Alright so I've kind of been in a hard place th last few months. I was a bachelor living on my own, and then a girl came into the mix. We started seeing each other and eventually dated. She movied in with me, and we can all probably guess were this is leading up to lol. but yea I ended up spending all my money on her addictions (drugs,alcohol, Cigarettes) Eventually i ended up loosing my job I wasnt able to pay for what she wanted. She eventually grew tired of me not being able to buy her things and left me. Now im stuch with about $4500 in debt because of her...

And to make it worse I found out she was cheating on me the whole time with her ex. The day after she left me she was off screwing him.

So right now i feel used, abused, hurt, and cheated and just wanted to post this to see if anyone wanted to talk, to try and get my mind off of her =[

the peoples court

Hello gaetz ^_^

Sounds like your ex needs some time in my dungeon ^_^

she took advantage of you BIGGGGGGG TIME. she only cared about the money and her self. think back and did she ever do anything nice for you. she a looser BIG TIME!!! and why would you even want someone that did drugs that nothing but bad news.. im pretty sure everyone around you, was asking the same question why you were with her.. she was nothing but a free loader and lazy 'B'''

You say you can't get her off your mind?

Always hard to lose someone you loved, that loved you back.. but i read your post and i don't see much love coming back your way my man.
If you are dwelling on her for the bad things i can understand.. but at some point you have to realize everything is a learning experience.. in life and love.

Learn what you can from it, watch so history doesn't repeat itself.. and get out and meet people!

Yeah thats all i have.. running low on caffine tonight- might have to make a run to the mocha stand

Sorry to hear that.. Some people SUCK... Lesson learned I hope.. If they don't bring anything to the table you shouldn't have use for them...

That sucks hun!
you've been taken for one hell of a ride and she has enjoyed every min of it, you just have to put it behind you and learn from it, Don't let people into your life so openly know them before you share your life with them, you will move on but only in time. Have some time for yourself while you get out of the debt she has put you into and learn to know yourself before knowing other people work out what you want in life and what you want in the next partner
:)

sorry that happened to you. Live...learn...move on.

sorry to hear that. Hope you are able to move on and put that awfull past behind you

With love and life everyday is a learning experience. Get your life back on line and love will follow. Good Luck!

someday youll look back and be gald you went broke before she gave u an std..... but i think the real lesson here is you probably missed some signs before that day came. like drug use and someone taking from you, its nice to spend money on a lady but not when they require it. next time be more attentive to the details and get out before someone gets the chance to ues you.

dont worry, u have learnt ur lesson. U r a man, 4500bucks is nothing. take it easy.
Get ur self checked up for aids immidiately. Such girls normally have aids too owing to their addiction.
Next time just go slow, know the person thoroughly and then get involved. Men usually get involved blindly owing to their sensuality. U got to understand not all women deserve ur love, care and kindness.
AND LAST BUT NOT THE LEAST "TAKE LIFE AS IT COMES"
STOP RELENTING AND START SMILING AGAIN.

so true

thanks guys, and ive ben checked and im clean surprisingly. To tell you the truth I have no idea what I was thinking. Like i knew she was using me, but I was so blinded by love... even though she didnt really love me I loved hr for some really dumb stupid reason. I know 4500 isnt lots too lol I can pay that off pretty quick its just the fact that she ran up all that money...

but once again thanks guys

So you know andrea too? Sheesh! Everyone knows that lying, cheating, manipulative b!tch!

All I can say is take from this the tools to learn and maybe see red flags in the future. I'm sorry she hurt you, but don't let it impact your future.

Needy girls can come off as attractive as you can seemingly fulfill their needs. Like a hero thing. But you can't.... you need a girl who wants love, not material things or sucking you dry spiritually and financially.

a girl who just wants my love is rare... because all girls see i m wealth and what i can give to them :\

Stop buying things for people. Spend time with them, go to parks, rent movies, cook together.... but stop buying relationships.

don't be a sucker

no I know that, its just the fact that everyone knows my family is wealthy. So even before i get into the relationship thy know i have money. they dont ask but eventually stuff happens and I nd up taking pity and supporting them its dumb lol