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Sorry to hear about your son. You have a right to be pissed.
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I agree with the cheating spouse never being trusted...same reason I can't trust my ex. You however, already know she can't be trusted, so you kind of are one-up on her already. I suggest you call a few days beforehand, and firm up any plans, so she's without excuse. Case in point: I didn't call this week, "assuming" she knew this was my weekend to have my son. Fact is, she DID know, but took full advantage of my NOT calling (then it can be my fault...see how that works?) and took him camping. Now we have some communicating to do. I knew better I guess, but "assmuming" with liars is like depending on them, and you already know you can't. Arrangements are always made well in advance and she always changes them at the very last minute. I've just told her hat I'm seeing my lawyer about this. I'm just going to take it from there. |
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(((Tom)))
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You need to develop a very stong attitude
One that states, I will not tolerate this...Period! I will fight for my rights and I WILL see my kids! No one will get in my way! Thats how I am, I will bulldoze threw anyone that attemtps to get between my daughter and I.... |
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Good going Jim. This is the kind of Dad all kids want. They feel secure and wanted. That's all a kid thinks about, my Dad wants to be with me and be there for me!!!! Fight for the kids !!! 
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Good going Jim. This is the kind of Dad all kids want. They feel secure and wanted. That's all a kid thinks about, my Dad wants to be with me and be there for me!!!! Fight for the kids !!!
 Dam right!!!!
My daughter and I have an incredible Daddy/Daughter bond...That will never change..Thankfully the fight is over and my ex fully supports as much time with me as possible, she sees how important it as well..We both share legal custody and share equal time...I have changed pretty much everything in my life to support my relationship with her...I work closer to her school now and live only about 15 minutes drive away...No matter what I can be there quickly...Ironically we are all 3 going to family game night at her school MOnday night |
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You need to develop a very stong attitude One that states, I will not tolerate this...Period! I will fight for my rights and I WILL see my kids! No one will get in my way! Thats how I am, I will bulldoze threw anyone that attemtps to get between my daughter and I.... Amen Brother. I am the same way. When myself and my ex went throught the divorce I flat out told her what ever we do will not affect our son. We both need to be there for him period. And if someone gets in between me and my son all of you will read about it in the paper. But I totally agree. |
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I fight as much as I can and will continue to do so. But there are times when one just feels so depressed about the situation it drives you to distraction.
I constantly send messages to my kids and recieve them in return. The thing that makes my blood boil is the constant last minute cancellations. She married tthe man who was once my best friend and because he has his own business they can afford to give them things I am unable to. BUT. They have my love and know that I am always here as and when they need me.And that I will do as much as I can for them. |
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Your kids knowing that you are there for them is more important than stuff. Keep up the fight, do talk to your lawyer, and always let them know they can talk to you and you will come out fine.
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I fight as much as I can and will continue to do so. But there are times when one just feels so depressed about the situation it drives you to distraction. I constantly send messages to my kids and recieve them in return. The thing that makes my blood boil is the constant last minute cancellations. She married tthe man who was once my best friend and because he has his own business they can afford to give them things I am unable to. BUT. They have my love and know that I am always here as and when they need me.And that I will do as much as I can for them. It is tough, dont get me wrong..I know the depression in regards to it.. Legally you need to get that changed...It can be done. I would be at the courthouse in the morning as soon as the door unlocks...I know the laws are different over there...But PLEASE, and I mean PLEASE feel free to write me anytime you want in regards to this! I will gladly be any form of support I can be for you to help pump you up in your fight...You deserve nothing less!
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I fight as much as I can and will continue to do so. But there are times when one just feels so depressed about the situation it drives you to distraction. I constantly send messages to my kids and recieve them in return. The thing that makes my blood boil is the constant last minute cancellations. She married tthe man who was once my best friend and because he has his own business they can afford to give them things I am unable to. BUT. They have my love and know that I am always here as and when they need me.And that I will do as much as I can for them. It is tough, dont get me wrong..I know the depression in regards to it.. Legally you need to get that changed...It can be done. I would be at the courthouse in the morning as soon as the door unlocks...I know the laws are different over there...But PLEASE, and I mean PLEASE feel free to write me anytime you want in regards to this! I will gladly be any form of support I can be for you to help pump you up in your fight...You deserve nothing less!
