Hi,
I met a really nice guy some weeks ago. From the being I knew he is newly-wed so this whole story is no love-thing. I just appreciated the talking we had and I'm really interested in building up a friendship. The problem ist that we met on a kind of professional basis and I'm not quiete sure if he's interested in a private contact. We exchanged some emails till then but eventhough we shared some private stuff he's always very polite and shortspoken - thinking it over you might say he just acts professional. Yesterday I read in another forum that his company tracks the email-contact... now I'm feeling very stupid about sharing any private stuff at all using his business-address... What should I do now? On one hand I really like to keep in touch with him but I don't want to put any pressure on him (company... wife...) and on the other hand I don't want to make a complete idiot out of myself just because he might only does his job in brilliant way. Why are relationships between human beings always that difficult? Or is that just me?

hes married let it go

run as fast as you can !

best thing to do when you are not sure about a situation is get away from it! there are plenty of good people out there to be friends with!

I agree with Tina

I agree with letting it go. I don't think think his WIFE would understand a private email relationship. If you want to keep the contact you have now....refrain from personal info...keep it short and business like as he does you.

Sounds as if you really want more than conversation! Forbidden fruit...let the family be...

Ditto, sounds like you are reading more into the situation. Step back the man is married how would you feel to be in his wife's position .

Been there done that and it ain't a good feeling I assure you!!

Relationships AREN'T that difficult, when they are meant to be. This one doesn't sound like it's "supposed to be." Don't cause drama for the man.

Thanks for your comments - letting it go is just what goes through my mind since the beginning...
But your wrong when you say I want more than friendship... I believe in marriage / lasting relationships and I would never cheat or try to convince somebody to cheat or something like that...

IT ALL STARTS OUT INNOCENT,BELIEVE ME

Walk away just because you have a nice conversation with someone does not mean you have to pursue a friendship. Think about what his NEW WIFE would think.

Unless your friendship included both of them...WALK AWAY.

Is good conversation so hard to find? I find it all the time.

You need to leave him alone because he is MARRIED!
So what if he isn't "in love" or having a "hard time" in the marriage- It isn't your place to try to fix it or even talk about it.
He needs to discuss those matters with his wife.

you like the guy face it,come on you really have to ask about conversation? best thing to do is keep it professional and thats all.theres always someone you find attractive when they are takin thats just how life is, but he is married and i would just keep it professional before rumors start and his wife gets wind of it.

I'll be the devil's advocate here and say:




You are all that matters in this world. Kidnap the wife and put her on a one way flight to myanmar, then sweep this man off his feet. You two will fall in love guaranteed, you'll have two beautiful children, and live very wealthy. You two will live happily ever after.



Cheers!

Sounds a little lolitaish to me......

The fact that you are even asking this question tells me that you could be thinking of doing something with this man. I wouldnt trust you as far as I could throw you!!!

married = off-limits

move on

Nice humor!

But....




Aren't you the person throwing champion?