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Topic: long distance relationships
FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Wed 04/09/08 12:05 AM
They work if a number of different circumstances roll perfectly together...if the circumstances don't roll perfectly it will be temporary. (((fear))) I agree.. you have to be on the same page, wanting the same thing in a person and life.. (((Princess))) Will you be my long distance partner?

whatdoyaknow Joined Mon 01/28/08 Posts: 341	Wed 04/09/08 12:07 AM
Ok... I am throwing it up on the threads... do they work? had one in the past? what was it like? advice for individuals thinking about having one? whatever? I tried one for a year... hated it.. we lived about 500 miles apart. I moved to be with him, we got married and that didnt work either. I think if we would have lived in the same town longer, to date in real life instead of letters and phone we would have known that it would not have worked. I guess if you do NOT want to be close to the one you love it can work, but I like to snuggle and the phone or puter just don't cut it for me. Good luck

solidform Joined Fri 04/20/07 Posts: 100	Wed 04/09/08 12:17 AM
Bottom line they can last but require perfection (in a sense). Trust is a big one and this is usually the failure of a long-distance relationship, the other part is affection. If either of these variables roll uneven with each other you get failure. Long distance relationships are not logical because of this reason. agreed !!!!

yaya28 Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 1341	Wed 04/09/08 12:17 AM
Ok... I am throwing it up on the threads... do they work? had one in the past? what was it like? advice for individuals thinking about having one? whatever? I tried one for a year... hated it.. we lived about 500 miles apart. I moved to be with him, we got married and that didnt work either. I think if we would have lived in the same town longer, to date in real life instead of letters and phone we would have known that it would not have worked. I guess if you do NOT want to be close to the one you love it can work, but I like to snuggle and the phone or puter just don't cut it for me. Good luck I hear ya girlfriend! It's so hard with no cuddling!

Acousticstyle Joined Sat 02/23/08 Posts: 26	Wed 04/09/08 12:21 AM
a others have said, it really depends. I am talking to someone who lives about 6-7 hours away, which sucks but there is middle ground. The hard part is I am mostly a night person and she is mostly days so that makes talking very hard sometimes. The one real negative thing about them is, it gives you a different then reality view of what the relationship is going to be. And what I mean by that is, when you live far away and you see each other it is almost like a vacation. the time you spend tends to be much more precious. If you get to the point to where one of you moves closer to the other and live together then the relationship tends to change. The time you have together seems to be not as important simply because you are always around each other.

crafty_poet Joined Mon 01/07/08 Posts: 69	Wed 04/09/08 12:24 AM
My "Marriage from Hell" resulted from an LTR and there are some things to watch out forIn an LTR it is easy to believe a person really means what they say. There is no eye contact and it is hard to ask as many detailed questions using a computer. When you actually do meet the person, multitudinous conversations and feelings have already been built up and sex often comes pretty easily since so many bridges towards intimacy have usually already been established. The normal waiting/testing period is usually circumvented. In spite of a two inch thick set of printed emails and messages and countless phone calls we found there were a huge number of uncharted questions and answers, most of which required day to day interaction. If two people don't expect much of each other I suppose an LTR will probably work. If they have great expectations of each other they will most probably suffer from buyers remorse and the relationship will fail. I thinkmthe biggest mistake is to trust the LTR for establishing the relationship. Move close together but live apart for awhile and it will be much safer. Move in together or get married right away like we did and you will find a very real possibility for disaster. Two years and $20,000 bear excellent witness to the truth of what I have just said.

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 04/10/08 12:13 PM
They work if a number of different circumstances roll perfectly together...if the circumstances don't roll perfectly it will be temporary. (((fear))) I agree.. you have to be on the same page, wanting the same thing in a person and life.. (((Princess))) Will you be my long distance partner? Sure I will sweetie..

bad_girl Joined Tue 07/17/07 Posts: 67379	Thu 04/10/08 12:17 PM
I'm trying my first one now... It's hard but I feel that if you have open communication and truth between each other it will work. It has been hard not being around him, but I am sure in time I will be okay with him being where he is. And I can make time to go see him so that helps as well.

