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I think i've said this before.....If We both love each other & want to make the relationship permanent than I want to be married.....I don't want to introduce her as my girlfriend, but as my wife.... I want to show her my committment to only her....can do that without marriage, but it is the act that counts.....like random acts of kindness, i believe in 'acts of love'...... The ceremony is the 'sharing of love'   that is beautiful....
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I think i've said this before.....If We both love each other & want to make the relationship permanent than I want to be married.....I don't want to introduce her as my girlfriend, but as my wife.... I want to show her my committment to only her....can do that without marriage, but it is the act that counts.....like random acts of kindness, i believe in 'acts of love'...... The ceremony is the 'sharing of love' that is beautiful....
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I think i've said this before.....If We both love each other & want to make the relationship permanent than I want to be married.....I don't want to introduce her as my girlfriend, but as my wife.... I want to show her my committment to only her....can do that without marriage, but it is the act that counts.....like random acts of kindness, i believe in 'acts of love'...... The ceremony is the 'sharing of love' But all of that is unnecessary, nothing more then a 'proof' that you are in love with someone. You can have a permanent relationship and not have to get married, you can still introduce them as your wife/husband without getting married...all of these things still don't show the necessity of marriage. |
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I think i've said this before.....If We both love each other & want to make the relationship permanent than I want to be married.....I don't want to introduce her as my girlfriend, but as my wife.... I want to show her my committment to only her....can do that without marriage, but it is the act that counts.....like random acts of kindness, i believe in 'acts of love'...... The ceremony is the 'sharing of love' But all of that is unnecessary, nothing more then a 'proof' that you are in love with someone. You can have a permanent relationship and not have to get married, you can still introduce them as your wife/husband without getting married...all of these things still don't show the necessity of marriage. Marriage is not necessary, its a choice.....you choose not to & that is okay for you.....when I meet Ms. Right she will become Mrs. BlueSky, it will be our choice & i'll be the happiest guy alive |
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A ceremony does not make the marriage...only the couple can do that, but the ceremony is important to some from the religious aspect and to others for the family union involved. You are not just committing to one person, but infusing them into your family too...a welcoming party makes perfect sense to me.
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I think i've said this before.....If We both love each other & want to make the relationship permanent than I want to be married.....I don't want to introduce her as my girlfriend, but as my wife.... I want to show her my committment to only her....can do that without marriage, but it is the act that counts.....like random acts of kindness, i believe in 'acts of love'...... The ceremony is the 'sharing of love' But all of that is unnecessary, nothing more then a 'proof' that you are in love with someone. You can have a permanent relationship and not have to get married, you can still introduce them as your wife/husband without getting married...all of these things still don't show the necessity of marriage. It makes the woman more respected in society too. |
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A ceremony does not make the marriage...only the couple can do that, but the ceremony is important to some from the religious aspect and to others for the family union involved. You are not just committing to one person, but infusing them into your family too...a welcoming party makes perfect sense to me.
Well said, Love. |
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Definition of "Marriage" is a social, religious, spiritual, or legal union of individuals.
I believe in the institution of marriage. Why NOT get married if you love the person; unless you are unsure and honestly don't believe you or the other party won't work at keeping it together. |
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Definition of "Marriage" is a social, religious, spiritual, or legal union of individuals. I believe in the institution of marriage. Why NOT get married if you love the person; unless you are unsure and honestly don't believe you or the other party won't work at keeping it together. Better question; why get married if you love someone? |
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Edited by
Rapunzel
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Mon 10/27/08 04:32 PM
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well dear Fear & Loathing
if you have never gotten married 
and if you have never really been so much in love 
that you want to do everything you can
to respect & love & cherish your Lover
& to make that person feel secure 
& feel that you are < for real >
& in it for < the long haul > ... 
