'Real' can be an opinion. Some people believe sex finalizes a relationship or establishes one. Well, I guess I should say most people.

In general, girls are tired of the perverted and selfish men, but they seem to also want the best of both worlds. Girls typically want the guy to 'be the man,' but not take it too far. Guys, well, we all know what they want.

For me, I look for more compassion rather than affection in a relationship. That's really hard to find, especially since I feel like the 'masculine' and 'feminine' roles are too influenced by society. I think girls who can be their own person, or have their own distinct personality even if they're a girly girl or not, are awesome. Personality is huge, and if people can control their sex drives for more than two seconds, it'd give more honest souls a chance to share a good, long lasting relationship.

Just my two pennies.

What do you look for in a true, genuine relationship? Or is love just a game to you to 'get some?'

those are some powerful words from someone so young. thank you for sharing

Wow, very profound and mature for your years. Marry me!!

i agree with you. i want someone who's honest and committed. no one is perfect and i won't expect him to be so he shouldn't think i should be. of course, putting up with abuse is not ok. and in a "true, genuine relationship" i think you could wait to have sex. it doesn't have to "seal the deal" or anything. kind of an added bonus when you find someone you can share your life with.

I think you really have a good insight into relationships. In a true relationship, I look for someone who is independent but also like to have me around. I hate having boyfriends who have never grown up or are not grown up enough (I feel like their mom and get treated like their mom gets treated). Stockers are scary.

I believe a true, genuine relationship starts with a well concrete friendship. How can you have a good relationship without knowing the person first?

I'm very careful about my boundaries and I rather wait for marriage. I'm not going to give in just because he wants some.

I have to agree also. But the problem is that society will never change because of the way people are and not every guy just wants sex. There is some guys out there that maybe just want a chance to actually start a relationship but cant because of the worlds view on sex is so strong it seems that they are forced to have sex with a girl because that is the norm. But the thing people dont understand in life is that no matter who the person is or what they were in the begining anyone I mean anyone on this earth can change into something different then what they were from when you met them until the day you both die. Even if your relationship lasts that long or if it doesnt. What Im trying to say is that no man or woman is perfect and could any man or woman both say that they lived a whole life together not having sex, not once and still be in love.

IceHedge, make sure you keep that sweet outlook in life, no matter how many bitter beotches (men or women) try to rid you of it. Someday you'll find a woman that will truly cherish you for it.

NO ONE is forced to have sex with a girl "because it's the norm" and guys that say that kind of garbage are full of it. Guys use that as an excuse to justify their pig selves.

I would rather be pig than a whore. And I sure wouldnt use a stupid line like that just to get in your pants.

Hmmm good topic. I think a relationship to me, well a real one is one where you connect on a whole bunch of different levels, sex, companionship, involves trust, and mkes you feel like when you are with them you are a better version of yourself. So sappy lol! But forget society rules, it's about what works. I've always been told I act like the "man" in the relationship, mostly because I have a take charge attitude about life I guess, and that's fine, so what I look for is someone who when I'm with them, people one know we are together, and know he is the man, why because he is confident in the fact that i'm with him because i want to be, and regardless of my take charge attitude he can be like whatever i'm still taking care of you. And honestly, when that happens i usually let my guard down and turn into little susie home maker anyways lol! Don't know if that answered anything but yea....

To me a real relationship is ... should be like this:

You both should take pleasure, comfort, and pride in doing something for the other, (and it should be like a natural thing.)

You both work mostly on the mental pert of the relationship. become more aware of how and who the other person truly is.
(be close(and if your not then aim to do so) enough to the partner to where you can realize thier habits (big but also (more importantly) small.))

be(become very quickly) their best best friend. (if tha confuses you tell me in a message and I'll explain that more)

Once all those things are very strong, then that is where a person should start getting intament. (do all the phisical stuff)

A lot of people try and do the intament stuf first, and then 7 times out of ten it will not last as a relationship. (if it is sex and nothing else, how can you truely love someone (or learn to love someone) if all you know about her/him looks and how well she/he does it.

... However, that is just what I say, so people can take that in and use my opinion for their own thoughts, or you can just leave it or push it away, but SooneR or LateR (guarrunteed), you'll find this out foryourself and think about what that one smucker dude said and be like" oh wow.. maybe he realy was right about that.

Wise words, sex in our society is pretty blown out of proportion these days for our generation man. When I was in high school a few years back, everyone was screwing and getting crushed and i knew a lot of my friends that were just sleeping around for no real reason at all other then mtv told them it was cool and it ruined a lot of friendships that had been around since gradeschool.

A relationship to me is just finding a person in our cynical world that just wants to be with you for you. No ties or any pressure to do one thing or another sexualy, and where it leads is where it leads. Im still pretty young in this world but i think my whole generation is a bunch of false people who dont have a lot of character because of the way our media influence. Honestly its getting harder and harder to find a genuine person to be with that can be truely open and communicate with you and doesnt care about what our society pressures them to do.

IDK some of the older folks might have a different view on relationships and how they shoudl be handled and started, but thats one of the main reasons im online now is to try someone that i would have never met before that isent trying to just hook up that night at the party or bonfire.

my 2c from a technology baby

i just got out of a pretty intense relationship. it wasn't intense because we did things sexually, and it wasn't intense because we were "2GETHER FOR SO LONG OMG!!!" it was intense because it was the type of relationship where we could lie side by side, looking at the stars, not touching and not talking, and still feel close and connected.

that's what i look for in a relationship.

Holy ****, this girl is awesome

I'm looking for the same thing...

too bad you're not from mass.

Very well said and I agree, it is hard to find a really good person in this MTV born society.

Hi,

I liked your posting, and I think that communication is a key in building and keeping a relationship.

But who am I to comment, being single,then everything comes natural.

To all of the guys who posted

There are very few guys around here that would even take the time to post their real thoughts. It's hard to guys that can truely talk about things anymore (especially in wyoming). Not very many people in this town that seem to think about anything other than the next party or work.