My son was supposed to come to me today and my ex called 20 minutes before he was due to arrive saying that he wouldn't be coming as they had all decided to go on a family day out instead.
I've seen my kids ONCE since last November.
I'm so angry I'm crying.

Sorry for you Mike but why don't you make her bring your son to you

sorry

I am so sorry. I'm glad you are being a involved father who wants to see his son. My ex never wanted to see the boys unless it was convenient for him. She does not sound like she is following visitation days like in the divorce decree. And taking her back to court would just be a mess....

sorry to hear that..that stinks

Picking your son up is not unheard of....

If my ex wife ever pulled that crap on me she might as well call the Cops first before me..

Legally my ex-wife cant do that and thankfully so. I go above and beyond to get her more..

YOU MUST STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHTS! DO NOT ACCEPT THIS BEHAVIOR FROM HER!!!!

does he live far? why only once since Nov? sounds like you need to get a little more aggressive in visitation. sorry about today.

Mike????

She won't do that even though she lives 4 miles away.
It's 'too much' for her to do
She always has some excuse or other.

AWWWW ((((Tom)))) sorry to hear this news. Does she not realize how it hurts you that you can not see your son....obviously not and she doesn't care. It's people like her I'd like to just shake the stuffing out of

That is JUST NOT NICE, JUST NOT FAIR. It really bothers me that you, always upbeat, trying to crack us all up with your jokes, got treated like this. That is insane and it sounds like a hurtful situation there for you. I'm so sorry....

if he's only 4 miles why don't you go to him? i know every breakup has a story, but if i didn't have my kids and they were only 4 miles away, i'd be all over that.

Im sorry to hear that my friend,What was the agreement in your divorce settlement?

4 miles away! Get in your car and GO!!!!!!!! Never ever settle...EVER!!!! Your child needs to see you fight for your rights!

As I don't drive, that isn't possible unfortunately.
She always promises to bring them and has said that she would do so, but always finds some excuse.
I'm not going to go into the reason why but a 'Cheating spouse who cheats on you with your best friend can, it seems, NEVER be trusted.

I understand everyones arrangements are different. On my "wk-ends" I pick them up Sat nite, and they go home Sun nite. But I usually have them over for dinner 1 nite during the wk, and I take them to almost all of the DR., Dentist, and Orthodontist visits. Plus I phone and email too. They are also old enough to call/email too.

How about a bike? Your son have a bike? 4 miles is not a bad bike ride at all....Please take me the right way when I say these things...I just know that there is no excuse for you or anyone to pass up on the child...He needs you

i'm with jim on this -- not trying to hit you up with negativity, but excuses should never come into play with your child.

The last time I saw my kids was in February. I went there on my bike and I got to see them for aout twenty minutes as when I arrived there SHE said they were all going out to a theme park.
Which had apparently been arranged shortly before my arrival.
She always lets me know when they re at home, so we make arrangements for me to see them, but always finds an excuse at the last moment.
I love my kids and either call them every night or vice versa.
Recent illness is also a factor in me not being able in me being able to go and see them, so it isn't from want of trying.

I agree with the cheating spouse never being trusted...same reason I can't trust my ex. You however, already know she can't be trusted, so you kind of are one-up on her already. I suggest you call a few days beforehand, and firm up any plans, so she's without excuse. Case in point: I didn't call this week, "assuming" she knew this was my weekend to have my son.
Fact is, she DID know, but took full advantage of my NOT calling (then it can be my fault...see how that works?) and took him camping.
Now we have some communicating to do. I knew better I guess, but "assmuming" with liars is like depending on them, and you already know you can't.