How would you deal with someone who is abusing the kindness you're showing?

I'm going thru that right now Mirror... and I'm not dealing with it well at all

Dunno.

Never happens unless I permit it, so...

I just had THAT happen, I left her presents and told her if she ever gets right again to call me.

Well that happens to me alot! Eventurally I get them outta my LIFE just when you really care for them it's kinda hard I have a few people whom I still think about!

I walk away and don't look back

let it go, they will learn eventually...you don't need the hurt

any form of abuse is not tolerated...

they would no longer be apart of my life

Stick it where it hurts..............

Time to move on

It's a tough feeling when you realize you're being taken advantage of. You have to tell yourself that some people are just insecure and use others to make themselves feel better and important. Others just don't understand boundaries and don't realize that they are taking advantage of you... chin up we've all been there!

you cut them out of your life and surround yourself with people that appreciate you

with bitter sarcasm

If there's no reciprocation & all you're doing is getting worn out and frustrated, the best thing to do is walk away.

You've got to figure out how to get yourself out of that situation...being used and then abused is not okay. Sometimes that person is a family member or someone you really care about - you don't have to beat them up but you can love them "from a distance."

Get married to them

People who need or depend upon kindnesses often do not realize that they are "abusing" the goodwill selfishly. If it were bothering me too much, I just recall that Saint John isn't the one whom I am helping out, but normal faulty people...just like me.

We are imperfect and life is filled with lots of gray areas, so it may depend on a lot of things.

If it truly is abuse, and it's bad, you may wish to leave.

If it's just a matter of being taken for granted, you may want to point it out, in a nice way.

Some people don't realize how they are being and will continue to act that way unless it is pointed out. Hell, you've got to work on your relationships, folks.

Be honest and say something. Offer some suggestions. Ask if you're being this way as well (you may very well be). Ask for advice from someone you know can give it to you, and not take sides. Read a self-help book, or go for counseling.

Don't give up too soon, but don't stick around if it is abusive and the other person won't work with you.

add bitter sarcasm and you've got a keeper!!