You know the first thing that came into my head was, maybe he feels the same way. If that be the case then its just an unfortunate side-step. I believe that the most likely of all that your reading too much into it. You should just sit the dude down and ask him what he thinks happened, and just make sure everything is kosher.

Im going to be honest here cause that's just how I am. I think you might have crossed a boundary with the wake up time. He might have viewed that as an authoritative statement and not a compassionate one.

Anyway, good luck and I hope this gets resolved for the best.

Well if you're the apologetic type and he's annoyed by it then either ya'll can try to accomodate the other and change a bit or you can just let it go. Call him - talk to him - be honest with him about what's going on in your head. If he's not feeling it, then it's better to find out now.

Good luck from a fellow Houstonian

Background Info: My bf, Jeff and I have only been dating for about a month, but we've known each other atleast 8 years. Over the years we've lost contact with each other, but recently met back up. I invited him to my cousin's Halloween party and since that night we've been a couple.

Last weekend, I was staying at his place after we went out for a few drinks. I told him around 2am that I felt back because he had to be up at 6:30 for work. Around 4:30am, I again mentioned feelin bad because he had to work in a few hours. He got upset and said fine he'd just go to bed. So he rolled over and went to bed. I couldn't sleep and when his alarm went off at 5:30 I left. Other than a short phone call yesterday, we haven't really talked since then.

There's tons of questions going through my head. First, should he have gotten upset for me being concerned that he wasn't getting much sleep? Am I making too much out of something? It just hasnt' been the same the last few days compared to the night of my cousin's party and the weeks after it.

I don't think you did anything wrong.

Background Info: My bf, Jeff and I have only been dating for about a month, but we've known each other atleast 8 years. Over the years we've lost contact with each other, but recently met back up. I invited him to my cousin's Halloween party and since that night we've been a couple.

Last weekend, I was staying at his place after we went out for a few drinks. I told him around 2am that I felt back because he had to be up at 6:30 for work. Around 4:30am, I again mentioned feelin bad because he had to work in a few hours. He got upset and said fine he'd just go to bed. So he rolled over and went to bed. I couldn't sleep and when his alarm went off at 5:30 I left. Other than a short phone call yesterday, we haven't really talked since then.

There's tons of questions going through my head. First, should he have gotten upset for me being concerned that he wasn't getting much sleep? Am I making too much out of something? It just hasnt' been the same the last few days compared to the night of my cousin's party and the weeks after it.

Oh geeze. Ok...here's the deal as I see it.

From what I read...when you said something about it the first time...he didn't complain or say much of anything. Maybe an " it's ok " or something along those lines??

That being the case, I too, might get a bit irritated if someone apologizes more than once for something I have already said wasn't a big deal.

I really think he was enjoying your company. If he wasn't, then getting to sleep so he could go to work would have been a bigger priority for him.

Unfortunately, he may have felt like a second apology for the same thing was a bit of a mood killer. He may have gotten frustrated when you didn't take him at his word, or his silence ( whichever the case may be ) the first time.

this is only my opinion - someone keeps reminding me of things I already know (I see the good intentions) would truly only annoy me.

If you're gonna keep me awake - let's not talk

Do I think you did anything wrong? No

Do I think he was justified for getting upset with you? No

Bottom line, your bf is a big boy. He knows what his responsibilities are (or at least he should) and he knows the consequences of his actions. It just sounds like he has a little priority problem. You need to talk to him and make it clear that you did what you did out of concern, not mothering. On the flip side, next time maybe you should let him discover for himself how valuable your advice is by not giving him any......

Well we met up on Wednesday after he got off work. In conversation and in a light hearted way, I brought up Sunday morning. Apparently, he don't remember saying that he was fine with only two hours of sleep. He found out though that he shouldn't have stayed up so late, because he got up for work late the next day. Things are back to where they were before that night.