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It's Monday and yes, I am going to vent. With the never ending posts, why cant I find love? why this? why that? what the hell is wrong with being single? why are so many people so unable to rely on themselves for fulfillment or happiness? being single is not a detriment, what is a detriment is what you do with your time while you're single? Has anyone been in a crowded room, surrounded by people, friends, family, loved ones etc and still felt alone??? People often confuse being/feeling alone with being lonely. People this happens, suck it up and move forward. I love me, I love life, I would love to share it, but that will not define me, for I will always be me  and it will come when it comes, for I am not searching for a thing  Good luck to those that find love, companionship, but for the rest of us, if you cant make yourself feel good, why would someone else want to share your life? AMEN!!! I AGREE WITH YOU 1000%!!!! You have to love yourself before others can love you!!! 
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Like anything else, if you don't get to date for a long time, it becomes a big deal. Little things naturally become a big deal when you're bereft of them. Like if you couldn't brush your teeth for a week, you'd REALLY want to be able to brush your teeth again. Exept with dating, the fact that you REALLY want to go on dates again when you haven't for too long, that becomes a reason for people to act like that means that you're unhealthily fixated on dating, hence undatable. Vicious cycle. But who is saying you cant date, my point is that most people are quick to point the finger at another, blame another person or expect and rely on another person to make us happy. Everything starts with us, we are responsible for our own happiness. If you are not happy with your life who is going to want to take a part in your life? Not me thats for sure. |
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It's Monday and yes, I am going to vent. With the never ending posts, why cant I find love? why this? why that? what the hell is wrong with being single? why are so many people so unable to rely on themselves for fulfillment or happiness? being single is not a detriment, what is a detriment is what you do with your time while you're single? Has anyone been in a crowded room, surrounded by people, friends, family, loved ones etc and still felt alone??? People often confuse being/feeling alone with being lonely. People this happens, suck it up and move forward. I love me, I love life, I would love to share it, but that will not define me, for I will always be me and it will come when it comes, for I am not searching for a thing Good luck to those that find love, companionship, but for the rest of us, if you cant make yourself feel good, why would someone else want to share your life? AMEN!!! I AGREE WITH YOU 1000%!!!! You have to love yourself before others can love you!!!  thank you |
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> But who is saying you cant date...
The women I ask out. That's who complains about being single, the people caught up in a viscious cycle of not dating. |
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Carpe' Diem!
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I have no problem being alone and can enjoy my own company but DANG! the problems is the good buy one get one free deals I miss out on!
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Hi Fran..Great post!!
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4 me the hardest thing is sleeping alone im not talking about sex its fun to cuddle watch a movie etc......
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I agree Fran. Now lets add a bit. its about sharing your happiness with someone. The key is finding someone that is happy with themselves as well. 2 Happy people together is allot of fun. Just my opinion. Back to my cubical now.
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It is lonely as hell sometimes you just need to be cuddled and feel the love.
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> But who is saying you cant date... The women I ask out. That's who complains about being single, the people caught up in a viscious cycle of not dating. 
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I love being single... I also love sex.. so I ahave a few girls I just refer to as hood rats... but they know that there is no possibility of somehting long term WOW!!!!!   If they are referred to as "hood rats" I'd sure like to know what others and myself should call you??????? That was extremely demeaning and I sure hope that they wake up someday SOON!!!! They deserve better. |
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there are time when i like being single and times when i hate it.
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I am complete whether I am with someone or not. I like who I am and am content with where I am. I was married for 17 years and have been single for going on 9 years. While I think it would be great to have someone to share time with, share the things I am passionate about and to try new things with, I am in no big rush so that I feel "whole". I am whole already but what I miss most about not being part of a couple is having someone hold me as I sleep~
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  we still have to be around ourselves all time and i beieve if you love yourself its okay if your are single and its okay if your are a couple just enjoy your life for whatever life takes you
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we still have to be around ourselves all time and i beieve if you love yourself its okay if your are single and its okay if your are a couple just enjoy your life for whatever life takes you great way to put it, love is great! |
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It's Monday and yes, I am going to vent. With the never ending posts, why cant I find love? why this? why that? what the hell is wrong with being single? why are so many people so unable to rely on themselves for fulfillment or happiness? being single is not a detriment, what is a detriment is what you do with your time while you're single? Has anyone been in a crowded room, surrounded by people, friends, family, loved ones etc and still felt alone??? People often confuse being/feeling alone with being lonely. People this happens, suck it up and move forward. I love me, I love life, I would love to share it, but that will not define me, for I will always be me and it will come when it comes, for I am not searching for a thing Good luck to those that find love, companionship, but for the rest of us, if you cant make yourself feel good, why would someone else want to share your life?
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Well said franshade. Far to many people put much stock in other people. I thinks it's much better to be single and happy, than miserable with someone.
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Well said franshade. Far to many people put much stock in other people. I thinks it's much better to be single and happy, than miserable with someone. I think before you can be happy in any type of relationship you must first be happy and responsible for your own happiness. People are so quick to put the pressure on another person. Yet I agree, I'd rather be alone any day than in the wrong company.
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It's Monday and yes, I am going to vent. With the never ending posts, why cant I find love? why this? why that? what the hell is wrong with being single? why are so many people so unable to rely on themselves for fulfillment or happiness? being single is not a detriment, what is a detriment is what you do with your time while you're single? Has anyone been in a crowded room, surrounded by people, friends, family, loved ones etc and still felt alone??? People often confuse being/feeling alone with being lonely. People this happens, suck it up and move forward. I love me, I love life, I would love to share it, but that will not define me, for I will always be me and it will come when it comes, for I am not searching for a thing Good luck to those that find love, companionship, but for the rest of us, if you cant make yourself feel good, why would someone else want to share your life? ost people do continue on with their lives, when they dont have a special someone. I think its normal for people to want to share their whole life, or at least part of it with someone. The question arent asked because people are so unhappy. I think the question are asked because, like life, love in very complexed. Sometimes knowing other people feel like you, and you share some of the same questions, makes you feel normal, and not so alone. 
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