oh

that's great

I am happy for you...

Thank you, I wish everyone can find the same as I have. That is my true
wish. I never though I would, but since I have...I know it is possible
for others.

Blanca, when it is right it is just great.
Hope for all the blessings poss. dear
Keep the conversation going.

Thank you oldsage...Rebecca by the way. Nice to meet you. I waited long
enough so it's more enjoyable to find the right man. I don't think he
would have like me 20 years ago...and now at 44 and 9 children
later...he's the one! (not the one who fathered them all...lol) but he's
great!

The fact that my two ex's cheated on me pretty much did me in on ever
marrying again. I won't go for the "third" time is a charm. It is too
devastating and I will never let myself go through that kind of pain
again!

I can forgive but I could never trust the person again, which means I
would never stay with someone who has cheated on me...Trust is scared to
me and once broke it stays that way!!!!

I believe in second chances

But i got paid the same so

probably i wouldn't take someone

Back if they cheat JMO

Alright ... Cole's Notes version...

Ex-husband cheated ... was very out of character ... so took him back
and worked it out.

I did a lot of work to forgive and forget ... I forgave completely and
loved unconditionally. The forgetting doesn't mean that it is out of
your memory but that the events have been completely processed so that
you no longer have any emotional charge attached to then. From that
place you can look at it as an observer without holding on to it.

So yes it is possible. He, however, cheated again 8 years later so it
was over.

It is not something I would do again. If my partner cheats. I am gone.
I lived that experience. I learned from it. It is not something I care
to live again.

Like the Maya Angelou quote - "When people show you who they are believe
them the first time."

No anger, no regrets, no bitterness....just on to different lessons.

Cheating hurts people. I can forgive but not forget.

Nope, I don't deal with that..... Happened to me a couple of times,
once it hurt real bad and took me a while to feel normal about
relationships again. So... now I take longer to develop relationships
and I don't just jump into things. I take my time.

23 years and never cheated.Just couldn't hurt the person I cared about
like that.If someone gives you their complete trust and you love
them.You should protect that becouse without it you have NOTHING!!

This is an interesting topic.

Causes me to want to relate my story...

I was married for 15 yrs.

My ex cheated for the first time less than two years after our
wedding... with my best friend who was my best man.
Another was with her best friends husband... I do not know how many
times she cheated. After so many, does it matter?

I was able to forgive the cheating...

What I could not forgive was that she kept telling me that her actions
were my fault...

I was stupid for sticking around so long...

Sorry, you cheat on me and you are through...I believe if you do it once
you will do it again. No, I could never forgive someone who
cheated on me...that is ONE of the greatest breaches of trust there is
in a relationship!

KB, I'd have to agree. You can "forgive" but you could never "forget."
You could stay and never bring it up again and maybe, in time, you'd
heal but IMO the relationship, the bond, would never be the same. For
me, cheating would mean he never loved me in the first place, or
certainly doesn't love me now. None of this "It didn't mean anything"
garbage.

I could forgive but not forget. In my younger years I took back a
cheating boyfriend, nothing was ever the same again nor was it worth it.

Cheat once, I'm gone. No matter how long the realtionship has been, not
going to go through all that for again for a man. No matter how much I
loved him, or how difficult it would be.

the way i see it,if your not looking at the table when i roll..its
always a yahtzee

It has been ruined. So no

Cheating is why my relationship split up and no, I can't forgive him. He did it too many times and with the same woman. Didn't and still don't understand why, but will never forgive him either way.

ex husband cheated on me for years before I found out.

The person he was cheating with didn't know he was married.

In a chance meeting, her and I met and when introduce thought I was his sister and that is how we both found out about each other.