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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? He should have it ALL for himself . If she finds out , she will blow it on make up and other stupid things.....  . or she may change from Babe to Mom... and buy him underwears and socks  
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I can see putting money away and surprising the other with a trip or something special for a birthday/anniversary ..
But for him to hoard the money and her having no knowledge, no, I don't agree with this at all. What, is he using her hard earned money for neccessaties while he saves? pffff |
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I can see putting money away and surprising the other with a trip or something special for a birthday/anniversary .. But for him to hoard the money and her having no knowledge, no, I don't agree with this at all. What, is he using her hard earned money for neccessaties while he saves? pffff This money is from doing odd jobs as a mechanic for friends and co-workers, and gambling at casinos. He makes a couple of hundred bucks here and there. Why should he tell her ? |
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Edited by
No1sLove
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? He should have it ALL for himself . If she finds out , she will blow it on make up and other stupid things..... .  Bottom line... If she has money management issues, they should discuss that as a couple don't you think? And, if he has financial security issues, they should discuss that as a couple. Seems to me a healthy marriage is about compromise, no? She can surely cut back on her spending while keeping a couple of the treats she enjoys the most on occasion, while, if he still feels the need to pocket money away for "what ifs", they should determine what's reasonable together and both work at feeding into their savings, investing some of it for the future instead of just sitting in an account. |
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? He should have it ALL for himself . If she finds out , she will blow it on make up and other stupid things..... . Bottom line... If she has money management issues, they should discuss that as a couple don't you think? And, if he has financial security issues, they should discuss that as a couple. Seems to me a healthy marriage is about compromise, no? She can surely cut back on her spending while keeping a couple of the treats she enjoys the most on occasion, while, if he still feels the need to pocket money away for "what ifs", they should determine what's reasonable together and both work at feeding into their savings, investing some of it for the future instead of just sitting in an account. No, he should keep things the way they are, and if the time arrives that he has to use it, he has it....otherwise it goes as a neat retirement gift, like a boat, or harley ! |
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? He should have it ALL for himself . If she finds out , she will blow it on make up and other stupid things..... . Bottom line... If she has money management issues, they should discuss that as a couple don't you think? And, if he has financial security issues, they should discuss that as a couple. Seems to me a healthy marriage is about compromise, no? She can surely cut back on her spending while keeping a couple of the treats she enjoys the most on occasion, while, if he still feels the need to pocket money away for "what ifs", they should determine what's reasonable together and both work at feeding into their savings, investing some of it for the future instead of just sitting in an account. No, he should keep things the way they are, and if the time arrives that he has to use it, he has it....otherwise it goes as a neat retirement gift, like a boat, or harley ! 
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? He should have it ALL for himself . If she finds out , she will blow it on make up and other stupid things..... . Bottom line... If she has money management issues, they should discuss that as a couple don't you think? And, if he has financial security issues, they should discuss that as a couple. Seems to me a healthy marriage is about compromise, no? She can surely cut back on her spending while keeping a couple of the treats she enjoys the most on occasion, while, if he still feels the need to pocket money away for "what ifs", they should determine what's reasonable together and both work at feeding into their savings, investing some of it for the future instead of just sitting in an account. No, he should keep things the way they are, and if the time arrives that he has to use it, he has it....otherwise it goes as a neat retirement gift, like a boat, or harley ! Only the rational ones ! |
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? He should have it ALL for himself . If she finds out , she will blow it on make up and other stupid things..... . Bottom line... If she has money management issues, they should discuss that as a couple don't you think? And, if he has financial security issues, they should discuss that as a couple. Seems to me a healthy marriage is about compromise, no? She can surely cut back on her spending while keeping a couple of the treats she enjoys the most on occasion, while, if he still feels the need to pocket money away for "what ifs", they should determine what's reasonable together and both work at feeding into their savings, investing some of it for the future instead of just sitting in an account. No, he should keep things the way they are, and if the time arrives that he has to use it, he has it....otherwise it goes as a neat retirement gift, like a boat, or harley ! Only the rational ones ! do you know where you are
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Humm it may seem kewl that he has accumulated that amount of money over the years in a separate account.
But.......it is sad that he has had to hide it from her and not trust her. Actually if it was me I would seriously have my feelings hurt to know the man I was living with did not trust me as he protrays to. And would wonder what else he has keep hidden over the years. Most times when one hides such issues there is much more to the story then they are telling. 
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. That's true, lol. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? He should have it ALL for himself . If she finds out , she will blow it on make up and other stupid things..... . Bottom line... If she has money management issues, they should discuss that as a couple don't you think? And, if he has financial security issues, they should discuss that as a couple. Seems to me a healthy marriage is about compromise, no? She can surely cut back on her spending while keeping a couple of the treats she enjoys the most on occasion, while, if he still feels the need to pocket money away for "what ifs", they should determine what's reasonable together and both work at feeding into their savings, investing some of it for the future instead of just sitting in an account. No, he should keep things the way they are, and if the time arrives that he has to use it, he has it....otherwise it goes as a neat retirement gift, like a boat, or harley ! Only the rational ones ! do you know where you are |
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Humm it may seem kewl that he has accumulated that amount of money over the years in a separate account. But.......it is sad that he has had to hide it from her and not trust her. Actually if it was me I would seriously have my feelings hurt to know the man I was living with did not trust me as he protrays to. And would wonder what else he has keep hidden over the years. Most times when one hides such issues there is much more to the story then they are telling. You should read more of this thread, you'll see both men and women have secrest bank accounts. |
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Edited by
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? he may have the right but I am sure this is not the only secret he has  also why secret accounts? separate works best for me anyway 
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? He should have it ALL for himself . If she finds out , she will blow it on make up and other stupid things..... . Bottom line... If she has money management issues, they should discuss that as a couple don't you think? And, if he has financial security issues, they should discuss that as a couple. Seems to me a healthy marriage is about compromise, no? She can surely cut back on her spending while keeping a couple of the treats she enjoys the most on occasion, while, if he still feels the need to pocket money away for "what ifs", they should determine what's reasonable together and both work at feeding into their savings, investing some of it for the future instead of just sitting in an account. No, he should keep things the way they are, and if the time arrives that he has to use it, he has it....otherwise it goes as a neat retirement gift, like a boat, or harley ! Only the rational ones ! 
