Topic: Ladies....
Single_Rob's photo
Thu 04/10/08 10:12 PM
I stand by what I said. I don't care if it alters your opinion of me. I never presumed to know what you did or did not ask for in your divorce, but it sure seems to me that every woman in the world is fair in a divorce, yet somehow prenups are needed to keep peole from getting screwed. It is not a gender issue, if a woman i was marrying had more money than god I would have no issue signing a prenup. it has nothing to do with thinking something is doomed from the start. I am not the worlds most attractive man, and I am getting older. I know how I dress, what I drive, and how I live. I would have to be competely naive not to believe that a majority of the women attracted to me are attracted for reasons other than who I am inside

zanne46's photo
Thu 04/10/08 10:15 PM

If you fell in love with a fairly wealthy person, would you object to a prenuptial agreement? if yes, state a valid reason, and not just; "if he loves me it wouldn't be needed"


hmm..I think u jumped over my responce...

I actually agree and understand...


I must be getting old....laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

huh laugh :smile: :wink: flowerforyou

Lily0923's photo
Thu 04/10/08 10:17 PM

I stand by what I said. I don't care if it alters your opinion of me. I never presumed to know what you did or did not ask for in your divorce, but it sure seems to me that every woman in the world is fair in a divorce, yet somehow prenups are needed to keep peole from getting screwed. It is not a gender issue, if a woman i was marrying had more money than god I would have no issue signing a prenup. it has nothing to do with thinking something is doomed from the start. I am not the worlds most attractive man, and I am getting older. I know how I dress, what I drive, and how I live. I would have to be competely naive not to believe that a majority of the women attracted to me are attracted for reasons other than who I am inside


Rob, you know I adore you, but that's a sad sad statement, and I feel sorry for you to think that someone could only want you for your money.

However if you think like that, then it will make it so for sure.

I am sorry for whatever happened to you in your life to make you so angry at women. I hope someday you see that not everyone is a scammer.

:heart:

ellgee1976's photo
Thu 04/10/08 10:18 PM

You're darn right I am thinking material here, and so are all of you.


this was you presuming what i asked for in my divorce, material things


it has nothing to do with thinking something is doomed from the start.


it has EVERYTHING to do with dooming the marriage before it starts, there's no trust


I would have to be competely naive not to believe that a majority of the women attracted to me are attracted for reasons other than who I am inside


know who you're marrying before you marry them


prenups are needed to keep peole from getting screwed


prenups are used to guard assets from spouses that aren't trusted...period

Single_Rob's photo
Thu 04/10/08 10:20 PM


I stand by what I said. I don't care if it alters your opinion of me. I never presumed to know what you did or did not ask for in your divorce, but it sure seems to me that every woman in the world is fair in a divorce, yet somehow prenups are needed to keep peole from getting screwed. It is not a gender issue, if a woman i was marrying had more money than god I would have no issue signing a prenup. it has nothing to do with thinking something is doomed from the start. I am not the worlds most attractive man, and I am getting older. I know how I dress, what I drive, and how I live. I would have to be competely naive not to believe that a majority of the women attracted to me are attracted for reasons other than who I am inside


Rob, you know I adore you, but that's a sad sad statement, and I feel sorry for you to think that someone could only want you for your money.

However if you think like that, then it will make it so for sure.

I am sorry for whatever happened to you in your life to make you so angry at women. I hope someday you see that not everyone is a scammer.

:heart:
I am not angry at women at all, I jsut think it is ridiculous that a person sees a prenup as a recipe to fail. If you take something that did not belong to you from anyone else you go to jail, it is called theft. Who would want that which they did not help create? There is no defense to it, not in my opinion. It's alright this shot down the person I was interested in anyway, so be it.

Lily0923's photo
Thu 04/10/08 10:30 PM
I'm sending you a hug Rob... I think you need it.

People only think negatively about things when it happens to them, or that is all they see in their life.

The things I am touchy about are the things that have happened to me, it's called baggage. Everybody has it whether they want to admit it or not. Some deal with it better than others.

