Let her go. Start your own healing process. You need to be true to you. I was told last July of my ex's affair, crushed me. But with our son involved I just started working on me. Our divorce was final in Jan. We are friends I am actually talking with the guy she had the affair with as not super good friends but civil. The hurt takes a while to get rid of. And trust me I had a lot of thoughts that would get me into major trouble about her up until the point I accepted what had happened and moved on.

One step at a time.

Realistic.

Dude, totally. Why sugar coat this kind of stuff?

I feel that taking the other back will only be temporary cuz it will always be in the back of your brain.."WHEN will it happen again?"

Been there done that. For me I was able to meditate while on my bike rides and that helped me tremendously. You will need to discover what will help you clear your mind, each of us is different. Once you do your path will begin.

On the other "heart broken" thread I hear..."Oh..I'd move on"
No.....YOU BREAK! Time and perspective.

You move on when you are good with yourself. Which is easier said than done. But once you get up that mountain, life gets better.

I would let him go and do my best to move on. If he doesn't want me, why try to get him back, been there done that. Heartache to the max trying to make a man love and want you

go thru whatever emotions I would have ()
clean out my gun (), and practice, practice practice

nothing to do but get over it