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Go have fun and dont let them or your daughter see how frustrating it is...If they see it hey win. If your daughter sees it she is brought down.....
Just be there to pick her up when she needs it. |
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I think it's time him and I have a discussion... My daughter calls me this morning begging for me to come get her. She proceeds to tell me that they always do what he wants to do and not what my ex or daughter wants to do...She is not asking for much...Maybe the zoo, park, aquariam, library, circus...something a little girl would enjoy....Roller skating even? So far, for the last few months on her weekend they have gone to: Pro Rodeo/Bull riding Monster Trucks Tractor Show/Pulls Nascar Race Funny thing is? This is all stuff my ex HATED when we were together...  I will be calling tonight Does ur ex give u ur daughter anytime u want her or daughter wnats u??? If yes..Then just go get her.. simple.. been there done that.. if not...court modification may be needed.. didin't read the whole post ...as I am finally going out...time off.. My heart goes out to ur daughter and u.. Just stay cool..don't get in trouble.. Would hate to see that happen to u..but I completely understand.. take her back to court....     
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be the best dad you can be, spend time doing the things your child wants to do...
as long as there isnt any abuse or neglect then stay out of the rest, its not your business. |
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Well, just got back...now I am a little p1ssed and told my ex to expect a call tonight after my daughter goes to bed...
This SOB whined and cryed like a little b1tch and made my daughter feel guilty because she wasnt going now...My daughter being the awesome girl that she is accomodated to him and I can respect that on her part..I am not upset with my daughter in the least... So I am picking her up from school tommorow and we are going to dinner....Tonight I will be heard |
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go for it jim
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be the best dad you can be, spend time doing the things your child wants to do... as long as there isnt any abuse or neglect then stay out of the rest, its not your business. We spend a lot of time together and do a lot of great things...Although anything that involves my daughter is my business....100%..If something is wrong in her home with her Mom I wouldnt be a very good Father to not steup up and take action...As I would expect her Mom to do vice versa |
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be the best dad you can be, spend time doing the things your child wants to do... as long as there isnt any abuse or neglect then stay out of the rest, its not your business. We spend a lot of time together and do a lot of great things...Although anything that involves my daughter is my business....100%..If something is wrong in her home with her Mom I wouldnt be a very good Father to not steup up and take action...As I would expect her Mom to do vice versa
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be the best dad you can be, spend time doing the things your child wants to do... as long as there isnt any abuse or neglect then stay out of the rest, its not your business. We spend a lot of time together and do a lot of great things...Although anything that involves my daughter is my business....100%..If something is wrong in her home with her Mom I wouldnt be a very good Father to not steup up and take action...As I would expect her Mom to do vice versa It will....I wont give up until it is Thank you
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i know how you feel bro,just go about doing it the right way man or it'll just cause lots of problems man...good luck bro!!
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you're putting your daughter in a very awkward and difficult position, there is a triangle now.. you, step dad, mom and your daughter is right in the center of it totally outgunned by the adults around her.
this is going to end up bad for her, no matter what anyone does..she's going to feel guilty and responsible for what ever knockdown argument the adults end up having... poor kid.. dont be surprised if she never says anything else again. |
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i know how you feel bro,just go about doing it the right way man or it'll just cause lots of problems man...good luck bro!! thanks bro! 
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its not that dramatic but it is a delicate situation to be handled with caution...i have a 7 year old daughter in pretty much the same situation..if you want some advise or just to talk hit me up bro..
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you're putting your daughter in a very awkward and difficult position, there is a triangle now.. you, step dad, mom and your daughter is right in the center of it totally outgunned by the adults around her. this is going to end up bad for her, no matter what anyone does..she's going to feel guilty and responsible for what ever knockdown argument the adults end up having... poor kid.. dont be surprised if she never says anything else again. I havent put my daughter in any position. I accept her decisions and I am there for her no matter what, and she knows that. She sighed heavily on the phone saying she decided to go with them because he was upset. I supported her in her decision, in no way was I negative toward her for that. She will not be exposed to any arguments, my ex and I are very good about that. As far as my daughter knows Mommy and Daddy get along great, we go to school functions together, dinner together at times, so on..Even though her Mother and I despise each other, we are able to be friendly and laugh and carry on when my daughter is present. This will be handled without her being exposed to anything..... My focus is her and all her..150% off the time....NOTHING else matters to me |
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Edited by
iUse2B
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Sun 04/27/08 12:06 PM
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Well to try to think you will change anything as far as his actions..kinda stupid. You could possibly make the situation worse for her.
And your daughter does NOT have to go with your ex if she does not want to. The courts have started to rule that just because a parent has visitation rights, does NOT mean they MUST go. This happened with my son years ago when he was about 12 and living with me. I discussed the situation with my attorney. Then I sat down with my son and let him know he does have a say (by law). Visitation right are granted, however the child MAY refuse. As long as you are not forcing her to stay, and not impeding in anyway to stop or hinder the visitation, she is allowed to just say "no". Your ex may call the police, etc, etc..however if the police were to arrive, they would see you are not in violation of anything. That is your child, you are not witholding her against her will or in any manner, so basically, nothing they can do nor are you in trouble because you are not in violation of anything. Remember, the only person in this world you have "control" over, is yourself. Trying to "make a call" has the potential of making things worse for your daughter.
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Im not saying I want it to get violent..I want to handle it civilly and like adults....A simple disussion Well damn....where's the fun in that????  This SOB whined and cryed like a little b1tch and made my daughter feel guilty because she wasnt going now... Oh, well imagine that.....  And you expected something more from this pissant?
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Jim
sounds like a tough subject............who cares about the ex thats her problem but first I would volenteer to let your daughter come over your place when they decide too do things she doesn't like then you get more time and it is a win win then you ex is stuck trying to impress some clown with things she probably doesn't like |
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Im not saying I want it to get violent..I want to handle it civilly and like adults....A simple disussion Well damn....where's the fun in that???? This SOB whined and cryed like a little b1tch and made my daughter feel guilty because she wasnt going now... Oh, well imagine that..... And you expected something more from this pissant? |
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Jim sounds like a tough subject............who cares about the ex thats her problem but first I would volenteer to let your daughter come over your place when they decide too do things she doesn't like then you get more time and it is a win win then you ex is stuck trying to impress some clown with things she probably doesn't like Good advice Ken Actualyl that is what I am going to mention this evening, and also make my daughter aware of tommorow when we can talk alone |
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Your little one will remember these things! I'm going through the exact same thing. She will start to hate going over there and soon she will be old enough to make up her own mind about what she wants to do and it will all come flooding back and I think your X will be very sorry she did what shes doing!
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