Why did 'pink' become a universal girlie color?

Good morning JAG,
I would like to hit you up for some answers.
My heart hurts with the separation from my husband. I think he is happy, and yet he won't say the words that it is over. He is living with someone else, but when he is in town, he still looks at me with love and lust. And I brought that to his attention, and he could not deny it. I asked him why he married me, he said because I love (not loved) you.
So why won't he say it's over, or that he is happy, or even that right now he doesn't know what he wants? Why can't he give me any answers? I guess for me to know one way or the other would hurt less.

Here's the set up:

Hate my current job/boss...the zombies still haven't come. This is a situation where my work gets used, I get used and I will be thwarted in any attempt to 'promote' out via more work (ain't gonna happen, bottom line!)

1)Have an interview for a new job/boss with same company on Tuesday afternoon. Will eventually require a move and is current best pay status but with limited future. Could do this for a temp time - 6 months or so.

2)Have an invitation for an interview - high "title" position, lower pay, probably only 2 years max, requires no relocation (for now.)

3)Have a potential internship beginning in June in a different city/state. Very scary to make this sort of a move - would put me geographically further from my kids in college (shorter travel time by plane than current drive, though) and will offer cultural advantages and is the thing I wanted to do for 20 years. HOWEVER, this is also going to offer lower pay for the interim 1-5 years but with long-term career potential (did I say I still have to work a long, long time???)

I'm thinking pursue #3 despite the potential budget crunch for a few years and still take #1 if they offer (no harm no foul to the company) for the time between now and summer. Also decline the invitation for #2 since it's really not gonna offer longevity & I probably DO need to leave the town I'm in for a variety of reasons.

I'd welcome anyone's advice or thoughts. I've been spinning this stuff for months and am mentally EXHAUSTED! It's great to have options, but geez...

He isn't giving you any answers because he doesn't really have to.

There are only two reasons for him to be doing this to you.

1) Because he thinks he made a mistake but can't admit it.

2) Because it's an ego boost for him to know that he can keep you hanging and hurting.

Judging by what you have said, your first reaction to my second reason is going to be " Bullsh*t!!! He really isn't like that!!! "

Well...bullsh*t. There are an awful lot of guys who may not have seemed to be that way, but they'll break down and wind up being that way when they need their ego stroked.

You have one of two options. Especially since he's " living with someone else ".

1) Keep sitting there wishing and hoping that he realizes his mistake.

2) Pull your head out of the sand and realize that, no matter how much he doesn't say it's over...it really is.

The truth of the matter as I see it is this....you two " separated ". He is now living with someone else, which indicates a relationship with that other person. Whether or not he still looks at you a certain way is irrelevant. He is, if he still wants to be with you but can't admit it, playing a game that you really don't need to be a part of.

I have no idea ( because the info wasn't provided ) you two have been separated. Depending on the length of time, my advice would be to grow a little spine and be very blunt and ask him about it. For you to have any real peace of mind, you are going to have to get an answer from him. If you bluntly ask him if it's over, and he's still reluctant to answer you, then it's over.

I am only basing my advice on the information at hand.