I guess the question of what I do for a living bothers me so much because most women wouldn't understand what I do for a living. I could answer the question and then they would go Huh? They don't have the knowledge to understand and they are kidding themselves if they think they do.

I think a better starting point in the conversation is mutual interests. I'm very interested in music, dancing, wine, history, outdoors, and a lot of other things.

I'm interested in knowing where you grew up, what kind of childhood you had, how you feel about your family and your ex, what you do with your spare time, what your current struggles are, and the list goes on.

We could find lots of things to talk about before we ever got around to talking about occupations and finances. I think starting with asking about occupations shows a lack of imagination but that's only my opinion. Be imaginative in the questions you ask. Smart guys like me really appreciate that.

I am interested in music, dancing, history, and the out of doors and am pretty sensitive about being told that I am incapable of understanding a line of work!!!

"The average woman with her concepts of stable income and having a "steady job" doesn't have the ability to comprehend what I do. I have more than enough money to take her to nice
places and that's all she really needs to know."

"I guess the question of what I do for a living bothers me so much because most women wouldn't understand what I do for a living. I could answer the question and then they would go Huh? They don't have the knowledge to understand and they are kidding themselves if they think they do."

I understand now why you worry that a woman would only want you for your money. That's exactly the kind of woman you are going to attract, & you deserve her!

When people want my money, I just make them earn it. Has nothing to do with how I feel about them.

I don't worry at all that a woman would only want me for my money. That's a bad assumption on your part.

I don't find talking about my work all that stimulating with a woman unless she has a HUGE amount of business experience and savvy. Most women have no experience running a large business and aren't senior executives at corporations. Why even go there with them?

Topics that are mutually interesting is where I and most men would prefer to go with the conversation.

If I am interested in a man, I am interested in EVERYTHING that he does! I may know know how someone handles his woek, but that does not mean that I could not learn to understand it!

Let's see, I only graduated high school. Opened 3 companies and one corporation. Worked in the insurance and banking business to get extra business background. Took a 6 week investment course. Now, I retired in 1993. Have a beautiful waterfront home, three investment homes ,several building lots, acreage in the NC mountains,land in GA. A new car. Not a penny is owed on anything.I think I was 41 when I retired and I'm 55 now. My favorite activities are fishing and hunting. Certainly everything I enjoy is outdoors. I have been married too many times and I quit, marry them and they want to do nothing,so kick them to the curb and get a divorce. Now, in Florida your lawyer tells you to disclose everything when you meet a man and after a few dates, if you like him, I repeat like him, have him sign papers and as it progresses he will keep signing papers. This is just what society has come to. My Father was self employed for 38 yrs. and my mother never had a clue what he made. He paid the house and autos off and all the ins.,taxes,living expenses and household bills. She was given $100.00 a week to buy groceries and that started in the fifties, she had money to save. If she wanted or needed something my dad paid for it. She never had to work.When, I married in the seventies and real estate skyrocketed, both spouses had to work to buy a house and two autos and you were lucky to have anything to save. So, starting up my own companies and choosing ones that would make money, hard work and good business and accounting skills, I had a winner. Half the people I know keep buying lotto tickets to get rich quick, that's stupid. Too many people, male and female are takers and mix in alcoholism and drugs, everybody should be asking questions. You might want to make you a list and start asking away. This is the real world now.

Integrity i've "heard" of that

Afternoon Ladies!!

HeSearches understand the handle now hmmmm The eyes hmmm maybe less judgements more happiness.

But couldn't that be considered an "interview" as well? When you ask what kind of childhood we had, how do we feel about our family, what are our current struggles...that's more like things that may turn you away and may not want to get involved....goodness at the thoughts some people have.

1) Do you own a home?
2) What kind of work do you do?
3) Do you pay child support?

I'm very proud of the fact that I own my home. I like my job and appreciate it when someone shows enough interest to ask. I never paid child support because I took care of my child on my own for most of her life. These are things that are important to women, or should I say most women. It might be helpful to understand that instead of judging by it. Otherwise, I'm sure you will find some woman who will converse with you about the subjects you deem important...then take you for every penny your corporate executive assself has! Sorry, I just had to throw that in!
Good luck in finding what you are looking for!
Nan

Still waiting for someone to ask me a question!!!!!!grumble

What do you want us to ask you

Hey Carol and Flame. How's it going?

Greer, I too am offended at the assumption that I would not understand his( hesearches)important postion.And if anyone is so worried about golddiggers on this sight don't answer the questions.

How do you stay such a lovely person? How's that?
Nan