I've noticed in reading women's ads, profiles and chatting that 50's women in particular have this nasty habit of "interviewing" men with questions like:

1) Do you own a home?
2) What kind of work do you do?
3) Do you pay child support?

Ladies, ladies, ladies. Tsk, tsk. It's quite obvious what you're doing. You're trying to get a quick snapshot of my finances.

Whatever happened to a woman just wanting to get to know a guy to see if they were compatible and had similar interests? You want us to take the time to get to know you don't you?

It seems to me that women who want to "qualify" men based on their finances are completely misdirected and certainly not the type of women I want to meet.

I had chat with one woman online and in the third sentence from her was "what kind of work do you". She just couldn't resist. I asked her why she wanted to know? She claimed she wanted to see if we had something in common. NO SHE DIDN'T!! She wanted to get an idea how much money I made.

Ladies and gents, what say you to this sad state of affairs?

some ladies may be guilty of that.....I may ask what do you do for work...but just to make sure he's gainfully employed. As for the rest I could care less

I agree with you 100%

I know what you are talking about. It happened to me too.

I got an e-mail with 10 hard questions.

I replied that I usually like to start with "Hi, my name is ____"

She came back with another real nasty reply.

I moved on.

Gainfully employed? What the ----?

yeah, gainfully employed...that they do have a job. Been down that road where I've been in a relationship where the guy refused to work, expected me to pay for everything....needless to say it didn't last long.

I am not employed so am I not eligible for you?

if you're unable to work because of a physical inability to do so, that is one thing...but to just be lazy, non caring and waiting for hand outs that's another story. I don't know what you circumstances are to rightfully answer your question.

I disagree with you. Alot of what a man does for a living says alot about his personality. As for your finances, let's get realistic here. Women in their 50's have been there, done that when it comes to dating broke men and starting over. They want to know that what they've worked so hard for isn't going to go to support a man with less ambition and drive as they have. It's called wanting Security.

Everyone has an approach that has grown out of their experiences. Many have been played & used; both sex's. I can answer any question in general terms & then tell the questioner; any further info. you don not need at this time.
If the questions bother you, tell them that.
THEIR loss.

Maybe I won the lottery and I have more money than I could spend in 2 lifetimes.

Thank You

Congrats to you if you did win the lottery...I hope you invested it well unlike some who have sqaunered theirs and lost it in no time.

I find this funny I think it happens on both sides. I've been ask what kind of car I drive do I own my own home. Type of work money I make. I'm widowed and they hint around about insurance money. Wait for the one that wants to get to know yah. That is what I've been doing still waiting lol

You don't have to be "gainfully employed" to have financial security. Think about it. I don't want to get into specifics but there are many scenarios where someone can be VERY SECURE financially and not be "employed".

You do have a point there 56deluxe, I will not argue with that. I was mearly pointing out that there are both men and woman out there that see someone who is financilly secure and to "gold diggers" of which I am not that is their ticket to the good life or so they think

So true Cat a gold digger be careful what you wish for. Allot more might come along with that package.

Hopefully you get my point that I think this is a ridiculous place to start the conversation. I'm looking for a woman who thinks I'm a cute wonderful guy. I could care less about how much money she has or doesn't have. Either she's fun or she isn't. Either she's compatible or she isn't.

I have no plans to get married again. It might happen but it's not my first thought. What I do know is that if I find the right woman I want to spend a lot of time with her. Her interests, personality, compatibility, etc. are far more important than the state of her finances.

Why do women think it works differently when it comes to men? The size of someone's bank account will matter little if they make you miserable.

By the way, whenever a woman tries to "interview" me I have only one thing to say..........NEXT!!!

I usually ask what kind of work you do, it's something to talk about & I don't ask because of money. I also often ask, do you enjoy it & what would you like to be doing? I'd never ask how much you make.

I don't ask about child support, but I do want to know that he is good to his kids & dosn't trash his ex for sport. I want a man with integrity.

Any questions I ask about where you live are more about lifestyle. Do you prefer city vs country? A guy who rents to avoid responability like cutting grass & shoveling snow would not be a match for me. I have had a few brag about that.

I am 45 many my age & older have had it with lazy men, deadbeat dads, & those who consider SSI for a mental disease or a faked back injury a stable income.