Ok, so i was dating this guy for almost 2 months. We clicked so well, and I had an absolute blast dating him. We'd spend hours laughing until our stomachs hurt, we could have long conversations, or we could both joke with each other ...like we had the same sense of humor & personality, and oh yeah...there was a lot of physical attraction and awesome chemistry. My friends would tell me they were jeolous of how fast and well we hit it off. Well 2 weeks ago he just quit calling me, when I tried calling him he never returned my phone call. I was crushed! But mostly it left me wondering "What the FRENCHTOAST happened?"

Anyway...
Now he called me on tuesday to wish me happy birthday. I was dumbfounded. I basically said thanks and hung up. Then he called me again last night...we didnt have any "big talks" or anything small chit chat under 5 mins...then I said I had to get some sleep and was about to hang up when he asked if I wanted to hang out tomorow night (tonight). I said...um, sure.

Am I an idiot for saying yes?

Im planning on not saying anything, let him do all the talking. I knida want to know what happened. What should I do?

go out, have a good time

go have a good time .. he could have a very good explanation for what happened

THIS is why men are AZZHEADS!!!

No Twilight, you are far from an idiot, sometimes us guys get in a funk about relationships and have to take a step back to access things!! Its a good sign you are talking again!!!

I've always thought a bad habit of women is to internalize things (I include myself here). If you want to know... then ask. I think that is honesty with him and with you. You aren't "stupid" for wanting to be with someone you meshed well with but his behavior was strange and you deserve at least an explanation. That's just my perogative on that. I prefer blunt and upfront than silent and bitter. Best of luck!

well 2 weeks with out calling me?

Im not a jeolous person, and Im not clingy...but after that amount of time and obviously avoiding me...

that just leaves me to assume things, you know?

Like is it another girl?

Did he get back with his ex?

Did I do something wrong?

I would expect nothing less than diamonds.....after 2 weeks!!!

I always do this and i'm sorry

If somone just stop talking to me and then just pops in like nothing happen? id be a little botherd and wondering what happen. I don't leave people hanging so i don't expect it to happen to me but it has. No your not stupid for saying yes, but if i were you i would try getting to know a little more about him and his life. If this is happening nopw, whats to say it wont happen again and longer next time. Just a thought.

When you don't get answers you will eat up inside with all those wonderful doubts that may cause you harm. Just be out with it. You have your answer... good or not and you can decide to move on from there.

I was thinking flowers

it was my bday tuesday...did he just temporarly break up to avoid getting me a gift?

Twilights, if you really have those doubts, then why even waste your time going out with him? Cancel the date.

If you are more curious than doubtful, go with an open mind, regardless of his reasoning, go out and have fun!

nothing idiotic about you!!!

it was just two months...like whats the big deal? where you making wedding plans already?? did you hire the caterer and send out invitations?? It was just four weeks, not enough time to develop anything except having a few laughs...
Lighten up, have a good time and dont worry about anything..

just make sure he pets his own weiner
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I agree. Maybe he had a mini epiphany about your relationship and needed a brief pause to figure out what he was feeling. Maybe he wasn't sure he liked you as much as he thought, maybe he discovered he liked you lots more and got a little scared. I'd go out with him again and when the time is right, casually ask him what happened.

well I will buy you a gift it makes you feel better

Your not an idiot, he probably got the "new relationship" freak out... He came through it with flying colors as I see it...

Good Luck.

have a question for ya, when is the last time you spent any time with somone and be honest?

Well I dont want to seem like a spaz and interogate him after hes made the bold move of contacting me again. I thought Id let him talk. If he provided an explanation or says sorry, then thats something to work on. If he is going act like nothing happened and say nothing ...then we are hanging out tonight, but not dating again.

sorry but i would want an explanation before meeting him..hes messed you around hun..its like im back so jump..my opinion though so go with your gut feelings