I hope you find what you are looking for. I hope you have a happy and fulfilling life. I hope you find the woman of your dreams and live happily ever after...with or without a prenup.

flowerforyou

FireOfThePhoenix's photo
Thu 04/10/08 10:35 PM
Come on.....there isn't any need to argue he asked for an opionion and there isn't any need to take this personal.

flowerforyou flowerforyou

Single_Rob's photo
Thu 04/10/08 10:44 PM
fop, don't worry about it. People with nothing have nothing to lose, and they don;t understand, it's fine. It is so easy to sit back and say that you don't need something when it isn't years of sacrafice, your sleepless nights, your blood, your stress. You sit around your house, hang out with your friends, go home every night and enjoy your life. I have given all that up for a goal, and nobody is going to take that away from me. I see the prevelant mentality out there now, and you know what, I appreciate it. This thread has done wonders to open my eyes, I should have posted it sooner. I am going to change my lifestyle. I am going to become the best playboy that I can be. it is painfully obvious that I will never have a relationship, so it's time to evaluate everything as a whole. Thank you so much.

Lily0923's photo
Thu 04/10/08 10:49 PM

fop, don't worry about it. People with nothing have nothing to lose, and they don;t understand, it's fine. It is so easy to sit back and say that you don't need something when it isn't years of sacrafice, your sleepless nights, your blood, your stress. You sit around your house, hang out with your friends, go home every night and enjoy your life. I have given all that up for a goal, and nobody is going to take that away from me. I see the prevelant mentality out there now, and you know what, I appreciate it. This thread has done wonders to open my eyes, I should have posted it sooner. I am going to change my lifestyle. I am going to become the best playboy that I can be. it is painfully obvious that I will never have a relationship, so it's time to evaluate everything as a whole. Thank you so much.


If that makes you happy, but you know it won't.....flowerforyou

hikerchick's photo
Fri 04/11/08 11:43 PM



How about this one from experience.....stupid d!ckhead blows a redlight and T bones your car. You are injured. Stupid d!ckhead says "sorry buddy, you're screwed because I got no auto insurance. Ha ha ha, whaddya going to do to me? That's right nothing." Wrong. Sorry Mr d!ckhead, upon further inspection you f*ck my lawyer finds out that you may not have auto insurance but you and your wife have joint homeowners insurance and the laws in my state jurisdiction state that I can sue your homeowners insurance which I do and win big on pain and suffering. Your homeowners insurance company is not too happy with you and cancel you. Two weeks later after your homeowners insurance gets cancelled, your house mysteriously gets arsoned an burned to the ground by the bikers freinds- ya know- the one you T boned at a red light- then laughed in his face? So now your house and every thing you owned is gone. Your car is wrecked. You are deemed uninsurable ever again by all insurance companies faster than a mouse click, your credit rating drops 500 points, you lose your job, you live now in a homeless shelter, and your wife divorces you and wishes she would have had a prenuptual agreement so she would have been protected against your stupidass actions. Ha ha buddy.


Well the bikers friends are kinda assholes then, if the homeowners insurance paid, why be so vindictive?
....and your point is? Ever had a ha ha buddy in your face while you're laying in the hospital. I'm getting sick of your bitter crap and your jabs. Wanna take me on? Cmon I'm ready. I've had enough of your meanness.


Right, because burning a house down is not mean.

hikerchick's photo
Fri 04/11/08 11:45 PM

Look I have sacraficed the last few years of my "non life" to be able to retire in two years. I have missed b-days, holidays, weekends out with friends, etc so I could have enough money to live out my life without worry, and do the things I want to. I'll be damned if I am going to marry someone, them divorce me 2 years later because they changed their mind and have to go back to work. F that, there is no way in hell I am going to be working when I am 40 and over, if that means skipping love, so be it. Nobody is entitled to that which someone else scaraficed to make BEFORE they were together, period, end of story. I don't care about two years of suffering with this ogrish boar, it is all lopsided blackmail


I agree with you 100% Rob.

I don't want anything that isn't mine. What I don't understand is all the people who do.

hikerchick's photo
Fri 04/11/08 11:49 PM
Edited by hikerchick on Fri 04/11/08 11:49 PM


you never truly know anyone besides yourself. If we did there would not be any divorces. You're darn right I am thinking material here, and so are all of you. If you didn't think material at all signing it wouldn't matter.


if i thought material, i'd have taken him for the house, his truck, and full custody of our daughter, i'd have proven him unfit intstantly with his abuse

i knew him well enough to know, that he wouldn't intentionally hurt our daughter, and needed a vehicle to come get her for visitation..so try not to assume you know wtf you're talkin about with your blanket statements rob, they're very unfair

i never thought of material when i got my divorce


But most guys aren't going to find a woman as sweet as you, hun. There are some real beyotches out there and people have to be careful.

