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Topic: Is it really better to...
AllenAqua's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:17 AM
have loved and then lost that love ? I mean...is knowing what your missing a good thing ?ohwell

ShadowLands's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:18 AM
Try it sometime. brokenheart

Lily0923's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:20 AM
Which came first the chicken or the egg?

Dragoness's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:20 AM
Depends on your attitude about life. If life experiences are what you value then yes it is better to have experienced love at least once in your life. If you value that which you can hold onto regardless of it's happiness then no it is not best to have loved and lost.

openheart45's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:20 AM
no...rather not have been loved at all...

italio69's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:22 AM

no...rather not have been loved at all...
i feel ya on thata one:wink: laugh

sexxyandsingle's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:22 AM
happy drinker happy drinker Life is to short, get paid get laid and have fun happy drinker happy drinker

AllenAqua's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:22 AM

Which came first the chicken or the egg?



but did the chicken feel a desperate sense of loss and aloneness after the egg was fried, is my question...:tongue:

Jillybean31's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:22 AM
I say yes...How else can you discover your own heart but to test drive it first?

AllenAqua's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:23 AM

no...rather not have been loved at all...



at this point, I tend to agree... kind of all feels like a waste now...

azrae1l's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:24 AM

have loved and then lost that love ? I mean...is knowing what your missing a good thing ?ohwell


well for starters i guess it would depend on rather it was even a "good thing". i've loved a couple of women and lost them and i can honestly saying knowing what i'm missing makes me the happiest man on the planet. as far as being better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all?

i'll take never having loved at all over having to be with them.....

AllenAqua's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:25 AM

Depends on your attitude about life. If life experiences are what you value then yes it is better to have experienced love at least once in your life. If you value that which you can hold onto regardless of it's happiness then no it is not best to have loved and lost.



probably a good answer...I guess it's all subjective...

lilith401's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:26 AM
Yes. Without a doubt. You remember the movie City of Angels? Where Nicholas Cage gave up immortality to experience love?

To never to have loved at all is to not have one of the greatest gifts bestowed upon us that we also have the grace of giving. To not have loved can make us bitter and lack empathy... It is rare that two people, unrelated to one another... can love without condition. Is is an awesome, stupendously wonderous thing.

To be loved that way, that great love... is to know security and comfort; passion and excitement. It is to know parts of you that you did not even know were there and to give of yourself without limits. It is a compliment and a push for you to strive to always be a better person. To live for another person's happiness in order to have it yourself. Passion, pleasure, knowledge, education.... all wrapped up in a tangled woven web of another's life. And to not doubt that.

Allen... of course. It is better to have loved, to have felt this love or to receive it... for an hour of a life than never before. It is what makes us human. bigsmile

AllenAqua's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:27 AM


have loved and then lost that love ? I mean...is knowing what your missing a good thing ?ohwell


well for starters i guess it would depend on rather it was even a "good thing". i've loved a couple of women and lost them and i can honestly saying knowing what i'm missing makes me the happiest man on the planet. as far as being better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all?

i'll take never having loved at all over having to be with them.....



I guess I feel the other way about that....unfortunatly...I still care about everyone that I ever cared for...

krazykitty323's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:27 AM
It is better to have been loved then to never have been loved bfore

Lily0923's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:30 AM

Yes. Without a doubt. You remember the movie City of Angels? Where Nicholas Cage gave up immortality to experience love?

To never to have loved at all is to not have one of the greatest gifts bestowed upon us that we also have the grace of giving. To not have loved can make us bitter and lack empathy... It is rare that two people, unrelated to one another... can love without condition. Is is an awesome, stupendously wonderous thing.

To be loved that way, that great love... is to know security and comfort; passion and excitement. It is to know parts of you that you did not even know were there and to give of yourself without limits. It is a compliment and a push for you to strive to always be a better person. To live for another person's happiness in order to have it yourself. Passion, pleasure, knowledge, education.... all wrapped up in a tangled woven web of another's life. And to not doubt that.

Allen... of course. It is better to have loved, to have felt this love or to receive it... for an hour of a life than never before. It is what makes us human. bigsmile


See now I saw that movie totally differently, Meg Ryan a heart doctor went places with this guy alone...(which is dumb, and she being as intelligent as she was should have known better) Then he defies his God for a woman, and God had the last laugh. He shouldn't have tested fate. She was taken from him, because of his behaviour. He thought it was worth it, but SHE lost her life because of it....

AllenAqua's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:31 AM

Yes. Without a doubt. You remember the movie City of Angels? Where Nicholas Cage gave up immortality to experience love?

To never to have loved at all is to not have one of the greatest gifts bestowed upon us that we also have the grace of giving. To not have loved can make us bitter and lack empathy... It is rare that two people, unrelated to one another... can love without condition. Is is an awesome, stupendously wonderous thing.

To be loved that way, that great love... is to know security and comfort; passion and excitement. It is to know parts of you that you did not even know were there and to give of yourself without limits. It is a compliment and a push for you to strive to always be a better person. To live for another person's happiness in order to have it yourself. Passion, pleasure, knowledge, education.... all wrapped up in a tangled woven web of another's life. And to not doubt that.

Allen... of course. It is better to have loved, to have felt this love or to receive it... for an hour of a life than never before. It is what makes us human. bigsmile



hmmmmmm... I guess I still need plenty of pondering time on that...I hear you and agree on some level, but I think I was a happier person before I loved...now I'm sooooo wary and unsure about people...no matter what they tell me or express to me...

lilith401's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:33 AM

hmmmmmm... I guess I still need plenty of pondering time on that...I hear you and agree on some level, but I think I was a happier person before I loved...now I'm sooooo wary and unsure about people...no matter what they tell me or express to me...


Allen.... did you learn anything about yourself during that relationship?

James4868's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:36 AM
Having been loved and lost it I rather it be that way so next time I know what it means and understanding what I'm feeling so I could fully appreciate it this time around if it happens to me again.

froglittlesis's photo
Mon 03/31/08 11:37 AM

Try it sometime. brokenheart


IT HURTS LIKE HELL WHEN YOU LOVED AND LOST THAT LOVE!!!!!brokenheart brokenheart brokenheart :cry: :cry: :cry:

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