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The (fictional) scenario-
You get a hit in your favorite online dating site and start chatting with the person. Said person seems interesting enough and has laughed at all of your jokes. You seem to be jelling along quite well with the other person. After a while, the both of you decide upon a date. You decide on a place and time, and (before long) you go to said place where you finally meet the other person... ... who's in a wheelchair. According to the date, the affliction the date has been saddled with is permanent condition with little chance of improvement. The person in question is otherwise normal in every other way DESPITE being in a wheelchair. Beside your date having obvious mobility problems while in the location of your date, you can hear others in said place muttering things (theoretically) at you and your date. Here's the big-ol' question- do you go through with the date? Do you go ahead with whatever perceived relationship that would most certainly be going on under more normal circumstances? Or do you wuss out and leave, laying down tire rubber as you floor it out of the place your date is supposed to be at? |
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 If they lied or didnt tell you, then no. Thats dishonest
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I wouldnt leave, but I would be clear of my intentions during the date.....
If anything they can turn out to be an amazing friend 
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If they lied or didnt tell you, then no. Thats dishonest Man... that's cold. 
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The (fictional) scenario- You get a hit in your favorite online dating site and start chatting with the person. Said person seems interesting enough and has laughed at all of your jokes. You seem to be jelling along quite well with the other person. After a while, the both of you decide upon a date. You decide on a place and time, and (before long) you go to said place where you finally meet the other person... ... who's in a wheelchair. According to the date, the affliction the date has been saddled with is permanent condition with little chance of improvement. The person in question is otherwise normal in every other way DESPITE being in a wheelchair. Beside your date having obvious mobility problems while in the location of your date, you can hear others in said place muttering things (theoretically) at you and your date. Here's the big-ol' question- do you go through with the date? Do you go ahead with whatever perceived relationship that would most certainly be going on under more normal circumstances? Or do you wuss out and leave, laying down tire rubber as you floor it out of the place your date is supposed to be at? y is this even a question. just because said person is in a wheelchair should not have any inpact on the date in any way. i dont understand y any of this would matter. you having already said that the two completly hit it off |
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I finish my date. She is still the person i went there to meet.
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The date wasn't honest about who they represented themselves to be.
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If I've spent enough time getting to know that person, then yes, I would finish the date, and I dare ANYONE to make rude comments about ANYONE I associate with.
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The date wasn't honest about who they represented themselves to be. How were they dishonest? |
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I would go through with it, for 3 reasons...1 they may have been just worried about u judging them for being in a chair,
2 if some one was talkign about her, wether any thing happned between me and her, I would beat the son of a b, thats just plain rude and maybe he aughto spend the rest of his life in a chair! 3 I try to make it work if I liked them, and itd be the perfect settup, sence sex would probbaly be out of question! |
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If I've spent enough time getting to know that person, then yes, I would finish the date, and I dare ANYONE to make rude comments about ANYONE I associate with. Yeah what Lily said..it shouldn't matter if they are in a wheelchair or not..and think about people..maybe said person was afraid to say anything about it because of previous rejections for being in a wheel chair...ya bet ya didn't think about that did yas... |
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Wheelchair or no, it's still the same person. I wear glasses because I'm nearsighted and I have astigmatism; does that make me undatable? Well, lots of OTHER things do, but not my eyesight....
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Question, in this theoriticle situation, can she feel and just not walk, or is the sayed person paralyzed?
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yea, i don't see the difference
of course i would finish the date |
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A disability shouldnt hinder anything. I dont know that I would consider it a lie either. You cant really lie to someone unless they ask you something and you give them misinformation. If we hit it off, make a date, you show up and realize my thighs are MUCH bigger than you thought...have I lied to you? If you are going to ditch someone because of the wheelchair, you probably would have done it up front if they told you. Its not really fair to judge someone because of an uncontrollable circumstance.
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If I've spent enough time getting to know that person, then yes, I would finish the date, and I dare ANYONE to make rude comments about ANYONE I associate with. Yeah what Lily said..it shouldn't matter if they are in a wheelchair or not..and think about people..maybe said person was afraid to say anything about it because of previous rejections for being in a wheel chair...ya bet ya didn't think about that did yas... I mean how much disclosure do you give someone? Hey, I have a scar on my leg, one on my face, my nose is crooked. This one time in band camp........ Give me a break, people are people. If you would be embarrassed about spending time with that person, it says more about your character than it does theirs. |
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Jim has the right idea...If your active like me then mobility is a problem. That should have been brought up right quick.
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Word! I totally agree. The poor girl was probably scared ****less to begin w/ and he probably just made it more akward for her. Try to have some friggin compassion!
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the wheelchair should not be an issue and as for other people whispering who cares.I would enjoy the date as it was the same person I hit it off with.I am assuming the person was upfront about their disability as most handicapped people are.
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If I've spent enough time getting to know that person, then yes, I would finish the date, and I dare ANYONE to make rude comments about ANYONE I associate with. Yeah what Lily said..it shouldn't matter if they are in a wheelchair or not..and think about people..maybe said person was afraid to say anything about it because of previous rejections for being in a wheel chair...ya bet ya didn't think about that did yas... I mean how much disclosure do you give someone? Hey, I have a scar on my leg, one on my face, my nose is crooked. This one time in band camp........ Give me a break, people are people. If you would be embarrassed about spending time with that person, it says more about your character than it does theirs. Dayummmmmmmmmmmmm.....I .....ummmmmm I left my car runnin.... yea thats it .....I left the car runnin....I'll be right back...  
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