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| Topic: Why do we feel the need to be accepted? | |
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most people are accepted by "there" group.ie bus assoc. rednecks,etc.
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 omg please accept me
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There is saftey in numbers. Basicaly a herd instinct. Most people, even the ones who say they don't care what others think are not truly alone. They have family, friends etc. and generaly conform to what is considered the norm for that group in order to be accepted. Not too many people would be able to spend an overly long period of time completely alone with out any human contact.
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 Why do we feel the need to be accepted?
Perhaps some of us were rejected or abandoned emotionally (or in physical reality) in our adolescence or earlier on in our childhood. |
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Because being accepted usually means that someone cares about you. We all need to feel loved and cared about.
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Because being accepted usually means that someone cares about you. We all need to feel loved and cared about. Spot on. |
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Because being accepted usually means that someone cares about you. We all need to feel loved and cared about. Spot on. yep
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Because I am human being and do not live in cave alone.
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Because I am human being and do not live in cave alone. Well put. Because we are human beings and it is an intrinsic need. No man is an island unto himself. Emotional Health is not distinguished by the ability to be independent, but by the willingness, the choice, to be interdependent upon one another. |
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Need vs Want...not sure it matters in this case.
There are a lot of "I don't care" type responses and I'm not sure people REALLY don't care (don't slap me down here, people  )
I just think we get smart enough (eventually) to quit trying to please everyone else and be ourselves. Interestingly, that's the time you usually find more acceptance than when you tried so hard... |
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Need vs Want...not sure it matters in this case. There are a lot of "I don't care" type responses and I'm not sure people REALLY don't care (don't slap me down here, people )
I just think we get smart enough (eventually) to quit trying to please everyone else and be ourselves. Interestingly, that's the time you usually find more acceptance than when you tried so hard... good point
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I don't have that need. I don't need validation for being the person I am, because I'm gonna just keep on being me anyway, whether anybody likes it or not.
This is me. This is who I am. This is what I do. This is how I roll. *I have no idea what that last one even means, but I'm trying to fit in with the kids.* |
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Edited by
Krimsa
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Tue 01/06/09 05:31 AM
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Why do we feel the need to be accepted?
Well I’m sure it dates as far back as our human beginnings as cave people. Although back then, to not be "accepted" would have meant certain death. At the very least to be ostracized from the greater existing social structure in place and the inability to successfully reproduce offspring. It’s a need that is deeply rooted in our pre-history as socially driven and motivated creatures. |
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Why do we feel the need to be accepted?
Well I’m sure it dates as far back as our human beginnings as cave people. Although back then, to not be "accepted" would have meant certain death. At the very least to be ostracized from the greater existing social structure in place and the inability to successfully reproduce offspring. It’s a need that is deeply rooted in our pre-history as socially driven and motivated creatures.  I agree
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Well there's two definitions of that ..
It's healthy to have a strong self-esteem and know who you are and be happy with that. But we are somewhat fragile creatures whether we admit it or not. And the fabric of families is to provide a base where we can be accepted for who we are with no strings no conditions. It's a warm fuzzy to have a place to go where the circle is always open to you. 
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Well there's two definitions of that .. It's healthy to have a strong self-esteem and know who you are and be happy with that. But we are somewhat fragile creatures whether we admit it or not. And the fabric of families is to provide a base where we can be accepted for who we are with no strings no conditions. It's a warm fuzzy to have a place to go where the circle is always open to you.
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Well there's two definitions of that .. It's healthy to have a strong self-esteem and know who you are and be happy with that. But we are somewhat fragile creatures whether we admit it or not. And the fabric of families is to provide a base where we can be accepted for who we are with no strings no conditions. It's a warm fuzzy to have a place to go where the circle is always open to you.
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wanna be part of my family? 
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I personally enjoy acceptance to a certain degree and that is really the only way to make friends or get to know someone. They need to accept you enough to allow you access to them on a more intimate level. However I’m also a very "take it or leave it person" in that respect.
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Well there's two definitions of that .. It's healthy to have a strong self-esteem and know who you are and be happy with that. But we are somewhat fragile creatures whether we admit it or not. And the fabric of families is to provide a base where we can be accepted for who we are with no strings no conditions. It's a warm fuzzy to have a place to go where the circle is always open to you.
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wanna be part of my family?
 Sure
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I personally enjoy acceptance to a certain degree and that is really the only way to make friends or get to know someone. They need to accept you enough to allow you access to them on a more intimate level. However I’m also a very "take it or leave it person" in that respect. Well said Krimsa
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