Jim519 Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 9203	Thu 04/10/08 12:20 PM
They work if a number of different circumstances roll perfectly together...if the circumstances don't roll perfectly it will be temporary. (((fear))) I agree.. you have to be on the same page, wanting the same thing in a person and life.. (((Princess))) Will you be my long distance partner? Sure I will sweetie.. Hey you

Jim519 Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 9203	Thu 04/10/08 12:21 PM
How about a long distance companionship rather a "relationship"??? I cant commit to someone long distance, just wont happen.

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 04/10/08 12:21 PM
They work if a number of different circumstances roll perfectly together...if the circumstances don't roll perfectly it will be temporary. (((fear))) I agree.. you have to be on the same page, wanting the same thing in a person and life.. (((Princess))) Will you be my long distance partner? Sure I will sweetie.. Hey you ((((Jimmy))))

UplandHunter Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 8066	Thu 04/10/08 12:21 PM
I think its like any other relationship at first...both parties have to open, honest and willing to make an effort... Sooner or later though there has to be closeness in person, so you can try to make it work... Maybe I will find that someone here or far away...but either way if feel they are right for me I will give it my all.

Jim519 Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 9203	Thu 04/10/08 12:23 PM
They work if a number of different circumstances roll perfectly together...if the circumstances don't roll perfectly it will be temporary. (((fear))) I agree.. you have to be on the same page, wanting the same thing in a person and life.. (((Princess))) Will you be my long distance partner? Sure I will sweetie.. Hey you ((((Jimmy)))) How is my Princess this afternoon?

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 04/10/08 12:24 PM
They work if a number of different circumstances roll perfectly together...if the circumstances don't roll perfectly it will be temporary. (((fear))) I agree.. you have to be on the same page, wanting the same thing in a person and life.. (((Princess))) Will you be my long distance partner? Sure I will sweetie.. Hey you ((((Jimmy)))) How is my Princess this afternoon? I'm ok.. How are you? You're off early today...

bttrflyv2 Joined Mon 12/04/06 Posts: 1880	Thu 04/10/08 12:24 PM
just like any other relationship..they all take work

Jim519 Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 9203	Thu 04/10/08 12:27 PM
They work if a number of different circumstances roll perfectly together...if the circumstances don't roll perfectly it will be temporary. (((fear))) I agree.. you have to be on the same page, wanting the same thing in a person and life.. (((Princess))) Will you be my long distance partner? Sure I will sweetie.. Hey you ((((Jimmy)))) How is my Princess this afternoon? I'm ok.. How are you? You're off early today... Yes I am, I made an executive decision today and LEFT! The weather is gorgeous here today!!! Merle can vouch for that! First day in a long time! Got the windows open, Pat McGee band jammin and cold beer in hand...kickin it!

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 04/10/08 12:37 PM
Well good for you.. Enjoy the day!!!

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Thu 04/10/08 12:39 PM
i'm going to bite my lip on this one Can I bite your lip next? I do believe they can work if great effort and compromise is made on both parts...

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 04/10/08 01:52 PM
i'm going to bite my lip on this one Can I bite your lip next? I do believe they can work if great effort and compromise is made on both parts... I agree Water...

bad_girl Joined Tue 07/17/07 Posts: 67379	Thu 04/10/08 02:12 PM
Yep I agree with jimmy it is gorgeous here. Windows and roof open nice and warm They work if a number of different circumstances roll perfectly together...if the circumstances don't roll perfectly it will be temporary. (((fear))) I agree.. you have to be on the same page, wanting the same thing in a person and life.. (((Princess))) Will you be my long distance partner? Sure I will sweetie.. Hey you ((((Jimmy)))) How is my Princess this afternoon? I'm ok.. How are you? You're off early today... Yes I am, I made an executive decision today and LEFT! The weather is gorgeous here today!!! Merle can vouch for that! First day in a long time! Got the windows open, Pat McGee band jammin and cold beer in hand...kickin it!