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Topic: Secret Bank Accounts !
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Wed 07/23/08 02:05 PM


My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years.
The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew.

He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years.

Does he have a right to have something for himself ?



You didn't say if his wife was a 'Loose-spender'... Could make a difference if She was t 'Thrifty-type'...


Yes, she's at the 99 cent store everyday spending like crazy !

tngxl65's photo
Wed 07/23/08 02:06 PM
The fact that you need to have a 'secret' account is a bad sign for the relationship.

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Wed 07/23/08 02:08 PM
my grandparents were together for 60 years and my gramps hid money away the whole time they were married.....when he passed away my grandmother had no clue til she went to clean out his closet....there in a fire proof lockbox was over 90,000 and a letter saying I put this aside for our future.
my grandmother sat there crying for hours.


SportsNut2007's photo
Wed 07/23/08 02:09 PM

The fact that you need to have a 'secret' account is a bad sign for the relationship.


Why ?

SportsNut2007's photo
Wed 07/23/08 02:10 PM

my grandparents were together for 60 years and my gramps hid money away the whole time they were married.....when he passed away my grandmother had no clue til she went to clean out his closet....there in a fire proof lockbox was over 90,000 and a letter saying I put this aside for our future.
my grandmother sat there crying for hours.




Sooooo, was she excited or sad ?

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Wed 07/23/08 02:14 PM


my grandparents were together for 60 years and my gramps hid money away the whole time they were married.....when he passed away my grandmother had no clue til she went to clean out his closet....there in a fire proof lockbox was over 90,000 and a letter saying I put this aside for our future.
my grandmother sat there crying for hours.




Sooooo, was she excited or sad ?


She was excited and sad.
Sad that he died and they never spent the money,but excited that he was thinking about taking care of their future.

She spent the money on the gravestones and the vault for the 2 of them to be buried in.....because that was the future

tngxl65's photo
Wed 07/23/08 02:16 PM


The fact that you need to have a 'secret' account is a bad sign for the relationship.


Why ?


This isn't a little white lie. This says "I don't trust you enough to tell you about some money that I'm saving." There are serious trust issues here and it's a very bad sign.

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Wed 07/23/08 02:18 PM
i won't tell for a small fee!!

drinker

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Wed 07/23/08 02:44 PM






My friend at work has a Bank Account that he's been hiding from his wife for over 10 years.
The account has over $50.000 in it, and he knows she will blow thru it if she knew.

He made this money by doing side work as a mechanic, and gambling and has saved it for years.

Does he have a right to have something for himself ?


he may have the right
but I am sure this is not the only secret he hasnoway


Everybody has Secrets !


everyone has things they don't share about themselves
but hiding money is a big thing in a marriage


I agree. My ex hid and stashed money for a year before he told me he wanted a divorce. And I'll be lucky if I ever see any of it. And the money was not the only secret he was keeping! explode


After reading this thread every man here must be horrified.
I don't know which is worst, your insecure pre-conceptions of men, or your leftover grief from your past relationship.

Which ever it is get rid of it, and I mean NOW !


"insecure pre-conceptions"? Don't think they are pre-conceptions if they continue to be validated as I'm reading along. As for leftover "grief", anger is more like it and a lot healthier. JMO
Good luck to you and your friend flowerforyou

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