I was in a relationship for a year and a half. A year of that was spent
engaged. But I kept giving him the ring back saying that I knew he
wasn't ready to get married, but he kept proposing over and over again.
Sure enough, he told his mom last November that he wasn't ready to get
married yet and he was just engaged to me because he didn't want to lose
me. I gave him the ring back the final time in January and we were
dating since then, but I know that I need more in my life than "maybe
some day". My view is, if they don't know what they want and you do,
then there's no sense in wasting your time.

I don't believe in 'waiting' at all.

If there's no commitment then guess what? There's no commitment!

That's exactly what it means!

Why would you stay committed to someone who isn't committed to you?

So what’s with the ‘waiting’ thing? If you meet someone else in
the meantime then bingo!

Like someone else said, life’s too short for this crap.

You might pass by your soulmate while you’re waiting for some retard
to make up his frigg’in mind. And what if he decides the answer is no
when he finally does decide? They you waiting for NOTHING! Moreover,
you soulmate went and married some bimbo because YOU weren’t
‘available’ at the right time.

No commitment means exactly that to me – no commitment. And that's a
two-way street in my town.

BUMPING THIS TOPIC TO THE HEAD OF THE LINE..

I need time..

I waited 2 years. I loved that woman. And I think that's what love really is. When you love someone deep enough, you'll wait. But somewhere along the way you realize that even though you haven't stopped loving them, you have to move on. But real love is patient. Real love will wait. When that person grabs your heart the right way, you'll wait. I think a lot of people don't know what real, heartfelt love really is.

Depends how impulsive or how patient you are, maybe.

I tend to move on or wait depending on the vibe. No point wasting time if you think there's no chance.

But even your gut can be wrong, this much I do know.

how you doing

I can't tell you how long you should wait.
I see lots of great suggestions but it is always up to you.

Time fleshes out liars.

It all depends on you and your person of interest. If you are dragging your feet for a long period of time there are issues there that have not been resolved. Same for the other one. I suggest honestly questioning them as to why they are taking so long. Just be ready for any answer. Take that information and gain wisdom and make a decision.