Looking for help out of a pickle, not looking for any lectures.

I have really 'effed up! It all started out so innocently. I never
intended for it to go this far. But, I think I have fallen in love with two
men.

I know I am definatly in love with the first man. He is wholesome and kind
and secure. He is most everything I dream of except the romance dept. He is
ok, but not as sex driven as I would like him to be.

IN comes the second man. HOT HOT HOT! So very passionate. Very FUN!
Stimulates all of my other senses. I only met this second man during a spiff with the first.

Now, I am juggling phone calls, trying to avoid one finding out about the other. The stress is tremendous.
I didn't want to fall in love with the second one. I thought he woud be just fun and move on. I didn't know he
would fall for me and lure me into more.

So now I am crushed. I am so afraid of losing man number one. But, I can't help but wonder if man number two
might be more compatible to me.

I am sooooooooo confused! HELP!

What you need is a third opinion.

Most times when you chase someone because they are hot, thats just lust & you will be single again complaining that men are no good, I see this all the time!!

Exactly , doesn't sound like either one is the one.

I agree

But I can't keep wondering, if I let the second man go, will the first man be enough to keep me happy? And when I think of letting the first man go my heart cannot stand the thought. I could let the second one go easier. But, what if he is the 1 ? He could end up being man number 3. The one I am really looking for.

And how do I go about breaking it off with one? What in the H#ll do I say?

ah like sands through an hourglass...

Have both and enjoy . Men do it all the time and get with it too . .

I thought this was the pickle guy,

I was like O NO it's to early for this

Hmm, not so tough here, more like a selfish notion, I bet if you were to be honest with both of them ( letting one know about the other) you will lose both parties. As the saying goes "lose corn and husk. You are not being fair to either of these two men or to yourself.

so are the Days Of Our Lives....
Can't have your cake and eat it too
Too much drama for me

Are there two people in this "pickle" situation or am I seeing double post?

he who has the biggest bank account wins...

Lmao, My my heck I can't seem to find man #1 and if I did sure the heck would not have even thought of being with man #2 shshsh

Good luck I sure can't help with any answers on this one. Never been in that situation I only have eyes and time for one and can't seem to find that one shshshsh

If you are smart you will pick guy no. 1

JMO

To hell with em both, come to Myrtle Beach

Check this out.........


Do you want LOVE? Or do you want SEX?



Now check this one out....


You gotta make a choice, or at least int his point of your life, you feel obligated to make 1 choice and roll with it...


So weight this $#!T out.

Worst case scenario, with either guy..... Which consequences are you willing to live with?


That is what life is about. Don't wonder, just do.

Now unless you are F***ing both of them, what is the problem with making them aware of each other and letting them know you need more time. That you want to talk to them both and decide what is best for you. What's the big deal? You aren't married to any of them. You have that right.

STOP! will you? I am on the floor laughing ...........