YOU ARE AN ALCOHOLIC, GET TO AA IMMEDIATELY!!!

Honostly, if you are having relationship problems because of your drinking then you should probably check yourself. Usually when you are dumped because of drinking, then you drink to much. JMO,

I wouldn't date someone who HAD to drink till he got a buzz everyday.

You hint to the fact that the reason your girlfriend left you was because from alcohol, but you don't think drinking is a bad thing. You scoff at the idea that you need counseling, but admit to seeing a counselor. People you have asked have told you that you may have a problem, but you choose to re-direct most of what is said and not really hear it. You are in denial.

Denial has been mentioned here several times already. No one can help someone with a drinking problem until the person realizes he has the problem. Counselors are trained to help, because they are taught how to help people see that they have a drinking problem. Your prior experience with a counselor may have ended because you could not admit it was you that had the problem, instead of blaming others and events in your life. Most times, the events are the catalyst for the drinking. I had a bad day, drink......My girlfriend left me, drink.......Not realizing that it may be the drinking that actually causes these events to take place. Alcohol is not a coping tool, it's a trap. Once you need it to cope with life, you're hooked. It is a never ending cycle that is only broken when you recognize that YOU have the problem.

Many times it takes a life changing event to break the cycle. People losing everything, or losing the love of their life, or their children.

Be proactive. Sit down and look at the events of your life and honestly tell yourself that alcohol has nothing to do with the condition you find yourself in. I think you'll find that you think about it, you talk about it, and you feel different without it. Try quitting cold turkey for an extended period of time. Can you?

Once you've made a decision either get help, or continue on your path until you hit bottom. You have a problem..I know..I was there.

I do believe that if something interferes with your life it's considered a problem. If you lost a relationship I'd say that means your alcohol use is a problem. Did you really choose drinking over your partner? What does that tell you?

There is a fine line between alcohol abuse and alcohol dependency.