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Excuse me? Are you suggesting that the woman be held against her will? It should be easy to leave an abusive husband. It should be easy to walk away from a miserable life and miserable marriage. The truth is, it is never easy. Why make it harder? You would make it harder? People have a right to live happy, not trapped in a depressing oppressive, restrictive or abusive relationship. I say make it hard to stay married. I say that a marriage should expire after five years and have to be renewed. JB Again, I do not condone abuse, and I do believe there should remain some divorce conditions, abuse, adultery would be the main things there. OTher then that, yeah, I do believe that one should be "trapped" in an unhappy relationship. Most men, as evidenced by the divorce filers, will stay in a marriage until the end, while women, will leave at the drop of a dime. I think, if women are so unhappy, so frequently, and are so willing to pull out the divorce card, maybe they should think more about who they are marrying first before exchanging spouses like leased automobiles. The civil courts are far too bogged down with no fault divorces, and there are far too many kids living in "alternate arrangements", because of this fact. |
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Know what ladies? I don't think any more time should be wasted on this project.
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Know what ladies? I don't think any more time should be wasted on this project. Yeah, I have heard this before!!!! LOL As far as marriage goes, If you make that comitment you should keep it or at least try to fix the problems.... If you are not willing to do this then you should have never married in the first place... As far as abuse or substance abuse or infedelity you have every right to leave, but because you are bored or aren't getting the attention you would like, these are problems that should be discussed and can be easily fixed... Hiker... as far as your ex, you said he was happier with someone else, what happens when he finds someone who makes him happier than his current wife???? Should he be able to just leave and go with them???? When will this viscious cycle end??? People like that shouldn't marry.... Everyone has a right to be happy, but how many people should you be allowed to trample on in order to get there??? I had my share of disappointments in my marriage too, Example, I always wanted kids and my wife said she probably wasn't going to be able to have kids because of a medical condition, my response was that we would adopt one from China and have made in China tatooed on his butt LOL!!! I didn't care that one of my dreams had died and I would never be able to watch my child grow... I was with my wife, my partner, my friend, and that is all that mattered!!!!! Bottom line, if you are not in it for the long hall, don't do it!!!! |
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Edited by
wickedlluccy
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Sat 04/19/08 12:15 PM
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....I remember knowing/sayin when I was 17 I would do better to be tied to a child than a man.....self fulfilled prophecy here 31 yrs single parent....my choice...Im nearing the end of that choice and now I am ready to invest in till death do us part...I know long time comin huh.....lol....lol...   ~w~ but there were so many men and so much time to be choosey.....lol...hey Boxer kiss kiss |
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Know what ladies? I don't think any more time should be wasted on this project. Yeah, I have heard this before!!!! LOL As far as marriage goes, If you make that comitment you should keep it or at least try to fix the problems.... If you are not willing to do this then you should have never married in the first place... As far as abuse or substance abuse or infedelity you have every right to leave, but because you are bored or aren't getting the attention you would like, these are problems that should be discussed and can be easily fixed... Hiker... as far as your ex, you said he was happier with someone else, what happens when he finds someone who makes him happier than his current wife???? Should he be able to just leave and go with them???? When will this viscious cycle end??? People like that shouldn't marry.... Everyone has a right to be happy, but how many people should you be allowed to trample on in order to get there??? I had my share of disappointments in my marriage too, Example, I always wanted kids and my wife said she probably wasn't going to be able to have kids because of a medical condition, my response was that we would adopt one from China and have made in China tatooed on his butt LOL!!! I didn't care that one of my dreams had died and I would never be able to watch my child grow... I was with my wife, my partner, my friend, and that is all that mattered!!!!! Bottom line, if you are not in it for the long hall, don't do it!!!! People like that shouldn't marry - people like what? People who make mistakes? Let me know when you find one that doesn't. My ex has been with the woman he left me for for about 14 years now. I think he wanted the long haul; but after marrying me he realized that it wouldn't be with me. I am fine with that; I am able to see another person's point of view and wish them a happy life, even if it does not include me. So sorry for you that you can't do that. Let go and get on with your life and stop worrying about things you can't change. |
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 ......you go girl!!!!!!!! (Hike) ~w~ |
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Good for you Wicked!!!!
And cudos for raising a child by yourself, I don't see how you guys do it!!!! I am glad to see that there are some people who can realize what they want at such a young age.... Just find someone who is honest about what they want and willing to work for your marriage and you will realize what most of us only dream of!!!!!
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Good for you Wicked!!!! And cudos for raising a child by yourself, I don't see how you guys do it!!!! I am glad to see that there are some people who can realize what they want at such a young age.... Just find someone who is honest about what they want and willing to work for your marriage and you will realize what most of us only dream of!!!!! ....thanks hun found me a keeper right here on JSH....just gotta figure out the- who- where- when- how- moving stuff.....lol...long distant love its a toughy........ |
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People like that shouldn't marry - people like what? People who make mistakes? Let me know when you find one that doesn't. My ex has been with the woman he left me for for about 14 years now. I think he wanted the long haul; but after marrying me he realized that it wouldn't be with me. I am fine with that; I am able to see another person's point of view and wish them a happy life, even if it does not include me. So sorry for you that you can't do that. Let go and get on with your life and stop worrying about things you can't change. My point is, marriage is supposed to be for life, If you can't see yourself with that person when you grow old and feeble, broke, rich, working through arguments, when they are depressed, happy and all the other unforseeable things, then you shouldn't make that comitment!!!!! People make mistakes,,, I made mistakes and guess what, I am paying for it!!!! As I said before I don't want my wife back and wouldn't if she were the last woman on earth... I am going forward with my life... I pick myself up daily and go forward and in time, I won't think about her anymore....I want her to be happy and I know that it won't be with me, I don't care about that anymore.... She manipulated me after she left so I would do things for her and I was dumb enough not to see it then... She used me for what she could get and that is what she did when she married me.. I had a good job and was making decent money and then I started my own business and she was all for it until the economy turned and the money quit coming in, That is when she decided to leave.. Coincedence???? I don't think so... These are the kind of people that shouldn't marry..... If you are out for yourself and only yourself, you need to be alone!!!! |
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My point is, marriage is supposed to be for life, If you can't see yourself with that person when you grow old and feeble, broke, rich, working through arguments, when they are depressed, happy and all the other unforseeable things, then you shouldn't make that comitment!!!!! People make mistakes,,, I made mistakes and guess what, I am paying for it!!!! As I said before I don't want my wife back and wouldn't if she were the last woman on earth... I am going forward with my life... I pick myself up daily and go forward and in time, I won't think about her anymore....I want her to be happy and I know that it won't be with me, I don't care about that anymore.... She manipulated me after she left so I would do things for her and I was dumb enough not to see it then... She used me for what she could get and that is what she did when she married me.. I had a good job and was making decent money and then I started my own business and she was all for it until the economy turned and the money quit coming in, That is when she decided to leave.. Coincedence???? I don't think so... These are the kind of people that shouldn't marry..... If you are out for yourself and only yourself, you need to be alone!!! Oh. Ok |
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