& to be as close to that person as you can possibly be,
then i don't know what else to say ... 
except you just don't know what you are missing... 
cause there are no words to describe 
the amazing feeling of fulfillment & the sheer ecstasy of it
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Definition of "Marriage" is a social, religious, spiritual, or legal union of individuals. I believe in the institution of marriage. Why NOT get married if you love the person; unless you are unsure and honestly don't believe you or the other party won't work at keeping it together. Better question; why get married if you love someone? Because it's the right thing to do. It makes the women a respected member of society too. |
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Definition of "Marriage" is a social, religious, spiritual, or legal union of individuals. I believe in the institution of marriage. Why NOT get married if you love the person; unless you are unsure and honestly don't believe you or the other party won't work at keeping it together. Better question; why get married if you love someone? Because it's the right thing to do. It makes the women a respected member of society too. So it all really comes down to society's view? And what greater being decides that it is the "right thing to do"? I'm sorry, but no one aside from Bluesky is really selling the idea to me here. |
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Definition of "Marriage" is a social, religious, spiritual, or legal union of individuals. I believe in the institution of marriage. Why NOT get married if you love the person; unless you are unsure and honestly don't believe you or the other party won't work at keeping it together. Better question; why get married if you love someone? Because it's the right thing to do. It makes the women a respected member of society too. So it all really comes down to society's view? And what greater being decides that it is the "right thing to do"? I'm sorry, but no one aside from Bluesky is really selling the idea to me here. Bluesky has it right. He also says it better then me. |
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That is so not true. What fantasy world did you just walk out of? marige is nothing but a piece of paper that says your mine and actually in reality no one owns anyone but because you signed the paper alot will look at it as a form of control when being with somone is something freely given. NO way Mike...are you kidding? |
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well dear Fear & Loathing
if you have never gotten married
and if you have never really been so much in love
that you want to do everything you can
to respect & love & cherish your Lover
& to make that person feel secure
& feel that you are < for real >
& in it for < the long haul > ...
& to be as close to that person as you can possibly be,
then i don't know what else to say ...
except you just don't know what you are missing...
cause there are no words to describe
the amazing feeling of fulfillment & the sheer ecstasy of it
If I love someone, I will do what is in my ability to do so that person is happy. I fail to see how marriage denotes the connotation that I am happy with the person and committed to them. Furthermore I fail to see the distinction between married and love, they are not of the same as love is a never ending last forever type of thing and marriage fades and eventually (on average) fails after 5 years. |
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Edited by
Rapunzel
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Mon 10/27/08 04:52 PM
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well dear Fear & Loathing
if you have never gotten married
and if you have never really been so much in love
that you want to do everything you can
to respect & love & cherish your Lover
& to make that person feel secure
& feel that you are < for real >
& in it for < the long haul > ...
& to be as close to that person as you can possibly be,
then i don't know what else to say ...
except you just don't know what you are missing...
cause there are no words to describe
the amazing feeling of fulfillment & the sheer ecstasy of it
If I love someone, I will do what is in my ability to do so that person is happy. I fail to see how marriage denotes the connotation that I am happy with the person and committed to them. Furthermore I fail to see the distinction between married and love, they are not of the same as love is a never ending last forever type of thing and marriage fades and eventually (on average) fails after 5 years. to each his own F & L.... 
but we all have valid reasons
and if you think you have it all figured out,
then why start a thread anyway ?
if you go away with nothing more
than what you arrived with
you haven't expanded your way of thinking any
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I'll never stop believing in forever if I did i'd give up on
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I started this thread for an understanding, and have come away with some things...not enough to change my opinion on the matter, but enough that I can see where it comes into play. Obviously I don't have it all figured out (hence the questions, scan through the thread I posted a number of them) otherwise I wouldn't have posted the thread in the first place...
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I started this thread for an understanding, and have come away with some things...not enough to change my opinion on the matter, but enough that I can see where it comes into play. Obviously I don't have it all figured out (hence the questions, scan through the thread I posted a number of them) otherwise I wouldn't have posted the thread in the first place... well that is very good Dear
no hard feelings
just want you to have a grasp
of why others feel the way they do
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I have to say this thread has raised some very interesting points... personally I am torn on the whole marriage issue... the romantic in me wants to have the "forever" and "happily ever after" aspects that people want to associate with marriage... the realist in me has seen some messy divorces and has a hard time dealing with some of the antiquated notions associated with marriage and what specifically that little piece of paper means
But I have not given up on love even though the institution of marriage does not always seem like it would be ideal for me
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