This man I date now is really close to me. He is my kids father, but I just don't now sometimes if he loves me or not. I work 8hrs a day, 7days a week at a hospital with disabled patients. By the time I get home, I be sore and tired. he picks the kids up first, then comes and picks me up from work, drops us off home, and then leaves. He always has somewhere to go after I get off work. I have to come home with the kids, cook, clean, and get them and myself ready for work the next day. When he decides he wants to come home 8:30-9(EST) at night, he eats, then goes to sleep. He don't tell me he love sme anymore unless I ask, he don't hold me anymore unless he wants sex, he won't even give me a massage unless I ask. I know he's not cheating because he always tell me where he is. I keeps asking me if we will always be together because he don't want to leave me. But I don't know. Does he love me?

if he doesn't say it I wouldn't take that as a good sign

Newsflash: Just because he tells you where he is, doesn't always mean that he is, or doesn't mean he didn't leave and go somewhere else. Just saying....

Sounds like he's just in a rut. How about you try masaging him..

How about you go out and leave him at home?

Does he work? Because he should be trying to help you out more than just with a ride.
Like some cleaning up the house at least?
But you have alot of flags waving and I would be really wanting to talk to him about them..I mean if he will?
Because its better to know how he's feeling NOW than later when your NOT thinking about it.
Just my thoughts.

this is a sign of a relationship with the flame dying out.

there's quite a few details missing here. does he work also? Do you guys have alot on your plates right now? Meaning is there alot of bills and not enough free time. What was it like before the kids came? He might just be trying to deal with everything and conserve as much energy as he can.

one more thing why dont you ask him,and why are you looking for a man for dating and asking a question like this

Your profile states you are looking for a man for dating ... and your tagline - looking for real true love ...


You are asking if he loves you ... but do you love him?

Gee I could not handle that? I need some affection! I'd be beter off be MYSELF! Sorry to hear that

wow.........sounds like my ex hubby!!!! except his first love was video games!!!

GOOD POINT!

I think He Loves you, and the Children. But you have too question if he Loves being a Family. I would let Him know that you like the dedication he shows to the family, when it comes too making sure they are safe and sound at Home, and whatever other good qualities he has. But let Him know that its only a Home if he is there most of the time, and is continues too be the Head. Its important for the Children too see Him take a bigger Role with helping you and the Children once your Home. Your needs are very important also. You need intimate interaction with Him. You need to be reasured that He appreciates all that you are going to keep the Family, a Family. You need Him too Talk to you,Touch you,Make Special tme for you both. You Both dont want to end up being roomates, or just sticking it out for the Kids. Dont leave it up to Him. Start making plans for the kids to be somewhere else one weekend a Month. Start Him of slow so he wont feel pressured. Start doing things that will make him miss you when he goes out. Plan small Family outtings. Take it slow, it idint get like this overnight. Listen, if you have to ask, and he does it, then ask. Good luck

Don't have enough information to make a fair call. If he is working and doing odd jobs in the evening such as taking care of extened family it is a lot different than just running the road. Sounds to me like you have gotten your self in a situation where you are a live in squeeze and that is all you are ever going to be. Doesn't look good. Some one loves you you don't have to beg them to say I love you. And if you have two kids together he should have married you a long time ago and made it clear where you and they stand. Sounds like he is just coming home for some fall back booty and to keep the on the live in Daddy track where you are probably footing a lot of the bills besides the stuff you mention. If you are going to save this relationship you need to make up your mind what you are doing. Looking for something different while you have a man is not going to get you anyone worth having. As is the life you are leading is a poor example of family life for your kids. If you work in a hospital you have resources for counseling and I suggest you use them before your life completely disintigrates and you are just another statisic. As your kids get older they are only going to have the respect for you that you demonstrate for yourself.

Just quit your questioning and do something about it

best advise is to sit him down and ask him outright - good luck

WTF was wrong with that dude???