Patience is a Virtue...

this happens to be my motto. ive been in a rush rush relationship
before, though it lasted long it had to end up, now i am more careful,
for....

Love will come at the least that you expect it.

Just in case U also meant A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP INVOLVING
COHABITATION. Ay one time, it took me about 3 months to ascertain that
thay did not want to cohabit even though they appeared to desire a 'long
term' relationship. So I wondered then, if they were not USING me, UNTIL
they aquire someone they wished to hook up with. But they do not want
anyone come CLOSE to me. What did I do? I started to look for someone
else who wants to cohabit. By looking I mean 'doing the ground work'
that is talking, and talking and talking about what matters for a
relationship 2 work; or what CAUSES relationships to break-up,2 C what
they think about those issues.

When a person is a teenager, the imposed or wise motto is: "TAKE YOUR
TIME!!' When a person is like OVER FIFTY? The NECESSARY MOTTO IS:
"DON'T WASTE NO TIME!!" Utilize EVERY MINUTE TO get to the point.

It really depends a few things.

Have you just met or have you been in a relationship for a while? Have
they dug in their heels and are not willing to move forward at all? Are
they taking baby steps?

Ultimatelty, you have to decide what is best for you.

If you love someone you'll go through hell and back, once again another
time-line situation and I just don't follow them well in relationships
cause what a person feels can't be managed by time alone. I think this
makes sense without typing too much, lol.

Give them a month or 2 months. . . if they don't get the picture, move
on cuz they are probably going too. . .

IT WOULD PROLLY DEPEND ON WHAT YOURE WAITING FOR....A WEEK SOUNDS GOOD
TO ME...

MOVE IT OR LOSE IT!

If it's more than a month,
to me, that's a long term
commitment.

I have to agree...If things are at a standstill and there is no
progression...It's time to move on...I don't know that I would wait very
long for someone that doesn't want to commit...I would probably move on
with my life and say contact me when you make up your mind and if I am
free maybe we can talk!!!!!!

Patience is a virtue (and I'm all about virtues) but I also think you
know when the time is right. IMHO there is no timetable for falling in
love, a week, a month, a year, ten years, everyone is different and I
don't think you can apply one set of rules to everyone, (well, except
for the 10 Commandmants, that is)...

probably a few months and then i think i would just distance myself. no
need to have a big blow out and burn bridges.

Jean....If this relationship is exclusive.....I'd say approximately a
year....should have a good idea whether or not you want the same things!
Ciao'
TJ

As long as there is some progression in the relationship.
If I am ready to move on- I would be honest. Tell him I am
seeking something more and if he is not ready I need to move on.

i would really have to see and sit down and talk with them and find out
why they are so relunctant about it and maybe he/she after talking with
you will have whatever fears or whatever diminished.

i guess i would have to weigh my options. wait for someone who may
never come around, or move on and try to find someone who is willing to
make that commitment.

One month, no exceptions. By the end of the first month, both of you
should know if you want things to proceed further. If you can't
automatically say yes to moving further by then, you never will be able
to. Someone who tells you that they're still trying to decide if they
want to date you long-term after a month is obviously leading you on.

Met him on a Tuesday, married him the following Tuesday, eleven years
together,)two of the most beautiful children you will ever see in your
entire life)later, we parted, I guess we grew up ( I was 19 at the time,
he was 25)


It is all a matter of horses for courses

long as it takes

maybe...lol