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I'd take a break from both of them, & see which one I miss the most & how they both act. I already know I don't want to be without man number #1. My problem now is how to get rid of man #2 And how to make man #1 my man #3 and how to stop man #4 from making me laugh when I am so dead serious in agony here! |
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They could be in a gay chat room at this very moment discussing what to do with you....just a thought  You are funny. Just not any help. You would be more like man #4 Just for laughs  When I don't have an intelligent answer I resort to humor. People tend to laugh around me.....alot! Seriously ..Good luck |
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I want them both rolled up into one man. But I know i can't do that. So I think I will choose man number one. So, now how do i tell man number two? Who happens to be HUGE and possesive not going to take this so lightly.  Sounds like you are already afraid of this man. WTF is the matter with you? RUN! JHC!  Good point! |
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come to think of it i was in this situation a couple of months ago, i was one of the guys anywho i found out about the other guy told her she was a cheating whore and to get cancer (i probily could have handeld that better) I get text and phone calls everynow and agian the other guy left her a couple of weeks later so anywho the moral of this story is no self respecting man will alow this to be done to him choose befor you lose them both.
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okay now this is advice.. not being rude just giving advice.. grow up. love isn't something that you feel for everyone at sporadic times, love is something that if it is true has the ability the possibility of being forever. If you think you love both these men and you can't choose then you don't love either and you need to just say goodbye. The way one loves intimately to me in my opinion isn't something that can be shared to a third party you may love certain things about each of these men, but you love neither fully or you wouldn't have a choice to make. stop before you hurt them, and stop hurting yourself. You may be right about me not truly loving both. I do know I love the first one. The second one may just be LUST. This is why I am going to try to work things out with the first one. If I can just get rid of the second one without a scene. |
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I want them both rolled up into one man. But I know i can't do that. So I think I will choose man number one. So, now how do i tell man number two? Who happens to be HUGE and possesive not going to take this so lightly. Sounds like you are already afraid of this man. WTF is the matter with you? RUN! JHC! Good point! yes I kind of am. But more afraid that he will confront man #1 just to spite me. Then I will have hurt the one I love deeply. 
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I want them both rolled up into one man. But I know i can't do that. So I think I will choose man number one. So, now how do i tell man number two? Who happens to be HUGE and possesive not going to take this so lightly. Sounds like you are already afraid of this man. WTF is the matter with you? RUN! JHC! Good point! Then stop playing games with the poor guys heart.....and yours yes I kind of am. But more afraid that he will confront man #1 just to spite me. Then I will have hurt the one I love deeply. |
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im just screwed
  
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im just screwed You think? |
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I want them both rolled up into one man. But I know i can't do that. So I think I will choose man number one. So, now how do i tell man number two? Who happens to be HUGE and possesive not going to take this so lightly. Sounds like you are already afraid of this man. WTF is the matter with you? RUN! JHC! Good point! Then stop playing games with the poor guys heart.....and yours yes I kind of am. But more afraid that he will confront man #1 just to spite me. Then I will have hurt the one I love deeply. I am trying not to. I thought me #1 was over when I started relationship with man #2. But, I just coulnd't say no to him when he came back into my life. I love him. Now I got to get rid of #2. And I am going to somehow. I was just hoping I could do it without losing #1 too! I am afraid I am going to lose them both. But I guess that is the price for trying to find love. I didn't mean to lead anyone on. It just turned out that way.
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im just screwed You think? yeah And I may be wrong. But, how was I suppse to know the 1st guy would come back? I am wrong for continuing with the 2nd. I should have told him immediantly. Im such a coward
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im just screwed You think? yeah And I may be wrong. But, how was I suppse to know the 1st guy would come back? I am wrong for continuing with the 2nd. I should have told him immediantly. Im such a coward When you finished with guy No1 you should have made sure the relationship was well and truly over, that little chink you left in the door way made it all possible for him to worm his way back in ( albeit with your consent) Secondly, you should have given yourself a fair amount of time to "get over him" before inviting another into your life,whether it was guy No1 or guy No2 |
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i say dump both.... honestly if you cared enough about the first guy and as you put "think" in your wording.... you would not of slept with a second guy..... just put yourself in the first guys shoes...... and he slept with someone else rather than you.. would you feel cared for?
as for the second guy..... if he knows you are sleeping with the first one or doesnt know and found out could he really ever care about you the way you want to be cared about by a partner? or does he feel second best? but good in bed? humm.... and if he found someone else in bed better than you would that be ok? that he slept with the other woman too? .. i say if these things are all ok with you then its all good... long as you put yourself in their shoes and you can accept how they may feel about all this.... |
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I want them both rolled up into one man. But I know i can't do that. So I think I will choose man number one. So, now how do i tell man number two? Who happens to be HUGE and possesive not going to take this so lightly. Hummm you just answered your own question here. Why in the world would you settle for either one of them if neither have all the qualitys that you want in one person? Best thing might be to get rid of both and find the one that will be all your looking for. You must take in consideration that when you dump #2 he is liable to tell #1 hummm |
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im just screwed You think? yeah And I may be wrong. But, how was I suppse to know the 1st guy would come back? I am wrong for continuing with the 2nd. I should have told him immediantly. Im such a coward When you finished with guy No1 you should have made sure the relationship was well and truly over, that little chink you left in the door way made it all possible for him to worm his way back in ( albeit with your consent) Secondly, you should have given yourself a fair amount of time to "get over him" before inviting another into your life,whether it was guy No1 or guy No2 Yeah but that is easier said then done. When you are hurt and lonely and you feel like you can get over the pain better if you have someone to occupy your mind. I am definatly not the only one who has ever done this "rebound" thing. It is human nature. |
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i say dump both.... honestly if you cared enough about the first guy and as you put "think" in your wording.... you would not of slept with a second guy..... just put yourself in the first guys shoes...... and he slept with someone else rather than you.. would you feel cared for? as for the second guy..... if he knows you are sleeping with the first one or doesnt know and found out could he really ever care about you the way you want to be cared about by a partner? or does he feel second best? but good in bed? humm.... and if he found someone else in bed better than you would that be ok? that he slept with the other woman too? .. i say if these things are all ok with you then its all good... long as you put yourself in their shoes and you can accept how they may feel about all this.... not true. I was hurting. I had a weak moment. Myfault is letting the weak moment continue after i realized that I loved #1 and wanted to work things out. |
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I want them both rolled up into one man. But I know i can't do that. So I think I will choose man number one. So, now how do i tell man number two? Who happens to be HUGE and possesive not going to take this so lightly. Hummm you just answered your own question here. Why in the world would you settle for either one of them if neither have all the qualitys that you want in one person? Best thing might be to get rid of both and find the one that will be all your looking for. You must take in consideration that when you dump #2 he is liable to tell #1 hummm That is what Im afraid of
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I guess I was hoping for a miracle solution here.
Someone to tell me exactly what to say. How to do it? By email? Phone? in person? HE'S BIG! And his personality is rather GRUFF! 
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my opionion is this then.... a little late perhaps.. but when you got back together with #1 you should of told him about #2... if you were broke up with 1 at the time you got with 2.. then you should of laid it out on the table.... i think id concentrate on 1 if you love him and you are going to have to tell him about 2... cause why start a relationship back with 1.. with deep dark secrets? and you should of broken up with 2 when you got back with 1...lol make sense?
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call 2 and tell him you are going to try to work things out with 1..... and tell 1 what had happened when u were broklen up
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