Topic: Why do Men do this to us?
Fade2Black's photo
Tue 04/08/08 06:47 AM

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oldsage's photo
Tue 04/08/08 06:56 AM
We aren't all that way, anymore than all women act the same.
Just go slow & be careful.
You can't be played unless YOU allow it.

Lily0923's photo
Tue 04/08/08 07:10 AM

We aren't all that way, anymore than all women act the same.
Just go slow & be careful.
You can't be played unless YOU allow it.



Sage you are a Sage indeed....

I'm not fond of a man pursueing more than one woman at a time. But "pursue" and talking are 2 different things. I talk to alot of people on here, and in real life. When I start feeling that I could possibly, maybe someday, kinda sorta could have feeling for someone... I ask.... If they say "yes, they are talking to more than one person" I cut em' lose. I'm not getting in the middle of anyone's happiness.... and I'm not about the "compete" for a man.... So that's my story.

unsure's photo
Tue 04/08/08 07:14 AM
OK I have to say that women do this also, not just men!!
I think maybe you just found out early in the relationship, if thats what you want to call it, that he is going to date around. I myself, see nothing wrong with dating around. I think you should have asked if this was exclusive. You don't know until you ask!! Did you ever discuss what your arrangements are? I think this whole internet thing messes with everyone's minds...you don't know what the other one is actually doing or who that person REALLY is. You can say and do what ever you want, who is really going to know?
Distance is a killer...there is no easy way to deal with the milage between two people that think they want to be together. I myself will never deal with a LDR ever again. I find that the outcome is just not good. Unless you are willing to relocate and you really have to meant it, its never going to work. You can not have a relationship with someone that lives 500 miles away....your heart just can't handle it!!
The best thing you can do right now is just move on!!! Don't be bitter about this guy and forget him!! Try to find someone who is closer to you and date someone in your area. Move on and this time ASK those questions about how committed you are!!

BlueskyJ's photo
Tue 04/08/08 08:55 AM
You can't be played unless YOU allow it.
I disagree, there is no protection for deception....i want to trust the other person....but some people are players or just don't communicte there true thoughts & feelings....when you think you might have something special developing & suddenly all communication ceases, that hurts....just don't take it personally & move on....obviously it wasn't meant to be

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Tue 04/08/08 09:03 AM

They sweet talk us, they sound like their the perfect guy, even though there is a distance problem. You can't seem to get enough of each other even though all of its been on the phone and he's willing to come down and visit and relocate possibly Everything seems wonderful, then he stops calling, and texting, even emailing. When confronted, he's not man enough to talk to me about it. I assume he was working more than one woman and he met one this weekend, and thats all she wrote. I wish he had the cohonies to tell me why and the truth.
Then Men wonder why we have trust issues. I'd figure at this stage of my life, the Men who gameplay had grown up.

Any comments, thanks!


It has happened to me as well.....unfortunately that seems to be the nature of on line dating.
Though I enjoy the male bashing.......broaden the mind a little...the women do it too!!!!!

hunter39m's photo
Tue 04/08/08 09:58 AM
Edited by hunter39m on Tue 04/08/08 10:00 AM
we are not all bad, maybe the majority of men are
but there is still some good and single men out there i know i'm one of them
you just have to be careful and use your common since flowerforyou

sleeplessingermany's photo
Tue 04/08/08 10:36 AM

They sweet talk us, they sound like their the perfect guy, even though there is a distance problem. You can't seem to get enough of each other even though all of its been on the phone and he's willing to come down and visit and relocate possibly Everything seems wonderful, then he stops calling, and texting, even emailing. When confronted, he's not man enough to talk to me about it. I assume he was working more than one woman and he met one this weekend, and thats all she wrote. I wish he had the cohonies to tell me why and the truth.
Then Men wonder why we have trust issues. I'd figure at this stage of my life, the Men who gameplay had grown up.

