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Topic: Is being nice not a good thing anymore?
MsCarmen Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 6282	Sun 10/26/08 06:27 PM
Actually...theres a: 1. great guy(Has nuts) 2. nice guy(tend to be used as welcome mats...lack of nuts) 3. Whussy(they tend to call themselves nice guys...cry when they get dumped by there girlfriend...no nuts) 4. @sshole And you know you're #1 baby! I was going for #4 Are nuts included?

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Sun 10/26/08 06:31 PM
Actually...theres a: 1. great guy(Has nuts) 2. nice guy(tend to be used as welcome mats...lack of nuts) 3. Whussy(they tend to call themselves nice guys...cry when they get dumped by there girlfriend...no nuts) 4. @sshole And you know you're #1 baby! I was going for #4 Are nuts included? Extra large...WOOOO!!!!!!!!!

MsCarmen Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 6282	Sun 10/26/08 06:38 PM
Actually...theres a: 1. great guy(Has nuts) 2. nice guy(tend to be used as welcome mats...lack of nuts) 3. Whussy(they tend to call themselves nice guys...cry when they get dumped by there girlfriend...no nuts) 4. @sshole And you know you're #1 baby! I was going for #4 Are nuts included? Extra large...WOOOO!!!!!!!!!

tundraguy Joined Mon 10/27/08 Posts: 457	Thu 10/30/08 05:54 PM
i was that guy in the middle. based on what i am reading here its pretty true. i gave my wife everything and anything and always tried to be nice.... worked out great we have been separated for 4 almost 5 weeks now, she got mean about the whole thing and who knows what goes on from here

xcite4ever Joined Mon 10/20/08 Posts: 239	Thu 10/30/08 06:07 PM
They want to be treated nice and with respect, except in bed of course!

alexiateigra Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 1326	Thu 10/30/08 06:09 PM
Beat the girl senseless till she likes ya ;) along with cheat, lie, whore her out and then do the same to her bestfriend seems like the thing to do. Any male that believes this load of $#@% isn't looking for a real woman but, a Barbie Doll!. Don't waste our time whinning about being nice doesn't get you anywhere. The truth is that it takes more than simply being "nice". It is about being sincere, honest, kind, and compassionate.

alexiateigra Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 1326	Thu 10/30/08 06:14 PM
Op.. It's rather sad huh man,Anyway (Socratease) shot you the best advice I feel! What he's sating is true man, If your a nice fella and want the same in return, You have to be careful man... Cuss the days of Women wanting to be treated like a Queen is as used up as a box of Crispy Cream Donuts in a police station! Just be prepared to punt the evil ones through the up rights, at anytime! But like he said,They don't wan't a tater-tot, And Don't sell out neither man. Usually I've found it that women who want to be treated nice will just "Tell You" Example; C'Mon take me out, lets go to dinner, Or grab a drink perhaps... It's like the whole Wall Mart VS. Mall thing actually. Keep it simple and real. You take a chick to the Mall and lets her have whatever, She'll only browse around...But man, You drop them off at Wall Mart, Dude there's baskets coming outta that store, They only need you to open the Trunk up! That's Right In this case, it is about the quality of the person - not an apt description of all women. I can honestly say that this kind of behavior does not reflect the majority of my sex. If this is the kind of woman that you are attracked to you than I think you are getting what you deserve.

Horrorcomedybuff Joined Tue 10/28/08 Posts: 76	Thu 10/30/08 06:16 PM
I don't think being nice is bad, but I treated my ex great and she dumped me. She told me after we broke up that I treated her like '****', but it was bs on her part. I never did anything to her, but I guess this is a bad example.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Thu 10/30/08 06:59 PM
Beat the girl senseless till she likes ya ;) along with cheat, lie, whore her out and then do the same to her bestfriend seems like the thing to do. Yes. Oh be still my heart.

keepthehope Joined Sun 09/02/07 Posts: 4263	Fri 10/31/08 12:24 AM
Seems like ladies like the guys that treat them like crap, soooo is that the way I should become? Don't you dare. It's just so hard to find one that doesn't, we always seem stuck with them.

Alzeimer Joined Thu 10/23/08 Posts: 2268	Fri 10/31/08 06:25 AM
Just be who you are and stay that way, if your not yourself than your lying to the world and that never works in the long road. For every type of person (good,bad, nice, rude) there is a match its just sometimes hard to find our type but they are out there.

tundraguy Joined Mon 10/27/08 Posts: 457	Fri 10/31/08 06:14 PM
i agree with alzeimer. if you change who you are and the way you are you wont even know who you are later down the line. i thought of doing the same thing, the heck with being a nice guy. some girls will appreciate it all the way thru and some wont. like me you just have to learn to not be a total pushover and stand your ground on things that matter to you

simplelife123 Joined Tue 11/04/08 Posts: 128	Sat 11/08/08 04:09 PM
i gave my wife everything and anything and always tried to be nice. I made the same mistake and it was a mistake.Giving a woman that constantly complains and is never happy is telling her that her behavior is acceptable. I know now "DO NOT REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR".

alexiateigra Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 1326	Tue 11/11/08 06:05 PM
i gave my wife everything and anything and always tried to be nice. I made the same mistake and it was a mistake.Giving a woman that constantly complains and is never happy is telling her that her behavior is acceptable. I know now "DO NOT REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR". <Shakes Head> The fact that you are obviously oversimplifying indicates lack of understanding the basic requirement of all relationships - communication. I strongly suspect that you may have thought you gave her everything but, in reality completely ignored her needs.

I_am_Montel Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 83	Tue 11/11/08 06:10 PM
ANY person will teach how they would like to be treated. So not listen to the words, but watch the actions that follow. Every one likes a little adventure. MEN and WOMEN. They key is how to balance it.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Tue 11/11/08 06:29 PM
With a rebel yell she cried more, more, moreee!

alexiateigra Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 1326	Tue 11/11/08 06:35 PM
ANY person will teach how they would like to be treated. So not listen to the words, but watch the actions that follow. Every one likes a little adventure. MEN and WOMEN. They key is how to balance it. ???????? I don't disagree with you necessarily. To judge a person, it is best to understand their actions. With that being said, a person's words still have power and still have meaning. Thus it is still important to listen to their words but, also listen to what they are not verbally saying. I think the user that began this thread has some unresolved issues. For instance, he isn't actually sincerly seeking advice but, is using this thread as an excuse to treat women badly or at the very least without thought or consideration because he is pissed at his ex. It is okay to be mad or angry. All is fair in love and war but, the person that he is doing the most arm to is himself. What he needs is ...........Be mad, Be angry, But be honest w/ himself.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Tue 11/11/08 06:54 PM
They want to be treated nice and with respect, except in bed of course! WTF????

tundraguy Joined Mon 10/27/08 Posts: 457	Tue 11/11/08 06:57 PM
just need a 50/50 mix of nice genuine guy and im still a guy and i got a pair mix. some days ur the dog some days your the hydrant

TeddyBear3403 Joined Sun 11/02/08 Posts: 29	Tue 11/11/08 06:59 PM
seems to me they want the cheaters and the liers ... the caring, sincere, and honest of us just become their "friends" (not even with benefits LOL)...