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Topic: Marriage-Divorce Question
Angelface2000 Joined Mon 03/10/08 Posts: 1930	Fri 04/11/08 04:08 PM
90% of marriages in 2007 were people who met on the internet... I personally think people get married for the wrong reasons..then realize that they settled out of convenience... Where did you get that number? From a supermarket checkout magazine stand? no lol.. 20/20 was where I heard it...I figured it was a fairly reliable source....I was like wow people actually do meet their match on the internet....Hence the reason I joined this site....to see whats out there for me...

Angelface2000 Joined Mon 03/10/08 Posts: 1930	Fri 04/11/08 04:09 PM
Yes, we as a race of people have became more modern,,as OTHERS say, to new ideas and reasoning. SO,,,ALOT, want to run when they find a problem. Instead of WORKING on a fix for the problem.. The song, "Whats-Forever for"? Fits alot who want to quit, and the realilty of trying to make it work.... My two cents anyway... Not everything can be fixed. People don't change just because you want them to. So what do you do? Spend the rest of your life in total misery in a loveless marriage? That's what people used to do. Why is that considered a better alternative? I think it is wonderful that we have more freedom now and we don't have to stay locked in hell until we die. AMEN! anything can be fixed if you try and want it bad enough. love true love works thru all! What if the person you loved was hurting your child? Id kill him...

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Fri 04/11/08 04:12 PM
A lot of the time people get married for the wrong reasons; fear of being alone, stability, convenience, etc. If people married for love, real love then I do believe that more marriages would last. I was married three times and two beat me and one cheated on me and I won't tolerate either action by a man Some men don't have a clue what forever and love mean (and before you jump) some women don't either. Both parties need to understand what honesty and faithfulness mean and we wouldn't have such a high divorce rate. i think you got one of the best answers here And I still believe "no company is better than the wrong company" I don't know if you can blame the divorce rate on "getting married for the wrong reasons". Up until about 50 or so years ago, most marriages were arranged and neither bride nor groom had much say in the matter. How many of you would be willing to let your parents choose your mate? i would! in the end they no best! i used to not think so but what they tell me always sooner or later comes to pass

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/11/08 04:15 PM
Yes, we as a race of people have became more modern,,as OTHERS say, to new ideas and reasoning. SO,,,ALOT, want to run when they find a problem. Instead of WORKING on a fix for the problem.. The song, "Whats-Forever for"? Fits alot who want to quit, and the realilty of trying to make it work.... My two cents anyway... Not everything can be fixed. People don't change just because you want them to. So what do you do? Spend the rest of your life in total misery in a loveless marriage? That's what people used to do. Why is that considered a better alternative? I think it is wonderful that we have more freedom now and we don't have to stay locked in hell until we die. AMEN! anything can be fixed if you try and want it bad enough. love true love works thru all! that's fine but what if your spouse does not love you? what if there is no love?

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Fri 04/11/08 04:15 PM
Yes, we as a race of people have became more modern,,as OTHERS say, to new ideas and reasoning. SO,,,ALOT, want to run when they find a problem. Instead of WORKING on a fix for the problem.. The song, "Whats-Forever for"? Fits alot who want to quit, and the realilty of trying to make it work.... My two cents anyway... Not everything can be fixed. People don't change just because you want them to. So what do you do? Spend the rest of your life in total misery in a loveless marriage? That's what people used to do. Why is that considered a better alternative? I think it is wonderful that we have more freedom now and we don't have to stay locked in hell until we die. AMEN! anything can be fixed if you try and want it bad enough. love true love works thru all! What if the person you loved was hurting your child? both need to want and try or its useless, you also need to use the brain god gave you

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/11/08 04:16 PM
Yes, we as a race of people have became more modern,,as OTHERS say, to new ideas and reasoning. SO,,,ALOT, want to run when they find a problem. Instead of WORKING on a fix for the problem.. The song, "Whats-Forever for"? Fits alot who want to quit, and the realilty of trying to make it work.... My two cents anyway... Not everything can be fixed. People don't change just because you want them to. So what do you do? Spend the rest of your life in total misery in a loveless marriage? That's what people used to do. Why is that considered a better alternative? I think it is wonderful that we have more freedom now and we don't have to stay locked in hell until we die. AMEN! anything can be fixed if you try and want it bad enough. love true love works thru all! What if the person you loved was hurting your child? both need to want and try or its useless, you also need to use the brain god gave you I missed the part where you answered her question.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Fri 04/11/08 04:18 PM
It seems that in our society divorces are up, higher than they were in 70s,80s,etc. I know that in some abusive marriages divorce is needed. But it seems like celebrating 25th or 30th Wedding aniversaries is a thing of the past. My grandparents were married for 63 years. SO MY QUESTION......Do you think that thru the years we have lost the "til death do us part" motto? Is it just too easy to walk away from a frustration instead of trying to work it out? Do you think people marry for real love or because they are infactuated then when it wears off, they are miserable and divorce??? Just thought that these questions might pose for a good discussion. No answer is right or wrong...just curious about your take on this.....Teresa Ive never even been married and Ive given up on it

