I suppose there those deadbeat dads and lazy men. That's a consideration.

All this becomes a problem for me because I'm an entrepeneur and self-employed. My income flucuates for various reasons. I'm certainly not going to ask a woman for a loan. I have other resources for that thank you very much.

The average woman with her concepts of stable income and having a "steady job" doesn't have the ability to comprehend what I do. I have more than enough money to take her to nice places and that's all she really needs to know.

Topic: Ladies.. blue or white? Sun 07/06/08 04:56 PM
I judge the value of a job differently. Does it support him? Is it legal? Does the work have value other than a paycheck? what are his goals & how does he plan on acchieving them? These things are more important than the social status of the job.

I cut & pasted this it's my post from another thread.

I don't expect a guy to take me on trips. I just want him to be responsable for himself & his kids. My last boyfriend was always trying to impress people by carelessly throwing money around, but at the end of the week he was borrowing for gas & groceries to feed his kids. When his parents lost the house he was living in because of thier gambling addiction, he thought he was moving in with me! He told me the house was his. (he volunteered that lie, I didn't ask) I knew he made a little bit less than me but that didn't matter. The lying, waste & foolishness mattered! I was not about to lose what little I have worked so hard for so he could continue to goof off. He even had the nerve to ask me to quit me job so I could stay home with his kids. Now I would love to be able to do that, but I know he can't keep a job or manage his affairs. I was not going to let him ruin my life.

You are right on the money with this statement. (no pun intended)

That is sad. I don't care about your finances except, do I need to pay the check. I take care of myself. I do agree that it is nice if you have A JOB. If you dress and act decent, that is the main thing.

I am just getting in on this conversation----Interseting!!!!

I have very little income. as I take care of my
parents, Dad died 2 weeks ago, my Mom.
I make NO money, am not interested in anything but having a good time, meeting new people, as I just moved to Oklahoma City from Olympia, Wa and I need new friends.
Money is not an issue with me! Attitude is, however!!!!
I will doing what I am doing for a while yet as Mom has Alzheimers and is in good physical health.


I have a good time on these threads and I enjoy my new friends here.


Hi Everyone!!!

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww...for me...finding a companion that can share laughter, some common interests, and shared chemistry by far out weighs knowing about his financial state...however...being one that has been used financially to some degree has made me wonder if i shouldnt think more clearly along those lines...

but a passionate heart and soul will be what ultimately captures my interest...its what is in me even at this mature age...

Indiblue, I think you're saying from a woman's point of view what I've been trying to say. I think the Passion Factor is a lot more important than the Finance Factor. I can have compassion for someone who's had some tough breaks but not for someone who is very irresponsible. I'm fine with paying for the night out but I really appreciate it when my love interest reciprocates from time to time.

I think women who are hung up about finances will miss out on men who could make them very happy. However, I think another one of the women made a good point. There are men who are losers and they need to be avoided.

The lady who mentioned that her old boyfriend expected her to watch his children and quit her job is right on point. That's nothing short of abusive. That's one reason why as a matter of habit I avoid women with children still at home. My two experiences with women who had kids at home were to my regret.

The woman who has to tell me in her ad or profile that she owns her home and is financially secure has issues I just don't want to explore.

I'm sorry to hear about your Dad, Greer. I lost my wife a year and a half ago and my grand daughter about a month ago.

I don't care to be asked. I've got a job and a military retirement income. I'm in the process of buying where I live. It's broke down though and needs paint and carpeting and I don't pay any child support. Don't have any kids but inherited a couple of great grands I'm close to from my wife's side.

I might ask the same when I meet someone, but compatability is what attracts me to someone in the first place.

I don't have the time or the money for a serious relationship at present, but I'm working on the money thing. Got an interview with the VA Monday as a matter of fact for a pretty decent job, close to home!

Dad was so sick, ut to lose my little grand doll??

Justa/Kool just chatteded about what we both enjoyed,doing for fun,what are favs movies were.
He asked if i like to cuddle oh yeah!!
He's breathing ok,he wanted to share that he works very hard so we both shared from.
Our hearts I knew i likeded him,after.
Chatting for a long while.I thank god for this friendship;If things work out great if not ive
Made a good friend- God bless you! Kool

Honey of a man i hope you find whatcha looking for.
And honey don't do the Q&A with anyone!do yourself
A favor and just chill out live happens Koolaidwoman. your right on with the Q&A I don't care what you do just be good to me a rider Koolaidwoman hold on she coming honey!Kool"""
7/16/08

Now remember we have men who do the same to us! Once they find out you work for a bank they think you are the bank and start asking all kind of questions. Since I invesitgate fraud for a living I can tell right off a man who is scamming.

I am to out spoken sometimes but it is from years of working where I do and doing what I do. I am really trying to be the HI HOW YOU DOING type but I am not shy and cannot pretend I am shy.

I have my own money and could care less if the man has money or not. Now if they want to share my bills then feel free take them.

darn,missed indiblue by 1 year

Evening all!!

I like your attitude.

Hey flame!!!

When I meet someone new online, one of the questions I like to ask is what they do, or did in the case of someone who is retired. I'm not fishing for finances, I actually like to know and I don't mind telling anyone what I do if I'm asked. I also ask about music, food and travels but not because I'm trying to find out if they can afford me. Sometimes the questions lead to a real interest we share. I have also been on the other side of that where 'semi-retired' meant a disability check and working under the table and I was expected to pay for everything. A relationship based on finances isn't worth much for either party

I ask, only to be able to converse with the man!!!