lonlyness is a sad thang lonlyness hurts lonlyness the true
meaning of lonlyness

you are all alone when you need some one to talk to talk to your salf

when you need sapport sapport your salf when you just need to hold
some one hold your salf

when you have hormoness and get horny go **** your salf

lonlyness is forced on most bye others and lonlyness makes feelings
changess us can change good person to bad to eveil how

you might say try these see how you would feel if these was you

you want just one person in your life some one to be your freind your
lover your who world

so now you are looking so you dress up nice put on your best and
what do you get strotyped

trun down not try being strotyped out trun down bye every lat person
you meet for not just a few weeks but for years

try liveing all alone needing the same thang every one eless needs but

you are denied a life you are strotyped out so you are forced in to
lonlyness

forced and forced and keep that way for years how would you all like
that kind of life

how would you like every one you meet for years to all every last one
do you the same way strotype you and **** on you

so now if and when some one goss over the deep side and kills rapes
duss what ever you know whos falt it is

not theress at all these worlds own falt how would you be like if you
was denedd a alife and your only crime was being born

why its all about looks looks and mony and thats it and every one
wants to cover it up and say oh I dont strotype I looking for some
one nice

but when you meet that some one nice what do you do to them strotype
them at frest look to you live these life you have no reson to juge
some one as if you was were you put me and others you would be
liveing what you forced on others

now killerss and rapess are born when it should not happion

I like your post Bill.. it's the truth in every aspect of the words you
speak.

So I re-done my profile because I agree that there are many types of
sterotypers out there and those like myself and you that are FORCED into
this way of life... for those that don't like it... I could care less
because it's the truth and from what I've lived all my life up to this
point now and won't hide how I feel anymore.

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what is there to really write or describe about myself, when most ladies
would just see my picture, automatically judge me and then sterotype me
out of existance without knowing me???

... You that read my profile KNOWS already my words are true and it
hurts you, or you don't wish to see me for me. What you really want to
do is to judge me and sterotype me so YOU can feell good about yourself.

Why do I feel this way??? Because I have lived it all of my life. I
can't and won't hide how I feel anymore just so you can feel good about
yourself and not want to understand how I feel because my true emotions
and feelings hurt you. So you run away from it, go around what I have to
say, lie to me to get me off of the topic. Deep down HONEST & TRUTH
hurts you. You run from what I have to say because it's not YOU who has
to walk my shoes and live the lonely life I've lived up until now and
still going threw it to this day.

... To you, I am the unwanted, you wish to hide me from those that are
happy around you. To keep me into darkness or a side secret of a box you
nor those happy around you do not wish to open and release!

My point is... most of the ladies here on this site WILLINGLY & KNOW
they do not seek who they appear to be looking for. The titles of
seeking NICE, RESPECTUFUL, CARING GUY are all lies... DEEP DOWN what you
seek is "LOOKS" nothing less and nothing more. So don't lie to me and
other men or women in what you seek for your special someone. Don't lie
to yourself! but to be honest if you truly are honest that is... and
just say you REALLY WANT is a HOT or GOODLOOKING someone in your life
and steroytype out the rest.

Don't tell me lies to my face with your false smiles. I am not like you.
I am NOT happy and I have been denied a life of happiness. I live a life
of TRUE hurt, pain, sadness and loneliness... because it is NOT BY
CHOICE.... It's because I WAS FORCED HERE by people... both man and
female... but maybe you do not wish to understand nor will you ever
understand.... nobody should go without somebody special.... love is a
precious gift.... true friendship is a special gift.... if I am there to
hear all your problems and to help come up with solutions and ideas...
why won't YOU be there when I would need you to care and to
understand???

My point is... Deep down... Do you truly care for your truest friends
and those that think and care about you right now??? Ask yourself some
questions about yourself and truly think about what you are doing.

... DOES LOOKS truly count in the person that you seek when it comes to
true love??? DO NOT LIE TO YOURSELF about this or you will hurt all
those around you in the end!!!

I don't have choices to be alone in life. I was FORCED here into this
position... I was denied happiness, warmth, love... All that I've known
that have crossed in my path are liars, cheaters, fakes and phonies and
I've come across a whole bunch of them in life.... there's no endless
supply out there.... so when you are out there seeking someone whether
it be online or offline... truly ask yourself deep down before meeting a
person.... "AM I TRULY PHYSICALLY AND IN APPEARENCE.... ATTRACTED TO
THIS PERSON & IS IT LOOKS OF A PERSON I TRULY SEEK BEFORE THEY ARE GIVEN
A CHANCE TO BECOME A PART OF MY LIFE IF THIS IS THE CASE!!!"....

