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Topic: Trash Talking
lilith401's photo
Sun 05/18/08 08:53 AM
Edited by lilith401 on Sun 05/18/08 08:56 AM
I have noticed that about 85% of the people I talk to trash their ex to me within the first thirty minutes of chatting. I see this as a HUGE red flag...

Why is this done?

link97my's photo
Sun 05/18/08 08:55 AM
To scare you away....flowerforyou

seahawks's photo
Sun 05/18/08 08:56 AM

I have noticed that about 85% of the people I talk to trash their ex to me within the first thirty mintues of chatting. I see this as a HUGE red flag...

Why is this done?
i have never mentioned or trashed my x with you, now about all yur lingerie and heels.!!!!laugh laugh laugh :tongue:

Neurofriction's photo
Sun 05/18/08 08:56 AM

I have noticed that about 85% of the people I talk to trash their ex to me within the first thirty mintues of chatting. I see this as a HUGE red flag...

Why is this done?


I'm close to my ex so I wouldn't know. I can say it would at times be easier to hate then to try to put all the emotions in order.

texasrose9's photo
Sun 05/18/08 08:57 AM
Good question. I haven't had that happen often.

BettyB's photo
Sun 05/18/08 08:57 AM
maybe they are still bitter and hurting over the break up, and want somebody to vent to and give the sympathyflowerforyou

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Sun 05/18/08 08:58 AM
Edited by lilith401 on Sun 05/18/08 08:59 AM
Does anyone else see this as inappropriate discussion when first talking to a person of interest, or to see if there is interest?




Link~ It works!!!laugh

RicJL's photo
Sun 05/18/08 08:58 AM
I don't like to talk about my ex, period. If asked point blank, I prefer to keep it short and not go into details.
What possible good can it serve to dredge up memories best left forgotten?

lilith401's photo
Sun 05/18/08 08:58 AM

maybe they are still bitter and hurting over the break up, and want somebody to vent to and give the sympathyflowerforyou



Good point.... but I'm not here to give sympathy to them...you know?

seahawks's photo
Sun 05/18/08 08:59 AM

Does anyone else see this as inappropriaet discussion when first talking to a person of interest, or to see if there is interest?




Link~ It works!!!laugh
i think its negative energy.!!

seahawks's photo
Sun 05/18/08 09:01 AM
i can honostly say i have joked about x's in many threads but im not bitter, i move on pretty easy.!!! maybe thats why my x's might trash me.!!!

BettyB's photo
Sun 05/18/08 09:01 AM


maybe they are still bitter and hurting over the break up, and want somebody to vent to and give the sympathyflowerforyou



Good point.... but I'm not here to give sympathy to them...you know?

I know but you have such a sweet kind face I can see how it could happen...but your are they should not do itflowerforyou

link97my's photo
Sun 05/18/08 09:01 AM


maybe they are still bitter and hurting over the break up, and want somebody to vent to and give the sympathyflowerforyou



Good point.... but I'm not here to give sympathy to them...you know?

Your to give something else......:wink: :wink: :wink:

robert1652's photo
Sun 05/18/08 09:01 AM

I have noticed that about 85% of the people I talk to trash their ex to me within the first thirty minutes of chatting. I see this as a HUGE red flag...

Why is this done?

though she was not very nice person I have not done that except on one liners delivered in most flippant manner on this site

Don't ask me to be a saint my childlaugh laugh

lilith401's photo
Sun 05/18/08 09:02 AM

i can honostly say i have joked about x's in many threads but im not bitter, i move on pretty easy.!!! maybe thats why my x's might trash me.!!!


No, I mean in e-mails or on messenger. It is an offering up of information....

I can admire a person who is diplomatic. I just wish I came across more.

seahawks's photo
Sun 05/18/08 09:03 AM


i can honostly say i have joked about x's in many threads but im not bitter, i move on pretty easy.!!! maybe thats why my x's might trash me.!!!


No, I mean in e-mails or on messenger. It is an offering up of information....

I can admire a person who is diplomatic. I just wish I came across more.
i hearya.!flowerforyou

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Sun 05/18/08 09:04 AM


maybe they are still bitter and hurting over the break up, and want somebody to vent to and give the sympathyflowerforyou



Good point.... but I'm not here to give sympathy to them...you know?

may be there is something in your personality that tells them you are a good bandage for their wounds
Get rid of the Band Aid logo from your foreheadlaugh laugh

no photo
Sun 05/18/08 09:04 AM
I agree they arent over their ex and subconsciously it comes out. I too look at it as a big red flag.......Get over it!!! Life is too short to waste precious time on hurt and anger.....and it will kill you in the end!noway

I also think that if they talk about someone they used to love like that...what are they going to say about me?huh

btw.......all ex's are biotches etc.....so save me the story!:wink:

robert1652's photo
Sun 05/18/08 09:04 AM

I don't like to talk about my ex, period. If asked point blank, I prefer to keep it short and not go into details.
What possible good can it serve to dredge up memories best left forgotten?

Hear hear

link97my's photo
Sun 05/18/08 09:04 AM


i can honostly say i have joked about x's in many threads but im not bitter, i move on pretty easy.!!! maybe thats why my x's might trash me.!!!


No, I mean in e-mails or on messenger. It is an offering up of information....

I can admire a person who is diplomatic. I just wish I came across more.

If it makes you feel better I don't like talking about mine.....laugh laugh laugh

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