belledimanche Joined Sun 11/18/07 Posts: 382	Fri 04/11/08 04:18 PM
Yes, we as a race of people have became more modern,,as OTHERS say, to new ideas and reasoning. SO,,,ALOT, want to run when they find a problem. Instead of WORKING on a fix for the problem.. The song, "Whats-Forever for"? Fits alot who want to quit, and the realilty of trying to make it work.... My two cents anyway... Not everything can be fixed. People don't change just because you want them to. So what do you do? Spend the rest of your life in total misery in a loveless marriage? That's what people used to do. Why is that considered a better alternative? I think it is wonderful that we have more freedom now and we don't have to stay locked in hell until we die. AMEN! anything can be fixed if you try and want it bad enough. love true love works thru all! What if the person you loved was hurting your child? both need to want and try or its useless, you also need to use the brain god gave you I missed the part where you answered her question. Yea...What if someone hurt your kid...what then bud?

Angelface2000 Joined Mon 03/10/08 Posts: 1930	Fri 04/11/08 04:20 PM
Yes, we as a race of people have became more modern,,as OTHERS say, to new ideas and reasoning. SO,,,ALOT, want to run when they find a problem. Instead of WORKING on a fix for the problem.. The song, "Whats-Forever for"? Fits alot who want to quit, and the realilty of trying to make it work.... My two cents anyway... Not everything can be fixed. People don't change just because you want them to. So what do you do? Spend the rest of your life in total misery in a loveless marriage? That's what people used to do. Why is that considered a better alternative? I think it is wonderful that we have more freedom now and we don't have to stay locked in hell until we die. AMEN! anything can be fixed if you try and want it bad enough. love true love works thru all! What if the person you loved was hurting your child? both need to want and try or its useless, you also need to use the brain god gave you I missed the part where you answered her question. You are ruthless....and...I love it!

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Fri 04/11/08 04:20 PM
Yes, we as a race of people have became more modern,,as OTHERS say, to new ideas and reasoning. SO,,,ALOT, want to run when they find a problem. Instead of WORKING on a fix for the problem.. The song, "Whats-Forever for"? Fits alot who want to quit, and the realilty of trying to make it work.... My two cents anyway... Not everything can be fixed. People don't change just because you want them to. So what do you do? Spend the rest of your life in total misery in a loveless marriage? That's what people used to do. Why is that considered a better alternative? I think it is wonderful that we have more freedom now and we don't have to stay locked in hell until we die. AMEN! anything can be fixed if you try and want it bad enough. love true love works thru all! that's fine but what if your spouse does not love you? what if there is no love? like i said both parties need to have self control and try, if they dont and you have used your brain then divorce then is the way to go

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Fri 04/11/08 04:21 PM
Yes, we as a race of people have became more modern,,as OTHERS say, to new ideas and reasoning. SO,,,ALOT, want to run when they find a problem. Instead of WORKING on a fix for the problem.. The song, "Whats-Forever for"? Fits alot who want to quit, and the realilty of trying to make it work....which one? sory about that My two cents anyway... Not everything can be fixed. People don't change just because you want them to. So what do you do? Spend the rest of your life in total misery in a loveless marriage? That's what people used to do. Why is that considered a better alternative? I think it is wonderful that we have more freedom now and we don't have to stay locked in hell until we die. AMEN! anything can be fixed if you try and want it bad enough. love true love works thru all! What if the person you loved was hurting your child? both need to want and try or its useless, you also need to use the brain god gave you I missed the part where you answered her question.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/11/08 04:23 PM
Yes, we as a race of people have became more modern,,as OTHERS say, to new ideas and reasoning. SO,,,ALOT, want to run when they find a problem. Instead of WORKING on a fix for the problem.. The song, "Whats-Forever for"? Fits alot who want to quit, and the realilty of trying to make it work.... My two cents anyway... Not everything can be fixed. People don't change just because you want them to. So what do you do? Spend the rest of your life in total misery in a loveless marriage? That's what people used to do. Why is that considered a better alternative? I think it is wonderful that we have more freedom now and we don't have to stay locked in hell until we die. AMEN! anything can be fixed if you try and want it bad enough. love true love works thru all! What if the person you loved was hurting your child? both need to want and try or its useless, you also need to use the brain god gave you I missed the part where you answered her question. You are ruthless....and...I love it! Thanks - but as you have seen, I generally pay for it!