Valeria: "All my life I've been alone. Many times I've faced death with
no one to know. I would look into the huts and the tents of others in
the coldest dark and I would see figures holding each other in the
night. But I always passed by. Warmth is so hard to find in this world!"
(Conan The Barbarian" (Film) -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conan_the_Barbarian_(film)#Quot s

thanks for coming here and saying what happion to you

thanks its just like me in so many ways and just like lots of other
guys I have meant

its truly sad how woman can do these feel all big about them salfs
for hurting some one

it is truly sad and for all these woman whom go to church and say thay
want god in there lifes
well when thay walk out that door of gods house and strotype a guy
hurt aguy and thank thats
cool its not god sees and knows and he did not put a woamn down here
with man to strotype and hurt men whom thay dont know just be couce
thay are all about looks and mony and lis saying how thay dont and ant
when thay are and know thay are

I have a ferind whom put up a fake porfile are porfile was real but
pic was not he proved it was all about looks in 3 hrs time
as every last woman on here would never talk are give the time of day
to him thay took one look at hes real pic and strotyped him right here
on just say hi

and so he put same porfile in with new name and a fake pic of a hot
looking guy

well all these woman on her who strotyped him and sead thay dont go
bye looks was right there at these fake porfile and a few of them
eveion was trying to get down he pants

so yes its been porven with out any dalt woman strotype out guys and
only want good looks are mony are both and no less so when your born a
avrage man you are a nobody whom woman will force in to lonlyness

and hurt you for life any way thanks

Bill & Chismah I have in the past talked to both of you in the post at
differnt times yes I do understand the point you are making and it is a
good point indeed. Do I agree with you both totaly. But.... what ya fail
to say this is not only a WOMEN thing on sterotyping others MEN are also
to blame for this same thing. Wheather it is right or not or who is to
blame should not be the total issue here. For one must see deep inside
themselves and know who they are also. Yes being lonely is a long hard
road. I have traveled it as well my self for a long time. But because
someone looks at me and see's a woman that is full figured and they can
not see past that for all they want is one that is slim and trim I know
this happens and very well aware of it. But in now way will I let those
type of people get me down on the whole concept of MEN in general. For
there are others that will want me as I am somewhere out there. Yes you
mention looks and that others will not admit that looks play a role in
who you chose to be with. Well we all look at others differnt yes there
has to be an attraction there but I have found out that they don't have
to look like a model myself I have found out that the average looking
guy appeals to me in more ways than one but that is just me does not
mean that is true with the next person. But I will admit we all do look
at the person and first impressions do rule many times. But I have meet
ones that are average and there sense of humor shined through to the
point that it was unreal. I have dated guys that were from very good
looking body builder type once of course I was alot smaller and he
looked my way to the ones that were average with a sense of humor that
keep my mind turning all the time. But there has to be something there
that does appeal to us in one way or the other in order for us to look
deeper. Specially on the internet I have noticed it does seem worse than
in real life for in real life you can really get to know the person on a
personal level which online most will not give it the time of day. But
in no way can we totaly blame our lonelyness on others it is up to us to
get out and do things even if we have to do them alone. It is not easy
and I do know that way to well myself I do not have anyone that I hang
around with on a daily basis so I am now I'm at the point that I figured
it is up to me what I do with my life just because you meet someone you
really care about they can not bring you out and make you want to live
and have fun it will help but you must see deep inside yourself first
and help yourself before someone else can help you the rest of the way.
Life is not all roses we must take the pricks of the thorns on the way
we learn to heal our wounds and keep walking with our heads up high
don't let others bring you down never let them take you down fight back
and learn to love yourself first then others will love you as well. If
others see you are in a hole yes there are times they will walk away
fearing you will bring them down with you. So get up shout out I will
survive and take small steps at a time either by talking about the way
you feel doing things for yourself that makes you feel good buying
something as a reward for the steps you have taken and the progress you
have made. Look at the ones you see everyday and really look at them
give them a smile and see if they do not smile back and the way it will
make you feel. Work within yourselves first and it will shine through to
the outside.