Sassy_4u's photo
Sat 04/12/08 06:43 AM
Yes, I would sign a prenup.

For many reasons.

The biggest reason is to let him know I love him for him not his money or his material things.

:heart: flowerforyou :heart: flowerforyou

brooke007's photo
Sat 04/12/08 06:52 AM
Ive thought about the prenup thing, even discussed it with this chic at work last night, said she was engaged before and didnt want to sign prenup when her fiance wanted to protect family property. so they never got married..

its a piece of paper...means as much as the marriage liscense you sign!!
doesnt matter...

WHAT matters: the love, the honeymoon, the ring a person wears,and who it belongs to and where your heart is at everyday.


but then the papers that do matter....
JOINT freaking loans!!laugh





brooke007's photo
Sat 04/12/08 08:33 AM
lol,

just thinkin....

if a man can find a piece of paper to protect his money and his security....


Can their be an equal piece of paper to protect a womans body and heart???

wat do they call that??
Anyone??

PINKYBLUISH's photo
Sat 04/12/08 09:33 AM
Edited by PINKYBLUISH on Sat 04/12/08 09:33 AM

lol,

just thinkin....

if a man can find a piece of paper to protect his money and his security....


Can their be an equal piece of paper to protect a womans body and heart???

wat do they call that??
Anyone??



uummmm gr8 question...
laugh laugh

a prebodyheart something...drinker laugh

purplecat's photo
Sat 04/12/08 09:38 AM
only if he signed my prenup FIRST !!!laugh explode devil

zanne46's photo
Sat 04/12/08 10:18 AM
My feeling is...everyone...male and female have the responsibility to take care of their own hearts and body...

Hurt hearts have the ability to mend....otherwise we would all be dead...from broken hearts....

To not protect ones self of a life time of hard work....giving up so much in ones own life to either be the sole provider of ur children,,or for a future of a family or even ones own life as we age...in todays world i feel would be recless...

I understand....completely..the concerns the poster has....recouping isn't a fun possition to be in..

The beginning of my domino fall effect..was due to a man I married...after working so hard for 25 yrs..he wanted his own dream business...I stood by his side...never expecting...the unexpected...I was in a possition..to become the sole supporter now not only for me and my sons...but now for 5 ppl...

then with him in FLA..me in PA...me traveling..his business that had great potential..but the statistics of success are difficult with what he was doing...and then came the possesivness..the issolation...I ended the marriage...

but...I was already bankcrupt...

so now I sit day in and day out working in FLA away from my son..just to survive and provide....and my only social life at this time..is this f*cking computer...

So...u see when u loose everything from either someone elses mistakes..or from them taking from u etc...it's just not that easy to alway get back what u once had....

I could go on..but I again have a migraine..and I am getting pissed off...lol

have a great day everyone....

PINKYBLUISH's photo
Sat 04/12/08 11:40 AM

My feeling is...everyone...male and female have the responsibility to take care of their own hearts and body...

Hurt hearts have the ability to mend....otherwise we would all be dead...from broken hearts....

To not protect ones self of a life time of hard work....giving up so much in ones own life to either be the sole provider of ur children,,or for a future of a family or even ones own life as we age...in todays world i feel would be recless...

I understand....completely..the concerns the poster has....recouping isn't a fun possition to be in..

The beginning of my domino fall effect..was due to a man I married...after working so hard for 25 yrs..he wanted his own dream business...I stood by his side...never expecting...the unexpected...I was in a possition..to become the sole supporter now not only for me and my sons...but now for 5 ppl...

then with him in FLA..me in PA...me traveling..his business that had great potential..but the statistics of success are difficult with what he was doing...and then came the possesivness..the issolation...I ended the marriage...

but...I was already bankcrupt...

so now I sit day in and day out working in FLA away from my son..just to survive and provide....and my only social life at this time..is this f*cking computer...

So...u see when u loose everything from either someone elses mistakes..or from them taking from u etc...it's just not that easy to alway get back what u once had....

I could go on..but I again have a migraine..and I am getting pissed off...lol

have a great day everyone....


honey i was being silly w brooke.

but u know that i totally agree w u...flowerforyou flowerforyou

krazykitty323's photo
Sat 04/12/08 12:25 PM
yes,you marry for love not money. Money shouldn't even be a topic when discussing marriage