bad_girl Joined Tue 07/17/07 Posts: 67379	Fri 04/11/08 04:25 PM
I didn't say this was all the time just some of the time. And hell no I wouldn't let my parents choose my mate for me, who knows what kind of a mate I would end up with A lot of the time people get married for the wrong reasons; fear of being alone, stability, convenience, etc. If people married for love, real love then I do believe that more marriages would last. I was married three times and two beat me and one cheated on me and I won't tolerate either action by a man Some men don't have a clue what forever and love mean (and before you jump) some women don't either. Both parties need to understand what honesty and faithfulness mean and we wouldn't have such a high divorce rate. i think you got one of the best answers here And I still believe "no company is better than the wrong company" I don't know if you can blame the divorce rate on "getting married for the wrong reasons". Up until about 50 or so years ago, most marriages were arranged and neither bride nor groom had much say in the matter. How many of you would be willing to let your parents choose your mate?

mcdchaz Joined Mon 03/05/07 Posts: 117	Fri 04/11/08 04:31 PM
marriage sucks. there is no way 2 peoplegree on EVERYTHING.so if u cant ag can aree then u have to compromise.That makes NO ONE HAPPY. my motto if u are not happy GET THE HELL OUT

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Fri 04/11/08 04:34 PM
THIS is about the fifth time THIS has happened to me.. THEY, MODS, moved this post, the same time I posted to it,,,all my 15 minutes of writing,,,went out the window,,poof..... They need to WORK on that little issue,,,,,, My luck,,,,,

mcdchaz Joined Mon 03/05/07 Posts: 117	Fri 04/11/08 04:35 PM
SECOND I GOT TRIED OF BEING ACCUSED OF SHT WHEN ALL I WAS DOING WAS MAKEING MORE MONEY FOR US.marriage is a HUGE MISTAKE.

checkinout42 Joined Sun 08/05/07 Posts: 241	Fri 04/11/08 04:39 PM
I too think that divorce is a easy way out now. If there is abuse, addiction or bad stuff going on and the other person will not get help or change then get out. I ended up getting a divorce after I tried to work on it for many years. And dating now sucks.... it is so hard to find someone who can be honest and faithful. I just keep trying....

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 04/11/08 04:39 PM
THIS is about the fifth time THIS has happened to me.. THEY, MODS, moved this post, the same time I posted to it,,,all my 15 minutes of writing,,,went out the window,,poof..... They need to WORK on that little issue,,,,,, My luck,,,,, Well, it wouldn't happen if people posted to the correct forum in the first place. But whenever I say that people say "what difference does it make? I'll post wherever I want" As you have illustrated, it does make a difference.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Fri 04/11/08 04:43 PM
THIS is about the fifth time THIS has happened to me.. THEY, MODS, moved this post, the same time I posted to it,,,all my 15 minutes of writing,,,went out the window,,poof..... They need to WORK on that little issue,,,,,, My luck,,,,, Well, it wouldn't happen if people posted to the correct forum in the first place. But whenever I say that people say "what difference does it make? I'll post wherever I want" As you have illustrated, it does make a difference. I type really slow, I was in the post writing still, as they moved it,lol so when I hit post topic, it got lost somewhere in between ???? But I know what your saying to,lol

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Fri 04/11/08 04:48 PM
In today's world, it seems, all too often people seem to focus on their own agendas. In a marriage, two shall become one seems to mean that one of the mate's opinions or goals are more important than the other's. Whatever happened to the idea of becoming life partners? It seems that we forget this idea when we try to achieve our own goals and we forget that the other's are very important also. Partnerships do involve compromise and understanding that we also need to be supportive. If that were to stop and more focus is on one or the other's goals or ideals, we will stop growing as partners. It is very important to most to feel appreciated, if for no other reason, for trying. It is supposed to be working together and being supportive and when the feeling of "together" dissapears, so does the feelings and emotions that are the glue of any relationship.