you did not read all of my words are you would have knowen that I
sead both sexss woman and men

but as far as some one taking the time to know you how duess these
happion when with one look its oready over as thay oready strotyped you
out so now thay dont want to know you

how do I know been there look I did not talk about my past I did not
in any way show I was happy my salfe and being only my salf

and were did it get me same place looks yes you been were you sead
you are ok I understand that but I also can say to you how long how
many guys dated you eveion just one time how many

try being in my place almost 7 years well over 300 woman two dates
and both strotyped me out at frest look and no longer had time for me
every other one stroptyped me out and did not eveion have time to talk
so how would you know some one for who thay are if you oredystrotyped
them out at frest look so yes it is others falts that lonlynss
happions did I aske for these woman to do these to me no did I want to
get to know them for who thay are yess but did thay no my looks sorry
see I know tell me why it is almost 7 years and that many why is that
so if I not right anser that

Texas, I agree with with most of what you are trying to say here.

But the point of the matter in which I am trying to come across is
that... why do men and women sterotype out other people with a 1st
impression glance before you or they can get to know each other for who
that person is???

Of course I can understand that everyone has a taste or preference for
who they wish to date or to hook up with. My point is... it doesn't
matter how nice I make a 1st impression in regards to my outgoing wear
for a fun night on the town or with my nice charming smile... "of which
I do love to smile at people"... but of over 600+ approaches to ladies
that I have shown to be self-confident. No matter how much I do this or
will show a lady that I am interested in getting to know her.

They will sterotype me out with one glance of impression and will
automatically decided I am not worthy in that ladies eyes to talk to
because she was to quick to judge me with "her eyes".

Funny I am yes! Charming I am yes! Intelligent I am also yes! and so
much more... but why is it that most ladies are not up front when it
comes to online dating of what they are truly seeking in their other or
a guy seeks in their special other???

Is it truly about LOOKS is what I am saying here in my meanings of what
I am clearly trying to say, of which I have. But still nobody is getting
or understanding.

I have feelings. You have feelings. Bill has feelings there in what he
is saying as to what I am saying. The point is, I agree with Bill
because whether or not people wish or wish not to see is that online or
offline. Most of the majority of ladies out here love to sterotype out a
guy based on LOOKS there is no if's, and's or but's about it. It's a
FACT ok!

If a person wishes to look for a Goodlooking/Hot person. They should say
so in the beginning of their profiles and not lie to themselves in what
they seek.

I do very well understand what your both are saying and yes I do have to
agree with you both first impressions sucks. And for those that sit and
say looks does not matter ohhhh well they are fooling themselves, now
what I think looks good sure is not what the next person thinks looks
good we are all guilty of that. Why men and women sterotype each other
wish I could answer that but I can't to me I wonder if it is just all a
big game for some just to get there jollys off. I first came online for
dating yes like everyone else but... now I come in this site to talk and
read the forums with no intentions of meeting someone and if it so
happens then it does. I have found out that most of them that I start
talking to will last a week or so if that and phoof they are gone off to
someone else so why invest my time anymore in that area. But I do very
well understand and I know some will tell you both to change your
friends start doing other things were you are around new people there is
someone out there for you both that will love you for just you when and
were wish I could answer that no one has all the answers to life and yes
life does suck at times. Hell I could sit here and say I don't
understand how both of you do not have someone you both seem like great
people but I want cause I get so tired of someone telling me the same
thing hell if I knew why I was alone or were that one is for me then
hell I would not be online so much eiher. Like I said I do understand
what your saying but I will be honest I don't have those answers
either.

Also Texas when was it that you said you talked to me and Bill before in
a post recently???

well what I should have said was I have seen ya both at one time or
other in the post responding to a post did not talk to either on a one
on one. But now you have responded to one of my poem but it was awhile
back if I recall right it was the the poem The Kiss I wrote not postive
but think it was.

LOL TEXAS???? 0_o

Could you please post the addy of this kiss poem post response that I
have made on??? because I have not responded hardly in the last massive
weeks on this site until just recently... I would like to see it!!

Plus I notice a change in words here... hmmmmm!!!

well I can not say I remember seens I not one to read these types of
thangs as my reading skiklls and splling is not very good

Chismah I will look back in the forums and look for it it was along time
ago lol

But will post it if it was you or let you know it it was not lol

Chismah, this is the poem and your post it was a while back it it on
page 37 in the poem section had to look for it was pretty sure it was
you cause of your sense of humor is what I remembered.