Any comments, thanks!




i know it hurts, but please be honest with yourself:

would you rather have a relationship with a coward or a man who knows what he wants in life and is brave enough to go for it?

all the best to you! flowerforyou


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Tue 04/08/08 11:35 AM

We aren't all that way, anymore than all women act the same.
Just go slow & be careful.
You can't be played unless YOU allow it.




drinker

SharpShooter10's photo
Tue 04/08/08 11:54 PM
I have tuesdays and thursdays put aside for playin women, other days i'm just talkingsmokin drinker bigsmile laugh drinker

bad_girl's photo
Wed 04/09/08 02:02 AM
Because some men are just idiots and just don't get it

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 04/09/08 05:37 AM
(((( Sharp .. Bad ))))

Look at you two posting side by side. It just brings :cry: to a girl's eyes :tongue:

no photo
Wed 04/09/08 06:30 AM
Wah wah f*cking wah

TakinCareOfBusiness's photo
Wed 04/09/08 06:49 AM
Fade2Blackflowerforyou drinker smokin

Morning alldrinker

franshade's photo
Wed 04/09/08 08:15 AM

I have tuesdays and thursdays put aside for playin women, other days i'm just talkingsmokin drinker bigsmile laugh drinker


wtg and fair too. flowerforyou

RicJL's photo
Wed 04/09/08 08:33 AM
laurieannk367:

You are so clueless that it took my breath away,
You are, without a doubt, the embodiment of the "dumb blonde".

I cannot believe that you posted what you did on a public forum...

Generalizations like yours are what spurs so many arguments on Forums like these.

Think 3 times before starting a new thread like this one, okay hon?

BlueskyJ's photo
Wed 04/09/08 08:44 AM

laurieannk367:

You are so clueless that it took my breath away,
You are, without a doubt, the embodiment of the "dumb blonde".

I cannot believe that you posted what you did on a public forum...

Generalizations like yours are what spurs so many arguments on Forums like these.

Think 3 times before starting a new thread like this one, okay hon?

Ric, starting out your post by insulting the Original Poster is more a reflection on you and your character than anything she said....
I fully 'get' what she was explaining because it just happened to me and I can tell you 'it hurts'...while she was somewhat complaining about men, that was not her message...there is deception and lack of communication from both sexes....and when people show themselves as not who they appeared to be, well, that just destroys all trust....Don't call her names like you did, it's your opinion & personally I disagree with you because i see her as a sensitive intelligent individual....when you insult someone you are reflecting your true character....

a good friend once told me, "i strive for kindness in any situation"

checkinout42's photo
Fri 04/11/08 07:23 PM
Glad you found out now instead of later. I've been played by the best on here... he was a dam god liar..... and I fell for it hook line and sinker. Even ignored the little voice that told me something wasn't right....

dilligaf1981's photo
Fri 04/11/08 07:35 PM
Not all men are the same.

And not all of us men understands the same question you asked.

Its not just the men, but the women two!

drinker smokin

Fade2Black's photo
Fri 04/11/08 07:37 PM


laurieannk367:

You are so clueless that it took my breath away,
You are, without a doubt, the embodiment of the "dumb blonde".

I cannot believe that you posted what you did on a public forum...

Generalizations like yours are what spurs so many arguments on Forums like these.

Think 3 times before starting a new thread like this one, okay hon?

Ric, starting out your post by insulting the Original Poster is more a reflection on you and your character than anything she said....
I fully 'get' what she was explaining because it just happened to me and I can tell you 'it hurts'...while she was somewhat complaining about men, that was not her message...there is deception and lack of communication from both sexes....and when people show themselves as not who they appeared to be, well, that just destroys all trust....Don't call her names like you did, it's your opinion & personally I disagree with you because i see her as a sensitive intelligent individual....when you insult someone you are reflecting your true character....

a good friend once told me, "i strive for kindness in any situation"


Good post Blue & the only arguments that will start is because of this guys post .. talk about mean. Geesh.