What a nice post to Tom ... I think knowing there are other fathers who have had to fight the fight will make him at least have hope.
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I fight as much as I can and will continue to do so. But there are times when one just feels so depressed about the situation it drives you to distraction. I constantly send messages to my kids and recieve them in return. The thing that makes my blood boil is the constant last minute cancellations. She married tthe man who was once my best friend and because he has his own business they can afford to give them things I am unable to. BUT. They have my love and know that I am always here as and when they need me.And that I will do as much as I can for them. It is tough, dont get me wrong..I know the depression in regards to it.. Legally you need to get that changed...It can be done. I would be at the courthouse in the morning as soon as the door unlocks...I know the laws are different over there...But PLEASE, and I mean PLEASE feel free to write me anytime you want in regards to this! I will gladly be any form of support I can be for you to help pump you up in your fight...You deserve nothing less!
What a nice post to Tom ... I think knowing there are other fathers who have had to fight the fight will make him at least have hope.
I will gladly support any Fathers who want to fight for it. I am a true example of success in regards to it. I was once knocked down..but I got up, dusted off, and put on the gear and was a raging bull..... |
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It saddens me to see one parent use the children as pawns to hurt the other.
We choose to have children with someone; the children have no choice in the matter. We need to love the children more than we dislike the ex. When a divorce occurs you need to take the SALOS attitude. One must "Swallow a LOT of $hit" to provide a nurturing atmosphere for a child. They need BOTH the mother and father and it is SO unfair to deprive them of both. Good Luck Tom!! Check your legal options. If visitation is not court ordered then GET IT court ordered. If she doesn't comply she will be in contempt of the court order. |
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The thing that has pissed me off the most is the fact that over the last several months, I have been unemployed and was unable to work due to illness. The times I have tried to get her to bring them or to get to see them, she always has an excuse.
Going away for the day/Weekend/Vacation. Busy doing things at school. etc. She evn omitted to tell me about my youngest girls first communion a couple of weeks back. I only found out about that when my son told mein an SMS a couple of days later. 
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awww Tom so sorry that really sucks
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My children are what counts. I haven't gotten childsupport since last september, but i continued to let them see their dad. Even let them stay extra time, if i was asked to. Whatever goes on between my ex and myself is not their fault or their business. Now he decided to leave the state in order to find a job. (I'm sorry, but last time i checked McD's and Walmart were hiring, and he admitted that those were not the right kind of job for him.) Anyways, now the kids won't see him at all, am i happy about it? NO! They ask for him, and i am the one that gets to explain everything.
Friday nite, the kids called him. My 3 year old daughter talked to him first. I heard only her side of the conversation. She asked "Why dont you wanna see me anymore?", "You dont love me anymore?", "Whats you friends name? What are her kids names?", "When are you gonna be back?". 
People, if you put a child into this world, that makes you a parent, for crying out loud, please act like one! |
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So sorry Tom. I'm going through almost the same garbage with my granddaughter dad.Because of the stupidity of my daughter,my granddaughter is now living with her dad and his new wife.Every time I'm suppose to have my granddaughter,I get a call saying they have made plans and she can't come over. It is so heartbreaking. Her and I are so close,it's very hard on her also.
I have her this weekend,but God knows next time I'll see her again. No need to say what I'd like to do to those two and their plans. 
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 So sorry Tom
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MY SON JUST CALLED. HE SAID HE'S COMING TO SEE ME NEXT SUNDAY. 'NO MATTER WHAT'!!!
<<<<<<<<<<<<<< Happy as pig in sh!t.
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Next week is good, but now would have been the expected right thing to do. She really has no right to do that to either of you. A deal is a deal. If you have court ordered privaleges, then you are to have them. What she did wasn't right, it was selfish and hurtful.
If she continues on this path...exert your rights as a father. You do have rights. Kat |
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