TxsGal3333

Joined Tue 09/05/06
Posts: 7720
Sun 10/01/06 06:24 PM
"The Kiss"


Gazing at your soft lips, with total astonihment as if
hypnotized.
Drawing nearer...closer..longing for them to melt mine.
Seeking to drink like a fine wine.
This Kiss..this forbidden Kiss,so sweet never ending.
Tastes of love so splendere on your lips.
Forever will this wonderful Kiss be sought.
Dreaming that it will not be forever just a thought.





chismah

Joined Thu 09/21/06
Posts: 581
Sun 10/01/06 06:53 PM
WoOOoOoOoo baby...that made me horny ^_^

I have this funny cute feeling in my tummy reading this...tis good!!

Yes I remember making those comments and thank you for reminding me. but
still that was not recent ago. that was a playful comment at that time
and I thank you again for re-addressing me.

By the way Texas yes that was when I DID HAVE a sense of human. but now
I am serious and do not feel like being humourous anymore at the moment
because behind that humor is my true feelings of what I've been threw
like Bill here has that I have NOTICED... and it is true even before I
cam to JSH my life was and STILL IS this way, just like Bill's is now.

I was made this way by ladies. I have the right to also express my true
feelings besides being funny.

How can I be funny hardly anymore when all I have is hurt, pain and
suffering from being sterotyped out by ladies everywhere and not given
the time of day by them???

So in other words... do I have to really ENTERTAIN myself unto a lady
just for her to see me and the heart I have before she will get to truly
know me as a human being???

Something to think about here!!!

Chismah I do understand when you talk about the pain the lonelyness and
being sterotyped by others eitehr men or women it does happen. We all
have fel the pain of being alone and would love to have someone to love
us as we are here and now. But as I have heard so many times from others
you have to learn to love yourself first you can blame women, life ,
society or the whole world for your problems and your hurt and pain but
in the end the only one that can fix the hurt inside is you. You finally
have to see that hey I'm not gonna sit at home by myself any more and be
in my own little world I'm gonna get out and do things that make me
happy and take care of #1 myself first. Maybe these just sound like
words to you but this is the choice I have had to make myself recently
and it is not easy to get out and do things but I'm doing it one step at
a time. I have started going to the movies yes alone too but ya know
what I still enjoyed them by myself. I have started walking everyday not
far for it takes time only a mile a day right now but it has not been
easy since I have been in the hole I have been in it has caused me to
indulge in food more and needless to say have gained alot of weight
slowly but surely I do want to lose it not just because others look at
me and see the weight but for me for I know when I was smaller how much
better I felt. Now for my sense of humor that will never leave for I
crave that laughter each day with out laughter days are very gray and I
don't plan on letting anyone just take me down I'm willing to work on
the things that I need to in order to improve me for me. No one wants to
hang around others that are completly depressed all the time and does
not even want to try to come out of it. And no I will not say meds are
the way they are for some now but I'm stubbord and refuse to take the
depression meds. All I can say Chismah it is a choice you must make and
realize that society is not gonna come in and make your life what it
should be we have to do that within ourselves even if it is a baby step
at a time take a step dont stop once you have that down take another. I
know for me so far just the movies and walking each day has made me feel
so much better. For other than that I work and go home and hide in my
own little world and of course behind this computer.

i would love to comment on this becuase its not all woman . i was
married for 13 years and just got out. sureing the time i got out i met
a guy in the navy we dated for so long well nto really 5 months and he
was great he told me he loved me and we were so close than he moved away
claiming we would stay in touch and contine to date. now he lives in
washington state and im in ny state. he tries to keep me hanging on and
tells me nothing is wrong we are still ok. but in my heart the one i
felt all my love for him now i feel he is stringing me along like he
wants me when he comes to ny to visit. its terrible what woman do to men
yes they give us good ones a bad name but look around the perfect 40 yr
old does the same thing and u think he mature cause hes grown thinking
he wasted all his life with someone when u think he found the right one
leaves her hanging. what kind of BS is that. its not all about what the
woman do its all people who have not grwon up yet and just dont know
what they want. if its meant to be it will be so quit blameing and move
on im trying to now.