Ok...last night I had a female friend call me to complain yet again about a guy. A guy who's been playing hot and cold with her for a while. Only thing is that this guy isn't a boyfriend of a guy she's dating. HE'S JUST A ****BUDDY!!!!

So she's moaning and griping how he blew her off, plays games, etc...yet I can't understand why she puts up with it when I imagine getting sex is an easy thing for a pretty girl. And no...she's not in love with the guy, she more or less hates having to find new people.

Then I have another male friend who moans and complains about his girlfriend.

Another one complaining about how her friend didn't congratulate her for finishing law school.

Another one moaning and *****ing about her ex-BF who basically makes his family think she's an evil psycho, because he won't pay child support for his daughter.

Another one complaining about the weather.

Another one about the job.

Another one about this.

Another one about that.


GOOD GOD!!!!!!! IS THIS THE WORLD I LIVE IN???? A BUNCH OF PEOPLE MOANING AND *****ING ABOUT EVERYTHING??

The relationship-based ones alone are why I don't even get enthusiastic to find anyone. Just seems like all it leads to (also based on my own experiences) is misery.

So why complain? Why not figure better ways to ADAPT to life's troubles as opposed to wasting hours of your life trying to find some hidden meaning to the troubles when a simple "he's an asshole", "she's a *****", "he's an overgrown child", "she is thoughtless" and MOVING ON would easily solve everything?



And if I sound like I'm complaining, then I apologize...but thanks for listening and offering thoughts.

No complaints here.

so.. you're complaining about people complaining?

Sorry.

It just pisses me off how much moaning and whining I see out there.

If I didn't value my friends so much, I'd tell them all to piss off.

"Sort of" on subject....

My niece once said that "Mean people don't suck...they're just HURT".


Break the chain.

I have a friend who swears the guy she hangs out with isn't her boyfriend but she sure gets p*ssed when he doesn't do what she thinks he should. Strange...and it makes me weary just listening to her.

a statement....not a complaint....right?

I know how you feel... all my friends complain all the time an it gets on my nerves

no...it's definitely complaining...

Why did they censor GoodBuddy?

I really can't complain bout much right now....but it's good to know who to email when I do.

That's what went through my mind, too!!

I love complainers because it reinforces my "it just IS *mostly* positive" attitude.

grkboy....will you listen to me? I don't piss and moan...LOL.

well then...let me introduce you to my friend...she'll really reinforce your positive attitude!!

Someone who has OBVIOUSLY never experienced THE CLAP!

I'm sorry all...I'm just blowing off some steam.

Going to blog my thoughts to fully get it out of my system.

I'm glad to know I'm not the only annoyed person out there.

find new friends?

The thing about complainers...is they can only complain as much as you let them. When they start in, suddenly find something else that you have to do and hang up with them. Or, if you're just too nice and have to listen to them, let them get going...then ask them what they're going to do about it. Complaining solves nothing, and leaves the listener feeling like they're the one who is supposed to do something about it. Make them own their own responsibilities and either solve their problem, or shut up. Tell them you'll happily discuss options that can solve the problem, but that if all they want to do is whine without results, they'll find a better listener with their wall than with you.