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Good afternoon, Miss Lily. I also ask why a person is divorced, or how long since the last relationship. I think that is a normal thing to ask... but what is not okay with me is the trashing that comes as a response. I agree, people who are not over an ex or still have hate.... aren't ready to move on. Strong feelings, regardless of whether they are positive or negative, are still strong feelings. And that says to me there is a connection. Yes ma'am, hate is not the oposite of love, indifference is the oposite of love.... 
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 I've met alot who CARRY their pains on forever,,,and then use that as altamatum to new people they want to go out with,lol I just see that and move on,lol
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Edited by
lilith401
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Sun 05/18/08 09:48 AM
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Yes ma'am, hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is the opposite of love.... Such truth.... you are sooo right.  iam4u, I move on as well. Thanks for your input. 
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Yes ma'am, hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is the opposite of love.... Such truth.... you are sooo right. iam4u, I move on as well. Thanks for your input. You can be irritated and angry about things they do now, but if you are still not over the relationship..then you really have issues. And shouldn't bring someone else into your screwed up mind set. |
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I think people do this because their scars are still pink.....or it depends on how long they have been out of their last relationship.... Certain questions may cause unresolved emotions to resurface, particularly if someone didn't take the time to work through it prior to dating again.
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she cut me so deep, and i keep bleedin keep keep bleedin in love.!!!
 
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she cut me so deep, and i keep bleedin keep keep bleedin in love.!!!
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she cut me so deep, and i keep bleedin keep keep bleedin in love.!!! hiya lil
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It usually happens if the break-up is still unresolved for them. Unfinished business. They may not be really ready to move on.
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she cut me so deep, and i keep bleedin keep keep bleedin in love.!!! Awesome song. |
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It usually happens if the break-up is still unresolved for them. Unfinished business. They may not be really ready to move on. Does this happen to you? |
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she cut me so deep, and i keep bleedin keep keep bleedin in love.!!! Awesome song.
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It usually happens if the break-up is still unresolved for them. Unfinished business. They may not be really ready to move on. Does this happen to you? It did when I was first divorced, yes. For several years. I have found it to be true with the males I have dated. The ones that dwell on their past usually are not ready to commit to another. |
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It did when I was first divorced, yes. For several years. I have found it to be true with the males I have dated. The ones that dwell on their past usually are not ready to commit to another. I agree, but do you say something? I did to one guy and he just did not get it. In the first five minutes he said, do you have custody of your kid? My ex left me nine years ago and haven't seen her since. She was a drug addict.... I was like, woah..... |
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Edited by
angelindarkness
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Sun 05/18/08 11:19 AM
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No, because you can't rush healing. Just move on.
Timing stinks sometimes. What I did learn then was the reason I was accepting dates from those types was because I wasn't yet ready to move on, myself, at the time. I was a one-date wonder for quite a while. It took years before I felt truly free and ready. It also took some time on my own. |
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Good point. I suppose for me, part of wanting to tell them is to show what it says about them and how they come across. But if they are in the space they are, who am I to try to do anything?
I don't accept dates from those types... and am glad to hear you don't anymore either. |
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Sometimes, the things that bother us the most about others, only do so because they resemble something we do not accept, tolerate, or understand about ourselves.
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Further, as you mature and experience, you learn that it is really not about judging them, but about gaining compassion for another human being who is still hurting and stuck, unable to get out of their own way and open their hearts and minds to happiness.
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Further, as you mature and experience, you learn that it is really not about judging them, but about gaining compassion for another human being who is still hurting and stuck, unable to get out of their own way and open their hearts and minds to happiness. So you are saying that lillith is not mature because she doesn't have compassion for them? |
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I've only had one lady do this too me, and I do find it a bit odd...because she constantly brings her ex up and says I remind her of him...either a red flag or a really bad sign, either or it can't be a good thing.
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