Well here goes...me and my ex broke up in July of last year because she said she wasn't happy anymore, I said ok and let her go.I don't believe in getting to an arguement or fighting.I told her when we met 9 years ago all I wanted is for her to be happy.It's just real hard to get back in the dating scene after 9 years,kinda lost and don't like being alone at 38 years old.(will be 39 April 24).Any kind of advice will be appreciated.Thanks.....

socialize with friends, keep the mind busy... time heals these wounds. good luck

well, I was in a relationship for 14 years, we split up 2 years ago..Im pushing 50. My options? Enjoy life to the fullest, dont worry about what I dont have, make the most of what I do have.

My advice?? Get out and meet people, dont stay locked up in your house in front of your computer drinking beer...take up a new hobby, go back to school, get involved in your church (or any other social network you might be a part of) point is, put your self out there in the world, you never know what might be waiting for you just around the corner.

good luck

Yeah, I'm your age and just ended a 9 year relationship. I'm not ready yet. I'm just here to chat for now. I thought making a few friends would be nice until I feel like it's time to return to the market. Uugghh! Good luck to ya! I've met some very nice people here so far.

I know where you are coming from, my husband passed away back in January and I don't like to be single or living alone. It's strange after all that time to srart over again

Really 9 years for you to huh? How do you feel about it ...do you miss them?I don't like the sound of the market.....lol

Is that not what they say nowadays...back on the market? See I even need to learn the new lingo now.

Being together for that long of a time to have it end is very painful. There is nothing we can tell you, that will make you feel better.

My best advice for you right now is to enjoy your life, and put yourself in the number 1 spot. When people date or together for a very long time, they tend to put there person they are with before them.

Its probably been a long time since you focused on you. So enjoy this time. Take the time to know who you are again, your wants and your desires.

Also I have learned if you try really hard to find or search for someone you never can find that right person. Let love come to you, don't go looking for it.

Make as many friends as you can, you never know what may happen.

Humm ya have just started I ended a 11 year relantionship 16 years ago yep still single have dated but........ still looking for that special one. All I can say is live your life and enjoy it learn to lover yourself again before jumping into any relationship. It does not take another to make you happy. You should be happy first and let the other one enchance your life instead.

Good luck and let nature take its course.

Thanks a lot code you are absolutely right makes me feel a little better thanks man...

Exactly my mind. That's why I'm only out for friends at this point. Well put!

ALL YOUR DREAMS WILL COME TRUE WITH MUTUAL MATCH.

That's well put as well. I like that and will have to remember it if I ever change my status to dating. "Looking for someone to enhance me" I like it a lot.

Good luck to you billdog! Hope to see you around.

I hope to see you around as well....thanks

The most important thing is to live for yourself. Start doing all the things you had an interest in. Well, the things that you can easily take up. Find groups interested in the same things. The reality is, the more active you are in things, the more likely you will meet people.

Unfortunaletely, most of my interests are only popular amoung women. So I don't meet a lot of men in my areas of interest. Or age appropriate men. But I figure that other women know other men as well, and increases the opportunity to meet new people.

It seems like I'm on here a lot, but I'm also involved in two clubs and three organizations.

Living for yourself, ingulging in your hobbies and passions also make a person happier, and a happier person is more likely to meet people and start dating again. At least that is what all the literature on it and all the people seem to say. It probably works. I'm just extremely extremely picky.

.....my last semi serious relationship was almost 6 yrs back...b4 that spent 9 yrs w/ a relationship because of our dghtr...always dated in between...but been waiting to meet "the one" since my marriage broke up after just 10months, but we were best buds for 10 days (22 yrs ago)...everybody has a story of passed relationships lost..I've just met a guy on here in the last month or less, things have hyper-spaced but were are both diggin it...he is driving out from PA in June, neither of us expect any big changes about the feelings we are developing..."the same page" is an understatement w/us...but it was a long time coming for us both ...just keep talkin, posting and being open and truthful...being a Taurus and I being ..lol..the in House Astrologer I say pay attention to the gals that talk about being a sign in the same element (in your case EARTH) signs would be where your best matches could be...Capricorns and Virgos besides Taurus's...

good luck


~wicked~

can i ask you a question? any suggestions for 2 fire signs>

Yeah, approach women you are interested in while detaching yourself from the outcome and assume rapport from the start so that you may allow yourself to converse comfortably.

And remember, women are human just like you and me, not some scary monsters that bite your head off if you say the wrong thing.