Topic: Standards
MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 02/21/09 05:58 PM

I think they just shift. What was important when we were younger are maybe not as important now. When you are younger, looks are usually #1, at my age, looks are important, but they are not the determining factor. Don't get me wrong, there absolutely must be physical attraction there...otherwise I would still be married!



bigsmile Well spokenflowerforyou

galendgirl's photo
Sat 02/21/09 08:11 PM
Higher standards for fewer things - the things that REALLY matter instead of the superficial stuff.

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 02/21/09 08:15 PM

Higher standards for fewer things - the things that REALLY matter instead of the superficial stuff.
bigsmile thats rightflowerforyou

no photo
Sat 02/21/09 08:25 PM

:smile: As we get older do you think we lower or raise our standards on people?:smile:


I've never really had "standards", as they often get in the way of what could (and should) be a valid relationship. I determine each person's rating on their own merits only.

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 02/21/09 09:48 PM


:smile: As we get older do you think we lower or raise our standards on people?:smile:


I've never really had "standards", as they often get in the way of what could (and should) be a valid relationship. I determine each person's rating on their own merits only.
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Roco's photo
Wed 03/04/09 11:23 PM
There is an answer to this question. I will keep it to myself. It is a very important piece of information.

Roco

no photo
Thu 03/05/09 12:11 AM

:smile: As we get older do you think we lower or raise our standards on people?:smile:
i ACCEPT people for who they are. I am not here to change anyone. I do however have a choice as to whether I want to be with them.......

no photo
Thu 03/05/09 12:13 AM

:smile: As we get older do you think we lower or raise our standards on people?:smile:


I don't put standards on people. However like attracts like. We tend to hang with people of the same energy and vibration level.




Riding_Dubz's photo
Thu 03/05/09 08:13 AM

:smile: As we get older do you think we lower or raise our standards on people?:smile:


the bar defintally goes higher flowerforyou

lovethelord's photo
Thu 03/05/09 10:07 AM

:smile: As we get older do you think we lower or raise our standards on people?:smile:

have always had high standards.... love

tngxl65's photo
Thu 03/05/09 12:02 PM
It is an interesting question. I don't think it's a 'bar' so much as a matrix, or a quadrant. I think as I get older I'm more open to differences. The scope of people that I find interesting and appealing is much larger. I am more apt to appreciate the differences. But at the same time I have narrowed down certain expectations that I'm less willing to bend on. For instance I expect a certain level of responsibility and similar retirement goals. I want to be around someone that has a good job and is educated.

So, in some ways they raise and in some ways they loosen up a bit.

MirrorMirror's photo
Thu 03/05/09 08:50 PM


:smile: As we get older do you think we lower or raise our standards on people?:smile:


I don't put standards on people. However like attracts like. We tend to hang with people of the same energy and vibration level.







bigsmile I agreedrinker

sensualsweet's photo
Thu 03/05/09 09:04 PM
I think I have raised my standards, but lowered my expectations.

Make sense? IDK frustrated

no photo
Thu 03/05/09 09:06 PM
If nothing else, I've learned to not let my standards slip, which has happened with a couple of my relationships so far.

Winx's photo
Thu 03/05/09 09:07 PM

There is an answer to this question. I will keep it to myself. It is a very important piece of information.

Roco


Give me that information.pitchfork

Roco's photo
Thu 03/05/09 09:57 PM
If the information is revealed, the competitive advantage will no longer be there. Let's just say this information will be very useful in interviews, among other things.

Roco

heartbreaker123's photo
Thu 03/05/09 09:58 PM

scared Mine have hit rock bottomscared



I believe as you get older & have been through some relationships, you are more aware of what you want:smile:
:thumbsup: flowerforyou i have to agree and we learn a lot allso and remember the MISTAKE'S WE MADE BEFOREhuh and the older we get the wiser we get:wink: :angel: winking

JustAGuy2112's photo
Thu 03/05/09 10:58 PM
My standards have definitely gotten higher.

Earlier in life, I didn't like being alone. So I just took what I could get, so to speak.

Then...I allowed myself to be alone for a while. Over the last four years, I made a conscious decision to NOT get together with anyone who wasn't exactly what I was looking for.

Riding_Dubz's photo
Thu 03/05/09 11:18 PM
hard to impress easy to please love love love

JustAGuy2112's photo
Thu 03/05/09 11:39 PM

hard to impress easy to please love love love


I resemble that remark, Dubz. drinker