child while I went somewhere for an hour. I was running late. I made dinner, feed them and flew out the door. When I came back I saw that the remaining food was still on the stove. I asked him why he didn't put the food in the refrigerator. He said that I didn't ask him to do that. He then said, "Well, you ate too."

He thinks my child doesn't need to wear a bike helmet when riding the new adult sized bike they got for Christmas. Said my child didn't need it to ride on the sidewalk of my street but would need it if riding around the park. I want my child to wear it all of the time.

Sorry it's so long.ohwell



From what Ive read it sounds like youre not getting the gentlemen you deserve. Dont waste your pumpkin/banana bread on him.

It doesnt seem like the kind of relationship where he can tell you how to raise your children either, be careful.

Im no child but my helmet has saved me on a couple of occasions mountain biking and road cycling.

Good Luck. happy


Thanks, Polarity.happy flowerforyou

Nice new pic, btw.:wink:

Tazz42's photo
Fri 01/16/09 03:09 PM

I am not one to put my personal business on here. But...I'm trying to figure out this guy.

My child was sick. He stayed with my child and watched TV with them while I went to the grocery store. It was dark, cold, and raining.

I came back from the store and asked him if he would help carry the groceries into the house. I had already made a trip. Btw, I have a bunch of steps out front. He stood in the door and asked, "Well, aren't you going to help?"

I told him that while he was watching TV, I was loading the car up with groceries while holding an umbrella in the rain and cold and dark. Couldn't he help bring the groceries in? He said that when someone asks for help, that means that he's helping them and not doing it all.

Another time he was getting to broil a steak. I have a new stove and the broiler pan was dusty. He stood by the sink and as I walked into the kitchen, he asked if I would wash it. I asked him if the sink was too far from him. He washed it.

This week he watched my child while I went somewhere for an hour. I was running late. I made dinner, feed them and flew out the door. When I came back I saw that the remaining food was still on the stove. I asked him why he didn't put the food in the refrigerator. He said that I didn't ask him to do that. He then said, "Well, you ate too."

He thinks my child doesn't need to wear a bike helmet when riding the new adult sized bike they got for Christmas. Said my child didn't need it to ride on the sidewalk of my street but would need it if riding around the park. I want my child to wear it all of the time. I just put this in here to show how he thinks.

Sorry it's so long.ohwell









Winx, do you want another child to take care of, guide and remind them what needs to be done every minute of the day????

Then keep the guy....if you haven't lost your mind yet and there is reason to believe he can grow up in the next 15 minutes...

If you are tired of the petty 5 year old arguements and don't need an adult child..loose him!

Good luck, sweetie!flowers


catwoman96's photo
Fri 01/16/09 03:12 PM
he doesnt sound good enough for you winxie.

u shouldnt have to ask him for help...he shoulda done it anyway

Redshirt's photo
Fri 01/16/09 03:13 PM
Hmmmm...Winx think some of this has already been mentioned to you.

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Aimee71's photo
Fri 01/16/09 03:17 PM
Sounds JUST like my last b/f .... LAAAAAZY!!!! I think you know this though...you just need to take a step back & see that entire picture clearly.

My ex moved in & right away I realized just how freakn lazy he was. He bought a laptop so he could park his butt on the couch or lay in the bed & not have to sit at a computer desk...LOL. He was asked to caulk the shower & got it everywhere & did not clean it up (let it dry all over the new tile I had put in). So when I didnt like how he did that he refused to do other things saying "you dont like the way I do things anyhow". Later my neighbors told me that they had even told him he better get off his lazy butt & help me out of Id be kicking him to the curb...LOL. The last straw was when he grabbed my child by her sprained wrist till she screamed in pain...& then refused to say he was sorry to her & instead said she deserved it (simply for bugging him & not stopping when he asked).

Girl, go w/ your gutt, he doesnt seem to have your kids best interests in mind if hes not having them wear the helmet that you have requested they wear.