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? he may have the right but I am sure this is not the only secret he has Everybody has Secrets ! |
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? He should have it ALL for himself . If she finds out , she will blow it on make up and other stupid things..... . Bottom line... If she has money management issues, they should discuss that as a couple don't you think? And, if he has financial security issues, they should discuss that as a couple. Seems to me a healthy marriage is about compromise, no? She can surely cut back on her spending while keeping a couple of the treats she enjoys the most on occasion, while, if he still feels the need to pocket money away for "what ifs", they should determine what's reasonable together and both work at feeding into their savings, investing some of it for the future instead of just sitting in an account. No, he should keep things the way they are, and if the time arrives that he has to use it, he has it....otherwise it goes as a neat retirement gift, like a boat, or harley ! Only the rational ones ! Be Nice sweety ! |
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? he may have the right but I am sure this is not the only secret he has Everybody has Secrets ! everyone has things they don't share about themselves but hiding money is a big thing in a marriage |
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i don't think its wrong for a person to save money but if you don't trust your partner theres a deeper issue.i'd be proud that my partner saved and planned ahead deeply hurt if the person didn't trust me enough to tell me
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Ohh I did read the whole thread but still when it comes to secrets such as money when your married and you feel the need you must hide it from the other. Then there is something wrong with that picture.
Myself when I was married the whole time we had separate checking accounts. His was also the Business which was used for his Business and certain bills at the house.ect.. I used mine in the same manor for I paid certain bills with my checks. It was never and issue how much was in either account or what each other spent or what it was on. I don't believe that anyone should be on a per-say allowance. But now we did not buy anything big without disscussing it first. ohh shsh yess he did he came home one day and told me he bought a Horse lmao hummm But still money is just not something two people should feel the need to hide it from the other if they are actually building a nest egg for the future. Now most do have things in life they have not told that was in the past. That is different but when it comes to money that is something that two should fully aggree upon and should participate in helping build that fund. Heck all you have to do is make a pack and have it fixed at the bank that the money can not be taken out unless both sign for it in person. That way it keeps the other one honest if that is needed. |
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My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years. The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew. He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years. Does he have a right to have something for himself ? He should have it ALL for himself . If she finds out , she will blow it on make up and other stupid things..... . Bottom line... If she has money management issues, they should discuss that as a couple don't you think? And, if he has financial security issues, they should discuss that as a couple. Seems to me a healthy marriage is about compromise, no? She can surely cut back on her spending while keeping a couple of the treats she enjoys the most on occasion, while, if he still feels the need to pocket money away for "what ifs", they should determine what's reasonable together and both work at feeding into their savings, investing some of it for the future instead of just sitting in an account. No, he should keep things the way they are, and if the time arrives that he has to use it, he has it....otherwise it goes as a neat retirement gift, like a boat, or harley ! Only the rational ones ! Be Nice sweety ! Ummm...no, I believe honesty and compromise are the key to a good relationship everyday and not just today. But that would only apply to those in a relationship who's foot is not caught in the door. IMO, your friends foot is half out the door already if he feels a need to protect himself like that. |
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Ohh I did read the whole thread but still when it comes to secrets such as money when your married and you feel the need you must hide it from the other. Then there is something wrong with that picture. Myself when I was married the whole time we had separate checking accounts. His was also the Business which was used for his Business and certain bills at the house.ect.. I used mine in the same manor for I paid certain bills with my checks. It was never and issue how much was in either account or what each other spent or what it was on. I don't believe that anyone should be on a per-say allowance. But now we did not buy anything big without disscussing it first. ohh shsh yess he did he came home one day and told me he bought a Horse lmao hummm But still money is just not something two people should feel the need to hide it from the other if they are actually building a nest egg for the future. Now most do have things in life they have not told that was in the past. That is different but when it comes to money that is something that two should fully aggree upon and should participate in helping build that fund. Heck all you have to do is make a pack and have it fixed at the bank that the money can not be taken out unless both sign for it in person. That way it keeps the other one honest if that is needed. Then perhaps you're just not fit for marriage ( No Offense ). But, this man saved $50.000 dollars over a 10 year spand. Do the math, its about $2500.00 a year, some people spend that much at starbucks, some people make that much picking up bottles and cans. He works and uses that money to care for his family, this is just money he picks up on the side as a mechanic, fixing cars for friends and co-workers. A tune-up here, a brake job there,. adds up. Some of these women are just to selfish, and would suck the life out of a guy before his time ! |
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